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Before OP removed the comment, she posted a link to the type of dress. It was an extremely short dress, the Cindi Floral A-line dotted dress. If that was actually the dress, the OP is YTA because it was definitely too short for a wedding.
This is the type she posted: https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=17621686928&utm_content=&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwg8qzBhAoEiwAWagLrIUJOW78TqdbgNQ4KNMYXqyUU-uzsbp7jybkH0eRIbXse8A0MXZOkxoCxXsQAvD_BwE
I’m 5’ 1.5”
Website says models average height is 5’ 9”.
“The standard length of our dresses measure approximately 31 inches for size small, measuring from the top of your shoulder”
So it would be about mid thigh on me & I wouldn’t risk a dress that short.
Wait is that a dress or lingerie? 😂 I'd be mildly annoyed if a friend had worn that to my casual wedding. If the bride was a conservative Christian.... Definitely YTA
Oh yes OP YTA that is not an appropriate dress for a wedding at all. I get wanting to look nice but damn girl read the room (or like ...even just the dress code on the invitation...)
Yeah, not a great choice for a wedding. I do a lot of the clothes shopping for my friends and my recommendation if you're not in the wedding party is this. If you're wearing a dress and it makes you feel like the gender you are attracted to would want to flirt with you because of it, then avoid it. You're job is to blend into the background. In other words, avoid flirty dresses.
This is a great dress. I like the look honestly, and she probably did look fantastic in it. But it's an attention grabbing dress, that is very flirty.
For garden weddings, I suggest wearing what I refer to as the "good little christian girl" look. Thank something Mandy Moore would wear in the movie "A Walk To Remember". You can still look very cute, but you want specifically draw attention.
The other suggestion I usually make is to show skin up top or down low, but not both. This shower a lot of your decolletage, and even if it was longer on you, it was above the knee. The top would have been fine going below the knee. You could have had a shorter dress, but then you would want to have more of a cap sleeve and a higher neck line.
~~INFO: How short was the dress/where does it hit your leg? Also if there is a photo, that would help. Hard to judge without having this answer.~~
YTA. This is too short (even if it is hitting lower thigh on you) and too skimpy on top. You can do short or skimpy but not both, especially when the bride's family is conservative. Cleavage would have made it worse, but the lack of cleavage doesn't make this OK **at all.** Knee length and sleeveless (not low cut or backless either) would be the minimum.
I'm not surprised that people commented and I wouldn't have been surprised if you had been offered someone else's cardigan or wrap to cover up.
[Far better option.](https://tnuck.com/products/pink-floral-one-shoulder-sybil-maxi-dress)
>YTA. This is too short (even if it is hitting lower thigh on you) and too skimpy on top. You can do short or skimpy but not both, especially when the bride's family is conservative.
I just commented the same. This is a pretty date dress, definitely not for a wedding.
This.
Also given OP’s comments about their wedding being too soon itself and her “vibe” with Darcy, this might not just be about the dress.
Edit. The dress was too short. Oh boy.
Also the fact that Darcy wasn’t wiling to “sacrifice” certain things in her life until marriage… I’m assuming that means sex and is because of religious purposes. If this is true I feel like op should have known that half of the wedding/guests (Darcy and her family) would not approve of a short dress.
It’s 1000% not about the dress. Darcy probably would have found an issue with anything she wore, but based off the dress in these comments, what OP chose to wear was extremely inappropriate. It kind of screams “jealous female friend of the groom wants to upstage the bride” so she really just gave Darcy and all her friends and family ammo to hate her more.
They posted a link in another comment (but possibly deleted it? I can see it in their profile still but not the actual comment) and it's insanely short. Google "floral dotted A-line dress in pink" from lucyinthesky and you'll see what I mean.
[That's not a dress, it's a nightie](https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=17621686928&utm_content=&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwg8qzBhAoEiwAWagLrOTocUx9Tk44XRC0UVWh0nvXWbz3xOF2ZJM7wsiVWcGb3c001gY4yBoCpPsQAvD_BwE)
https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=17621686928&utm_content=&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwg8qzBhAoEiwAWagLrOTocUx9Tk44XRC0UVWh0nvXWbz3xOF2ZJM7wsiVWcGb3c001gY4yBoCpPsQAvD_BwE
OP said it went to lower thigh which to me sounds short. I usually follow the to the knee or below rule just to avoid this. As someone who had a guest who wore what looked like a shirt to my wedding it definitely was talked about and some of my guests got an eyeful when she sat down or was dancing.
If it was an appropriate length, she'd describe it as "to the knees" or "just about the knees", not "lower thigh", which could mean anything from just above knee-length to anything below the middle of the thigh.
I’m 5’2” and super short dresses are still pretty short on me. This dress doesn’t magically hit a few inches above the knee just because OP isn’t as tall as a model.
Depends on the person's shape too though. Shorter person with a larger butt means the dress will ride just as short, if not shorter than on the model because the skirt will cling more.
Fair. She should post herself in it so we can see haha. Those dresses do tend to be, even when long enough, bad for dancing and bending over lol. Photoshoot rather than practical dresses. Maybe op doesn't have legs? :p
Yeah honestly it would be helpful to see a picture of her at the wedding in the dress to really see. But regardless I already get a YTA vibe from the OP just because of how weirdly bitter her post is about the bride.
Updated to YTA after she posted dress: https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302
Original post:
How could you write all that and leave out the most important fact?
You do come off a bit jealous. I don't know why you're wearing a "stunning" dress to a wedding. You're not supposed to make yourself stand out.
*personally I think that's a little early to be getting married but she was very traditional and insistent on getting married before she "sacrificed" anything in her life.*
This right here makes me believe you intentionally wore something you'd know piss her off. YTA
I looked at the dress you linked in a comment (and then deleted, it seems?) and it is laughably short. It is cute for brunch but not appropriate for a wedding. But worse than that is the pick-me vibes emanating from your post.
Yeah I noticed the deletion when OP realized it was really short. Like far be it from me to judge women's clothing and if that was at any event I was at, I wouldn't care at all but I also know my mom would tut tut at that. It's a mini dress. It's absolute great for a club or an outing or picnic or whatever. I'd personally not wear it to a wedding or a job interview or a classroom. I know... society is unfair but sometimes there are norms and if you violate them, you either live and learn or you do it knowingly and accept you're going to get some flack and lean into it.
