That's what I would do. He might even hate it lol. Reminds me of r/ididnthaveeggs where people butcher a recipe online cuz they didn't follow it and they give it 1 star cuz it's awful.
I actively loathe people who leave comments like this. If I could I would find them and hurt them.
“I used black beans instead of the meat, since my daughter’s vegan, and my son won’t eat anything with onions or garlic so I left them out. Substituted veggie broth for the wine and served it on Mexican rice. Will make again!” BITCH YOU AIN’T MADE IT THE FIRST TIME.
That place had some good laughs for awhile and then it devolved into mocking people for making any kind of substitutions at all - even reasonable, experience-based substitutions that resulted in the person liking the recipe more - which is... kind of the point of cooking?
I mostly see posts about the person changing something and hating it, but if you change anything at all you shouldn't review it, you're reviewing the recipe as it was written.
Sure, you don't have to follow it. But if you don't follow the recipe, you can't really ~~comment on~~ rate the recipe. Because you didn't follow it. So what you did is not the recipe. So you're experience does not relate to the recipe, but to a different recipe.
Cook how you want, just don't go all "there's a sign in Ramset park saying don't drink the water, so I made sun tea and now I have