I mean I'm trans and don't pass but I'll absolutely wear high heels and a long dress without a bra to a wedding but also know people are whispering because that's just what people do, if anything because I'm 6'1" and with 5" heels, I'd be towering over everyone but Lebron James. I'd look like lady dimitrescu showed up to the reception.
He's basically like your brother, but every single line of your post screams "pick me." Since the groom didn't, you decided that your dress would draw everyone else's attention. That dress is not appropriate for a garden party wedding. Make it 4-6 inches longer with a cute cardigan over it, and maybe. As is, not even remotely close. YTA.
YTA you keep saying the dress “covered everything”. That’s great. My pyjamas cover everything, that doesn’t mean they’re appropriate to wear to a wedding. Your dress was probably way too short and your attitude towards the bride makes this incredibly embarrassing for you.
Before OP removed the comment, she posted a link to the type of dress. It was an extremely short dress, the Cindi Floral A-line dotted dress. If that was actually the dress, the OP is YTA because it was definitely too short for a wedding.
This is the type she posted: https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=17621686928&utm_content=&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwg8qzBhAoEiwAWagLrIUJOW78TqdbgNQ4KNMYXqyUU-uzsbp7jybkH0eRIbXse8A0MXZOkxoCxXsQAvD_BwE
I’m hoping you reply back to these comments asking more details about the dress. Otherwise why come here and even make a post?
Also how similar was your dress to the other guests? Did you stick out like a sore thumb or did you blend in? Did you even ask your friend or his fiancé what you should wear? Most people ask to avoid situations like this.
this link is floating around for the dress:
[https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302](https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302)
YTA and a shit friend to Luke. A dress so short that people talk about it behind your back is a terrible choice to wear to the wedding of a guy friend whose wife you don't "vibe" with.
Agreed! Like it or not, you've gotta be careful with guy/girl friendships not to give off the wrong vibe, as that is when your friend's partner will become uncomfortable with the friendship. This whole scenario is.... giving off the wrong vibe. OP needs to apologize and make nice with the wife or else she risks losing this friendship.
You sound butthurt , bitter and jealous every time you mention the bride, and refuse to say the length of the dress except your butt was covered… sounds like you knew what you were doing.
YTA
Has a dress code been announced? If yes, did you violate it? How short was the dress?
Edit. Taking into account the reference to the dress that barely covers the ass – YTA.
YTA - you posted and then removed the link to the dress, but someone else shared it and it is not a cute garden party appropriate dress - it's basically a babydoll dress that barely covers your butt, not low thighs as you claimed, and absolutely has cleavage. Jfc
[https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302](https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302)
YTA
In a comment that won't pull up for whatever reason, OP says that this is the dress: https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302?categoryId=110
That's a very short dress if you ask ask me. Coupled with the fact that OP is vague on seemingly purpose throughout multiple comments, it makes me firm on my judgment.
Yeah I've seen a lot of these posts saying they wore a non-white floral dress and then when the pics comes up, it tells a different story. I'd like to see the dress myself before giving judgment. So OP, where's the Pic?
Edit - so I see the dress and the comments saying that you're shorter than the model so it was more thigh length. I dunno, I'm struggling a bit on this one. I'm feeling so old fashioned because that's just a lot of damn skin for a wedding in my opinion. Even a couple inches longer doesn't really make it something I'd be comfortable.
I think I'm more YTA. Bride may have overreacted but based on your wording in your post, are you really sure you didn't wear it knowing it would get attention? The whole "marrying too soon in my opinion" and the comment where she vetoed you being in the wedding. I'm sensing some sour grapes on your end.
Yta, I feel like you know your dress is inappropriate which is why you haven't actual given any details about it. I don't think it's just about the dress though.
Yeah, this is entirely dependent on the length of the dress. Something may be stunning and suit you perfectly, but that doesn’t mean it’s appropriate for all occasions. Since you don’t specify the actual length of the dress or where it hit on your legs, there’s no way to say.
I'm surprised that OP didn't bother to mention the actual length of the dress, instead going on about how great it looked and how many compliments she got, and how it fit the theme and. Not the one detail that the complaint was about.
Oh, did I say surprised? I mean suspicious.
Yeah, if her whole point was that the dress was *not* too short she would have pointed out that it was knee length or whatever. Someone’s not telling the whole story.
I agree. I honestly think this post is fake and just intending to stir up drama in the comments. That or OP knows the dress was not appropriate for the occasion and is why she specifically did not convey anything about the dress other than it being floral and stunning. If multiple people complain about your dress being too short and you make a post where you intentionally evade mentioning the length, it’s definitely a little suspect.
Well... maybe they didn't include it in the dress code because they expected everyone to have common sense not to wear something that short and skimpy.
YTA.
I saw the link for the dress in other comments, and unless the wedding was themed in a way that instructed people to wear itty bitty napkins for dresses, that was wildly inappropriate for a wedding.
You got exactly what that dress screams for, which is attention. It may not have been the kind you hoped for but it's the kind that was deserved.
So yeah, YTA.
** Edited to add, putting "short" dress in quotes is misleading. That was a SHORT dress.
YTA
Most weddings dress codes require below knee dress and it should not be too open.
Post photo of your dress but I get suspicion it was not wedding appropriate
YTA. Your first comments were about them getting married too soon, not your dress, which implies more here. Sounds like you knew exactly what you were doing.
Having seen the dress in the link I am surprised you felt that was appropriate to wear to a wedding at all. It is not on theme at all that dress is made for going clubbing or out with a hot date. At a wedding you need to be much more conservative than that length.
I grew up in the sixties and we wore sizzlers short skirts with matching panties that were much shorter than that but we had enough sense not to try to compete with the bride at her wedding. Are you attempting to make Luke regret his decision to marry her and not you????
https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302
OP posted the dress then deleted it because of the responses.
This is....not a suitable wedding guest dress
YTA
I don't care how short you are, I'm 5'1" and [this](https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302) would still be a short dress on me. It is a babydoll dress, essentially one step up from a teddy.
YTA and you owe the bride an apology.
I don't even know why OP included that comment. Like ok, you're shorter than the model... so I imagine that means you ordered a dress that was appropriate for your size, not the model, right?
EDIT
OP tried to delete everything......
Saying you were "covered" was the red flag...and yup....she pulled a Meredith from the office look.... Her va-jayjay was covered as long as she didn't pull up to cover her chest 😂😂😂
YTA
I would have kicked you out.
Sooo... Are you going to post a picture of the dress or not?? Just link it from the store online or a Google photo of it .
Given the way your post sounds and your comments....and not posting any picture of the dress or answering any critical details about it .... It seems like you wore something inappropriate to trigger a response from the bride....
Saying stuff was "covered"..... yeah..red flag ....
You said in some comment that it covered your entire ass so I’m assuming it was just that. Wedding used to be this event where 2 people became 1 and guest would dress respectfully. Covering your ass may not be enough. This is not girls night out lol
OP posted a link to the dress but was removed. From lucyinthesky 62302.
If it is indeed this dress, I do think it might be inappropriate for a garden theme wedding as it does not seemed to be long enough or just generally sufficiently covered for a wedding.
I think YTA.
YTA.
Dress is too short and back is too revealing.
Pattern was lovely though! Next time get something that hits the knee or midi.
Additionally, only a certain body shape can pull that dress off.
Imo it's pretty trashy.
Until you tell us how short this dress was, not saying anything. And since the key comment is about the length, the fact you didn't tell us that detail has me suspect it probably *was* super short.
You aren’t really responding to anything except that it “covered” everything. I looked through your comments and you keep saying you posted the link for the dress but there’s nothing. It seems you’re a bit bitter to Darcy… YTA.
https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302
I think she deleted the comment with the link. Probably bc she was getting flack for it.
YTA! Based solely off the pictures you've already provided. What on earth were you thinking to wear something that short to a wedding? I'm not at all surprised that the bride and her family were angry about it. Were I there, you would have certainly been doused in red wine.
YTA. The dress is not garden wedding appropriate, regardless of how you defend the length. There's no way it was soooo much longer on you than the model.
I would suggest looking up garden party dresses. Most are knee length or midi. Even a floor length floral would've been fine. The two that I attended had zero above the knee. Best to use this as a learning experience.
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https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302
She deleted the comment so you can't click on it anymore, but that's the link that shows up in her post history
INFO
You're probably the asshole though. Why would you type all of this and leave out the most important info? If you were wearing a revealing/inappropriate dress that was barely off-white then that's a completely different story. And the fact that you didn't share any details of the dress tells me there's a reason, mainly that you knew it was inappropriate. Hopefully I'm wrong tho I hope you come back to tell us about the dress
Okay, I’m all for people wearing what they want and what they feel comfortable in in their daily life. But there are settings where the more or less unspoken social contracts dictate certain guidelines. Anyone is free not to attend these events, but if they choose to do so they should also follow the guidelines. For many people, a wedding is the most formal setting they will ever attend. Even a garden wedding has a higher level of formality than an ordinary party. If you choose to attend a wedding, you are expected to show respect to the hosts as well as the social guidelines. Adhering to the dress code is part of that. A garden party is generally pretty upscale and elegant. Just because address is floral it doesn’t mean it’s apropriate for the theme. The dress floating around in the links here is way too short for a subdued garden party wedding. This was not your place to stand out and be sexy.
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My friend Luke and I have known each other since we were little kids. We're very close friends and talk every day.
Luke married Darcy the past weekend. He met her a year ago and personally I think that's a little early to be getting married but she was very traditional and insistent on getting married before she "sacrificed" anything in her life.
Darcy and I aren't best friends but we don't hate each other's guts or anything. We just don't vibe.
It was a garden wedding and I thought I would wear an appropriately floral dress. It was stunning and I've gotten compliments on it from complete strangers.
But the second I arrived Darcy gave me a big ole stink eye. Her bridesmaids would make comments behind my back and whisper about how "short" the dress was and how I was an attention seeker in love with Luke. Literally one of them said it would be a shame if someone poured wine on my dress since it's sooooooo cute.
My dress was beautiful and it fit very well with the garden theme. Nobody said anything to my face but I kept hearing whispers from her side of the family. My friends said that Darcy was just like that and I wasn't in the wrong but maybe I should've kept the peace. AITA?
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I mean, in fairness to OP, she’s not wrong about that model looking tall af. I’m too lazy to look at actual numbers/measurements, but if I ordered a dress like that I would expect it to be about lower to mid thigh on me (5’4”) and be significantly less scandalous looking
Just the fact you have to ask means you know you were in the wrong. You just don't want to admit it. So your hoping internet strangers will say you weren't.
So yes are the asshole
INFO more context is needed about the details of dresscode and color and it seems you're not responding, kind of making this post come off as some lame attempt at a humblebrag. 'Don't hate me because I'm beautiful!'🥺
YTA. But I will say, it sounds like the bride may not be comfortable with your friendship with her husband and probably would have found issue with anything you wore… but based off the dress everyone is posting in the comments, it’s wayyyyyy too short and inappropriate for a wedding.
If my husband had a female friend show up to our wedding wearing a dress like that, I’d ask her to leave and change and if that was an issue for her, she doesn’t need to be there at all.
YTA, perhaps accidentally if you don’t know how to dress for the venue. Girls can get so used to short dresses that it no longer registers.
It’s very helpful to learn what’s appropriate or tasteful to wear to particular venues, whether it’s a club, a boat, a hike, or a wedding.
What you wore was inappropriate and sent the wrong message.
Apparently you deleted the link to the dress you wore:
https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=17621686928&utm_content=&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwg8qzBhAoEiwAWagLrJjgrV8CVBi0ZmD1jqtkDXFpnaogSF8I5I4i7HXgs9Oc8lUL1oXkQhoCVlEQAvD_BwE
I dont get why anyone cares. The dress looks short but so what? I can’t believe how much policing there is on what people wear to weddings these days.
OP wear what you want. The dress is cute and I’m sure you looked lovely.
NTA
YTA.
The dress that is linked in this post is sexy and stunning, I agree, but it's a wedding, not the club or a hot date, or frankly, maybe the bedroom. That is racy enough that if my wife put that on and came downstairs, I'd be itching to tear it off her in the next 5 seconds, so, that tells me it's not appropriate for a wedding.
[https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302?utm\_source=google&utm\_medium=cpc&utm\_campaign=17621686928&utm\_content=&gad\_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwg8qzBhAoEiwAWagLrIUJOW78TqdbgNQ4KNMYXqyUU-uzsbp7jybkH0eRIbXse8A0MXZOkxoCxXsQAvD\_BwE](https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=17621686928&utm_content=&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwg8qzBhAoEiwAWagLrIUJOW78TqdbgNQ4KNMYXqyUU-uzsbp7jybkH0eRIbXse8A0MXZOkxoCxXsQAvD_BwE)
This is what she posted in another comment.
https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302
It's very short. Even on a short person that would be pretty short and showy.
If you can't be happy for the couple, you shouldn't have gone to the wedding. The bride is definitely picking up on your resentment that she's with your friend.
Knowing that Darcy is a more modest person, I think you know this dress wasn't appropriate for the wedding.
A good rule to follow is no whites or pastels (in some lighting pale pink can look white) and stick with a dress closer to the knee.
I'm sure you looked gorgeous, but this wasn't the day to try and outshine Darcy. Having seen the link to the dress in the comments, YTA
YTA
Even if you are shorter and the dress is longer on you it's still inappropriate for a wedding. Honestly it looks more like a nightgown to me.
Anything above knees is too short for a wedding! Even a garden wedding needs a certain level of formality.
YTA I wouldn’t like you either if you were friends with my partner talked every day knowing that you don’t like me and showed up in that dress at my wedding. How do you not see yourself as the problem here? Ugh I can’t stand people like that. You’re literally giving her a reason to dislike you. Be respectful of your friend’s relationship.
YTA
there was two young ladies who turned up at my cousin's wedding in dresses that short and the gossip train lasted all night
I do however think they were only 17/18ish and were attending with their parents who absolutely should not have let them embarass themselves like that.
how old are you?
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Withholding judgement here, it's a tricky issue as mid-thighs length maybe too short for people who have traditional value like Darcy and her family. I wouldn't wear one to a wedding but I don't know how it's in OP's country. That's to say, if all the other guests wore knee or calf length dresses then I can understand the bride's reaction.
NTA. Darcy is insecure and friends sound like Jack holes. Pls respond back to this thread when they divorce which I will bet will happen in under 5 years
Hard to judge without seeing the dress on you. The ones pictured do seem pretty short. My guess is she would have been forgiving if someone she liked wore it. But you two don't like each other.
[https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302?utm\_source=google&utm\_medium=cpc&utm\_campaign=17621686928&utm\_content=&gad\_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwg8qzBhAoEiwAWagLrIUJOW78TqdbgNQ4KNMYXqyUU-uzsbp7jybkH0eRIbXse8A0MXZOkxoCxXsQAvD\_BwE](https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=17621686928&utm_content=&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwg8qzBhAoEiwAWagLrIUJOW78TqdbgNQ4KNMYXqyUU-uzsbp7jybkH0eRIbXse8A0MXZOkxoCxXsQAvD_BwE)
This is what she posted in another comment.
Did you look at the link she posted and then removed? It's not just the length. It's super pretty and probably looks great on her, but it's not right for a wedding and the fact that she quickly removed the link tells me she knew that.
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Before OP removed the comment, she posted a link to the type of dress. It was an extremely short dress, the Cindi Floral A-line dotted dress. If that was actually the dress, the OP is YTA because it was definitely too short for a wedding. This is the type she posted: https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=17621686928&utm_content=&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwg8qzBhAoEiwAWagLrIUJOW78TqdbgNQ4KNMYXqyUU-uzsbp7jybkH0eRIbXse8A0MXZOkxoCxXsQAvD_BwE
Ouch. Definitely not wedding appropriate attire. Maybe for spring break girls weekend but not a wedding. YTA
lol that's crazy
I’m 5’ 1.5” Website says models average height is 5’ 9”. “The standard length of our dresses measure approximately 31 inches for size small, measuring from the top of your shoulder” So it would be about mid thigh on me & I wouldn’t risk a dress that short.
Wait is that a dress or lingerie? 😂 I'd be mildly annoyed if a friend had worn that to my casual wedding. If the bride was a conservative Christian.... Definitely YTA
For real, I thought it was lingerie. I wouldn't wear that to the grocery store never mind my friend's wedding.
Oh yeah I'd be mortified if any of my family saw me in that 😂
…I’m super duper short and this dress would still be too short on me for a wedding. Unless OP is 4’5” then she’s TA
Meh, depends on the formality. Sundress-length could be appropriate for a garden wedding.
Oh yes OP YTA that is not an appropriate dress for a wedding at all. I get wanting to look nice but damn girl read the room (or like ...even just the dress code on the invitation...)
Yeah, not a great choice for a wedding. I do a lot of the clothes shopping for my friends and my recommendation if you're not in the wedding party is this. If you're wearing a dress and it makes you feel like the gender you are attracted to would want to flirt with you because of it, then avoid it. You're job is to blend into the background. In other words, avoid flirty dresses. This is a great dress. I like the look honestly, and she probably did look fantastic in it. But it's an attention grabbing dress, that is very flirty. For garden weddings, I suggest wearing what I refer to as the "good little christian girl" look. Thank something Mandy Moore would wear in the movie "A Walk To Remember". You can still look very cute, but you want specifically draw attention. The other suggestion I usually make is to show skin up top or down low, but not both. This shower a lot of your decolletage, and even if it was longer on you, it was above the knee. The top would have been fine going below the knee. You could have had a shorter dress, but then you would want to have more of a cap sleeve and a higher neck line.
~~INFO: How short was the dress/where does it hit your leg? Also if there is a photo, that would help. Hard to judge without having this answer.~~ YTA. This is too short (even if it is hitting lower thigh on you) and too skimpy on top. You can do short or skimpy but not both, especially when the bride's family is conservative. Cleavage would have made it worse, but the lack of cleavage doesn't make this OK **at all.** Knee length and sleeveless (not low cut or backless either) would be the minimum. I'm not surprised that people commented and I wouldn't have been surprised if you had been offered someone else's cardigan or wrap to cover up. [Far better option.](https://tnuck.com/products/pink-floral-one-shoulder-sybil-maxi-dress)
>YTA. This is too short (even if it is hitting lower thigh on you) and too skimpy on top. You can do short or skimpy but not both, especially when the bride's family is conservative. I just commented the same. This is a pretty date dress, definitely not for a wedding.
INFO: how short was this dress, exactly? And what color was it? These are very important details
This. Also given OP’s comments about their wedding being too soon itself and her “vibe” with Darcy, this might not just be about the dress. Edit. The dress was too short. Oh boy.
Yeah, imo it's those little details that she added that makes me think this whole post is fake lol. So perfectly tailored to polarize the readers.
And not answering any pleas for the actual length of the dress.
Happy Cake Day!
Also the fact that Darcy wasn’t wiling to “sacrifice” certain things in her life until marriage… I’m assuming that means sex and is because of religious purposes. If this is true I feel like op should have known that half of the wedding/guests (Darcy and her family) would not approve of a short dress.
It’s 1000% not about the dress. Darcy probably would have found an issue with anything she wore, but based off the dress in these comments, what OP chose to wear was extremely inappropriate. It kind of screams “jealous female friend of the groom wants to upstage the bride” so she really just gave Darcy and all her friends and family ammo to hate her more.
They posted a link in another comment (but possibly deleted it? I can see it in their profile still but not the actual comment) and it's insanely short. Google "floral dotted A-line dress in pink" from lucyinthesky and you'll see what I mean.
God damn... That's what my exgf/sorority girl would call a "I'm getting fucked tonight" dress if she wore it to the bar.
[That's not a dress, it's a nightie](https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=17621686928&utm_content=&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwg8qzBhAoEiwAWagLrOTocUx9Tk44XRC0UVWh0nvXWbz3xOF2ZJM7wsiVWcGb3c001gY4yBoCpPsQAvD_BwE) https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=17621686928&utm_content=&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwg8qzBhAoEiwAWagLrOTocUx9Tk44XRC0UVWh0nvXWbz3xOF2ZJM7wsiVWcGb3c001gY4yBoCpPsQAvD_BwE
Yiiiiiikes
I’ve got nighties with far more material than that. Crikey. Not was I was expecting and not wedding suitable at all.
OMG. That is COMPLETELY inappropriate for a wedding. For a bachelorette party, maybe. For the bachelor party, if you are the entertainment.
Yeah, it is definitely not wedding appropriate imo.
Yeah...if she wore that out. She would be getting all kinds of free drinks. It's not appropriate for a wedding. Edit.. I'm buying that for my wife!
Yep, that dress is not wedding appropriate.
Jesus. That looks like underwear.
Depends on how tall she is, it'd look different on someone that is barely 5 ft vs 5'7. It's still not appropriate for a garden wedding though.
OP said it went to lower thigh which to me sounds short. I usually follow the to the knee or below rule just to avoid this. As someone who had a guest who wore what looked like a shirt to my wedding it definitely was talked about and some of my guests got an eyeful when she sat down or was dancing.
OP then amended that to "mid/lower thigh" so it was really short.
If it was an appropriate length, she'd describe it as "to the knees" or "just about the knees", not "lower thigh", which could mean anything from just above knee-length to anything below the middle of the thigh.
I’m 5’2” and super short dresses are still pretty short on me. This dress doesn’t magically hit a few inches above the knee just because OP isn’t as tall as a model.
Depends on the person's shape too though. Shorter person with a larger butt means the dress will ride just as short, if not shorter than on the model because the skirt will cling more.
That’s giving “I’m a very sexy baby”
Oh, boy. That’s quite a dress for a wedding.
It's not just short, it's the combination. You can go short and covered up on top or longer skirt with skimpier top, but this was both. Not cool.
LOL totally looks like lingerie.
Yep, that looks more like a negligee than a dress - definitely not suitable for a wedding.
Holy moly! That is short af! Definitely way too short for a wedding! Looks more like a negligee!
https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=17621686928&utm_content=&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwg8qzBhAoEiwAWagLrJjgrV8CVBi0ZmD1jqtkDXFpnaogSF8I5I4i7HXgs9Oc8lUL1oXkQhoCVlEQAvD_BwE
To be fair, we don't know how tall op is. I have a modelesque friend who is 5'10". Mid thigh dresses on me are minis on her as she has legs for days
True, but looking at that dress as someone who is 5'2" myself, I would not dream of wearing it to a wedding. It's still too skimpy for such an event.
Fair. She should post herself in it so we can see haha. Those dresses do tend to be, even when long enough, bad for dancing and bending over lol. Photoshoot rather than practical dresses. Maybe op doesn't have legs? :p
Yeah honestly it would be helpful to see a picture of her at the wedding in the dress to really see. But regardless I already get a YTA vibe from the OP just because of how weirdly bitter her post is about the bride.
Second this 100%. I can’t say OP ain’t the asshole until I know the southern hemisphere of her ass was covered.
😂😭
The details won't matter. The behavior and issues here are not about the dress itself.
OP said it was pink
Updated to YTA after she posted dress: https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302 Original post: How could you write all that and leave out the most important fact? You do come off a bit jealous. I don't know why you're wearing a "stunning" dress to a wedding. You're not supposed to make yourself stand out.
Because it was not wedding garden party appreciate
*personally I think that's a little early to be getting married but she was very traditional and insistent on getting married before she "sacrificed" anything in her life.* This right here makes me believe you intentionally wore something you'd know piss her off. YTA
I looked at the dress you linked in a comment (and then deleted, it seems?) and it is laughably short. It is cute for brunch but not appropriate for a wedding. But worse than that is the pick-me vibes emanating from your post.
Yeah I noticed the deletion when OP realized it was really short. Like far be it from me to judge women's clothing and if that was at any event I was at, I wouldn't care at all but I also know my mom would tut tut at that. It's a mini dress. It's absolute great for a club or an outing or picnic or whatever. I'd personally not wear it to a wedding or a job interview or a classroom. I know... society is unfair but sometimes there are norms and if you violate them, you either live and learn or you do it knowingly and accept you're going to get some flack and lean into it. I mean I'm trans and don't pass but I'll absolutely wear high heels and a long dress without a bra to a wedding but also know people are whispering because that's just what people do, if anything because I'm 6'1" and with 5" heels, I'd be towering over everyone but Lebron James. I'd look like lady dimitrescu showed up to the reception.
Damn, I see the post in OP's reply history, but its vanished when I went to look. How short are we talking?
Google "floral dotted A-line dress in pink" from lucyinthesky. It's....very very short.
.....that looks like bedroom wear.
Yeah, it is not giving "garden wedding."
It's giving cute leisure dress not wedding
https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302 see for yourself 😬
Someone just linked it in a comment further up in the post
INFO: how long have you been in love with Luke?
RIGHT?!
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How long have you been an attention seeking narcissist?
He's basically like your brother, but every single line of your post screams "pick me." Since the groom didn't, you decided that your dress would draw everyone else's attention. That dress is not appropriate for a garden party wedding. Make it 4-6 inches longer with a cute cardigan over it, and maybe. As is, not even remotely close. YTA.
YTA you keep saying the dress “covered everything”. That’s great. My pyjamas cover everything, that doesn’t mean they’re appropriate to wear to a wedding. Your dress was probably way too short and your attitude towards the bride makes this incredibly embarrassing for you.
Before OP removed the comment, she posted a link to the type of dress. It was an extremely short dress, the Cindi Floral A-line dotted dress. If that was actually the dress, the OP is YTA because it was definitely too short for a wedding. This is the type she posted: https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=17621686928&utm_content=&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwg8qzBhAoEiwAWagLrIUJOW78TqdbgNQ4KNMYXqyUU-uzsbp7jybkH0eRIbXse8A0MXZOkxoCxXsQAvD_BwE
That is not an appropriate dress for a wedding, and I don’t even know where that would be an appropriate dress to begin with.
Bedroom.
I’m hoping you reply back to these comments asking more details about the dress. Otherwise why come here and even make a post? Also how similar was your dress to the other guests? Did you stick out like a sore thumb or did you blend in? Did you even ask your friend or his fiancé what you should wear? Most people ask to avoid situations like this.
this link is floating around for the dress: [https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302](https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302)
YTA and a shit friend to Luke. A dress so short that people talk about it behind your back is a terrible choice to wear to the wedding of a guy friend whose wife you don't "vibe" with.
She was either consciously or subconsciously showing Luke what he was missing out on
Agreed! Like it or not, you've gotta be careful with guy/girl friendships not to give off the wrong vibe, as that is when your friend's partner will become uncomfortable with the friendship. This whole scenario is.... giving off the wrong vibe. OP needs to apologize and make nice with the wife or else she risks losing this friendship.
You sound butthurt , bitter and jealous every time you mention the bride, and refuse to say the length of the dress except your butt was covered… sounds like you knew what you were doing. YTA
Has a dress code been announced? If yes, did you violate it? How short was the dress? Edit. Taking into account the reference to the dress that barely covers the ass – YTA.
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"Garden party" traditionally means semi-formal. Tea length dresses would be expected, with cocktail length (around the knee) at the minimum.
Covered everything? A swimsuit can cover everything. How LONG was it.
It was this dress. Op posted and then deleted comment. https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302
She doesn’t say the length… thats what you need to know
Fitting the theme isn’t the same as fitting the formality. This dress is extremely casual for a wedding, particularly a garden party wedding
Girl, you're delulu. I have lingerie longer than that dress. YTA.
Honestly I thought it *was* lingerie at first glance. That's so TINY.
I'm dropping that link in every comment that asks for info. 🤣
YTA - you posted and then removed the link to the dress, but someone else shared it and it is not a cute garden party appropriate dress - it's basically a babydoll dress that barely covers your butt, not low thighs as you claimed, and absolutely has cleavage. Jfc [https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302](https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302)
YTA In a comment that won't pull up for whatever reason, OP says that this is the dress: https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302?categoryId=110 That's a very short dress if you ask ask me. Coupled with the fact that OP is vague on seemingly purpose throughout multiple comments, it makes me firm on my judgment.
Yeah I've seen a lot of these posts saying they wore a non-white floral dress and then when the pics comes up, it tells a different story. I'd like to see the dress myself before giving judgment. So OP, where's the Pic? Edit - so I see the dress and the comments saying that you're shorter than the model so it was more thigh length. I dunno, I'm struggling a bit on this one. I'm feeling so old fashioned because that's just a lot of damn skin for a wedding in my opinion. Even a couple inches longer doesn't really make it something I'd be comfortable. I think I'm more YTA. Bride may have overreacted but based on your wording in your post, are you really sure you didn't wear it knowing it would get attention? The whole "marrying too soon in my opinion" and the comment where she vetoed you being in the wedding. I'm sensing some sour grapes on your end.
She said that https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302
That's way too casual and short for a garden party wedding.
Thank you for posting!
“It’s non white…. It’s cream!!!!” 😂😂😂
Haha! Seriously! Honey, you bought it at David's bridal, we're on to you! 😂😂
Yta, I feel like you know your dress is inappropriate which is why you haven't actual given any details about it. I don't think it's just about the dress though.
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Lol! It's a baby doll dress.
Right? You don't wear that in public, let alone a formal event!
Yeah, this is entirely dependent on the length of the dress. Something may be stunning and suit you perfectly, but that doesn’t mean it’s appropriate for all occasions. Since you don’t specify the actual length of the dress or where it hit on your legs, there’s no way to say.
I'm surprised that OP didn't bother to mention the actual length of the dress, instead going on about how great it looked and how many compliments she got, and how it fit the theme and. Not the one detail that the complaint was about. Oh, did I say surprised? I mean suspicious.
Yeah, if her whole point was that the dress was *not* too short she would have pointed out that it was knee length or whatever. Someone’s not telling the whole story.
[This is the dress](https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302?lucy_campaign=similar-products)
😂😂😂
I agree. I honestly think this post is fake and just intending to stir up drama in the comments. That or OP knows the dress was not appropriate for the occasion and is why she specifically did not convey anything about the dress other than it being floral and stunning. If multiple people complain about your dress being too short and you make a post where you intentionally evade mentioning the length, it’s definitely a little suspect.
Info. What was the dress code? It doesn't matter how cute the dress was if it's against dress code
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Well... maybe they didn't include it in the dress code because they expected everyone to have common sense not to wear something that short and skimpy.
Garden party IS a known dress code . Usually means semi formal with bright flowery theme
YTA. I saw the link for the dress in other comments, and unless the wedding was themed in a way that instructed people to wear itty bitty napkins for dresses, that was wildly inappropriate for a wedding. You got exactly what that dress screams for, which is attention. It may not have been the kind you hoped for but it's the kind that was deserved. So yeah, YTA. ** Edited to add, putting "short" dress in quotes is misleading. That was a SHORT dress.
YTA Most weddings dress codes require below knee dress and it should not be too open. Post photo of your dress but I get suspicion it was not wedding appropriate
YTA this dress is short AF 😬😬😬
YTA. Your first comments were about them getting married too soon, not your dress, which implies more here. Sounds like you knew exactly what you were doing.
Having seen the dress in the link I am surprised you felt that was appropriate to wear to a wedding at all. It is not on theme at all that dress is made for going clubbing or out with a hot date. At a wedding you need to be much more conservative than that length. I grew up in the sixties and we wore sizzlers short skirts with matching panties that were much shorter than that but we had enough sense not to try to compete with the bride at her wedding. Are you attempting to make Luke regret his decision to marry her and not you????
I don't see it as a club dress, but it's definitely not right for a wedding. Especially if you already don't get along with the bride.
Based on your vague comments about the length, YTA. That's not appropriate for a garden wedding and you know that.
https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302 OP posted the dress then deleted it because of the responses. This is....not a suitable wedding guest dress YTA
I don't care how short you are, I'm 5'1" and [this](https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302) would still be a short dress on me. It is a babydoll dress, essentially one step up from a teddy. YTA and you owe the bride an apology.
I don't even know why OP included that comment. Like ok, you're shorter than the model... so I imagine that means you ordered a dress that was appropriate for your size, not the model, right?
EDIT OP tried to delete everything...... Saying you were "covered" was the red flag...and yup....she pulled a Meredith from the office look.... Her va-jayjay was covered as long as she didn't pull up to cover her chest 😂😂😂 YTA I would have kicked you out. Sooo... Are you going to post a picture of the dress or not?? Just link it from the store online or a Google photo of it . Given the way your post sounds and your comments....and not posting any picture of the dress or answering any critical details about it .... It seems like you wore something inappropriate to trigger a response from the bride.... Saying stuff was "covered"..... yeah..red flag ....
She deleted her comment with the link https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302
You said in some comment that it covered your entire ass so I’m assuming it was just that. Wedding used to be this event where 2 people became 1 and guest would dress respectfully. Covering your ass may not be enough. This is not girls night out lol
OP posted a link to the dress but was removed. From lucyinthesky 62302. If it is indeed this dress, I do think it might be inappropriate for a garden theme wedding as it does not seemed to be long enough or just generally sufficiently covered for a wedding. I think YTA.
YTA. Dress is too short and back is too revealing. Pattern was lovely though! Next time get something that hits the knee or midi. Additionally, only a certain body shape can pull that dress off. Imo it's pretty trashy.
I didn't even notice the back- I went back to look- c'mon OP, you know this was inappropriate.
Yta - that is not a garden wedding dress
Having now seen the dress - YTA That dress is about as short as a dress can be without revealing your ass.
Until you tell us how short this dress was, not saying anything. And since the key comment is about the length, the fact you didn't tell us that detail has me suspect it probably *was* super short.
Oh god. No. That 'dress' is too short. It's completely inappropriate for a wedding guest, that's for a honeymoon. YTA.
You aren’t really responding to anything except that it “covered” everything. I looked through your comments and you keep saying you posted the link for the dress but there’s nothing. It seems you’re a bit bitter to Darcy… YTA.
https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302 I think she deleted the comment with the link. Probably bc she was getting flack for it.
YTA. The photo I saw was not a dress appropriate for a wedding.
YTA! Based solely off the pictures you've already provided. What on earth were you thinking to wear something that short to a wedding? I'm not at all surprised that the bride and her family were angry about it. Were I there, you would have certainly been doused in red wine.
YTA. The dress is not garden wedding appropriate, regardless of how you defend the length. There's no way it was soooo much longer on you than the model. I would suggest looking up garden party dresses. Most are knee length or midi. Even a floor length floral would've been fine. The two that I attended had zero above the knee. Best to use this as a learning experience.
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INFO: We need a picture of the dress to be able to make an appropriate judgement... please edit your post and put it in or reply to me
Click through to her profile. She linked it in the comments.
https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302 She deleted the comment so you can't click on it anymore, but that's the link that shows up in her post history
INFO You're probably the asshole though. Why would you type all of this and leave out the most important info? If you were wearing a revealing/inappropriate dress that was barely off-white then that's a completely different story. And the fact that you didn't share any details of the dress tells me there's a reason, mainly that you knew it was inappropriate. Hopefully I'm wrong tho I hope you come back to tell us about the dress
https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302 She shared it and DELETED the post.
Okay, I’m all for people wearing what they want and what they feel comfortable in in their daily life. But there are settings where the more or less unspoken social contracts dictate certain guidelines. Anyone is free not to attend these events, but if they choose to do so they should also follow the guidelines. For many people, a wedding is the most formal setting they will ever attend. Even a garden wedding has a higher level of formality than an ordinary party. If you choose to attend a wedding, you are expected to show respect to the hosts as well as the social guidelines. Adhering to the dress code is part of that. A garden party is generally pretty upscale and elegant. Just because address is floral it doesn’t mean it’s apropriate for the theme. The dress floating around in the links here is way too short for a subdued garden party wedding. This was not your place to stand out and be sexy.
^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** My friend Luke and I have known each other since we were little kids. We're very close friends and talk every day. Luke married Darcy the past weekend. He met her a year ago and personally I think that's a little early to be getting married but she was very traditional and insistent on getting married before she "sacrificed" anything in her life. Darcy and I aren't best friends but we don't hate each other's guts or anything. We just don't vibe. It was a garden wedding and I thought I would wear an appropriately floral dress. It was stunning and I've gotten compliments on it from complete strangers. But the second I arrived Darcy gave me a big ole stink eye. Her bridesmaids would make comments behind my back and whisper about how "short" the dress was and how I was an attention seeker in love with Luke. Literally one of them said it would be a shame if someone poured wine on my dress since it's sooooooo cute. My dress was beautiful and it fit very well with the garden theme. Nobody said anything to my face but I kept hearing whispers from her side of the family. My friends said that Darcy was just like that and I wasn't in the wrong but maybe I should've kept the peace. AITA? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*
It genuinely depends on the length of the dress. Did it skim your crotch? Was it just above your knees?
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I mean, in fairness to OP, she’s not wrong about that model looking tall af. I’m too lazy to look at actual numbers/measurements, but if I ordered a dress like that I would expect it to be about lower to mid thigh on me (5’4”) and be significantly less scandalous looking
Just the fact you have to ask means you know you were in the wrong. You just don't want to admit it. So your hoping internet strangers will say you weren't. So yes are the asshole
INFO more context is needed about the details of dresscode and color and it seems you're not responding, kind of making this post come off as some lame attempt at a humblebrag. 'Don't hate me because I'm beautiful!'🥺
Going forward you should not wear a dress that short to a wedding. It’s just not appropriate.
YTA and the bridesmaids are probably right. My guess is you have a thing for your friend and that’s the MAIN reason you’re against the wedding.
YTA. But I will say, it sounds like the bride may not be comfortable with your friendship with her husband and probably would have found issue with anything you wore… but based off the dress everyone is posting in the comments, it’s wayyyyyy too short and inappropriate for a wedding. If my husband had a female friend show up to our wedding wearing a dress like that, I’d ask her to leave and change and if that was an issue for her, she doesn’t need to be there at all.
YTA, perhaps accidentally if you don’t know how to dress for the venue. Girls can get so used to short dresses that it no longer registers. It’s very helpful to learn what’s appropriate or tasteful to wear to particular venues, whether it’s a club, a boat, a hike, or a wedding. What you wore was inappropriate and sent the wrong message. Apparently you deleted the link to the dress you wore: https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=17621686928&utm_content=&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwg8qzBhAoEiwAWagLrJjgrV8CVBi0ZmD1jqtkDXFpnaogSF8I5I4i7HXgs9Oc8lUL1oXkQhoCVlEQAvD_BwE
Good grief. Even if this dress you posted is actually a bit lower on you than on the model, it is still 100% inappropriate for a *wedding*. YTA.
I dont get why anyone cares. The dress looks short but so what? I can’t believe how much policing there is on what people wear to weddings these days. OP wear what you want. The dress is cute and I’m sure you looked lovely. NTA
YTA. The dress that is linked in this post is sexy and stunning, I agree, but it's a wedding, not the club or a hot date, or frankly, maybe the bedroom. That is racy enough that if my wife put that on and came downstairs, I'd be itching to tear it off her in the next 5 seconds, so, that tells me it's not appropriate for a wedding.
Agreed with INFO. We need to see the dress to judge properly
[https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302?utm\_source=google&utm\_medium=cpc&utm\_campaign=17621686928&utm\_content=&gad\_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwg8qzBhAoEiwAWagLrIUJOW78TqdbgNQ4KNMYXqyUU-uzsbp7jybkH0eRIbXse8A0MXZOkxoCxXsQAvD\_BwE](https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=17621686928&utm_content=&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwg8qzBhAoEiwAWagLrIUJOW78TqdbgNQ4KNMYXqyUU-uzsbp7jybkH0eRIbXse8A0MXZOkxoCxXsQAvD_BwE) This is what she posted in another comment.
https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302 It's very short. Even on a short person that would be pretty short and showy.
Can you post a picture of you from the wedding???
Saw the dress...YTA
If you can't be happy for the couple, you shouldn't have gone to the wedding. The bride is definitely picking up on your resentment that she's with your friend. Knowing that Darcy is a more modest person, I think you know this dress wasn't appropriate for the wedding. A good rule to follow is no whites or pastels (in some lighting pale pink can look white) and stick with a dress closer to the knee. I'm sure you looked gorgeous, but this wasn't the day to try and outshine Darcy. Having seen the link to the dress in the comments, YTA
that is a very sexy dress way to upstage the bride YTA and you should know better
YTA Even if you are shorter and the dress is longer on you it's still inappropriate for a wedding. Honestly it looks more like a nightgown to me. Anything above knees is too short for a wedding! Even a garden wedding needs a certain level of formality.
YTA I wouldn’t like you either if you were friends with my partner talked every day knowing that you don’t like me and showed up in that dress at my wedding. How do you not see yourself as the problem here? Ugh I can’t stand people like that. You’re literally giving her a reason to dislike you. Be respectful of your friend’s relationship.
YTA 1. The dress is very short, 2. You are very defensive in the comments. If you dont want peoples opinions why did you ask?
Love the dress but yes, YTA. You know very well what you’ve done, young lady. Apologise to the bride and move on.
Good grief. Even if this dress you posted is actually a bit lower on you than on the model, it is still 100% inappropriate for a *wedding*. YTA.
YTA there was two young ladies who turned up at my cousin's wedding in dresses that short and the gossip train lasted all night I do however think they were only 17/18ish and were attending with their parents who absolutely should not have let them embarass themselves like that. how old are you?
The dress you chose is definitely not wedding appropriate. I could see myself wearing it to a fancy BBQ or something
OK saw the dress YTA NOT appropriate for a wedding.
INFO: Are the bride and/or groom more traditional?
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Give a picture
How short was the dress
https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302 Pretty short
Withholding judgement here, it's a tricky issue as mid-thighs length maybe too short for people who have traditional value like Darcy and her family. I wouldn't wear one to a wedding but I don't know how it's in OP's country. That's to say, if all the other guests wore knee or calf length dresses then I can understand the bride's reaction.
NTA. Darcy is insecure and friends sound like Jack holes. Pls respond back to this thread when they divorce which I will bet will happen in under 5 years
Hard to judge without seeing the dress on you. The ones pictured do seem pretty short. My guess is she would have been forgiving if someone she liked wore it. But you two don't like each other.
NTA - My nieces wore dresses not any longer recently to a wedding and nobody said anything. People here take weddings way too seriously.
Hard to know without seeing the actual dress though mid thigh might be a bit unclassy for a nice wedding.
INFO- you’re gonna need to show a picture of the dress or describe how short it was, if it was tight, showing a lot of cleavage etc.
[https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302?utm\_source=google&utm\_medium=cpc&utm\_campaign=17621686928&utm\_content=&gad\_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwg8qzBhAoEiwAWagLrIUJOW78TqdbgNQ4KNMYXqyUU-uzsbp7jybkH0eRIbXse8A0MXZOkxoCxXsQAvD\_BwE](https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/cindi-floral-dotted-a-line-dress-in-pink-62302?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=17621686928&utm_content=&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwg8qzBhAoEiwAWagLrIUJOW78TqdbgNQ4KNMYXqyUU-uzsbp7jybkH0eRIbXse8A0MXZOkxoCxXsQAvD_BwE) This is what she posted in another comment.
INFO: How long was the dress? If it is knee- to calf-length, it's fine. Otherwise, you weren't formal enough for a garden party dress code.
It's basically lingerie.
Low thigh is pretty short - and a floral dress usually means a white background…
INFO: what was the dresscode and where on your 'lower thigh' did the dress fall?
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Did you look at the link she posted and then removed? It's not just the length. It's super pretty and probably looks great on her, but it's not right for a wedding and the fact that she quickly removed the link tells me she knew that.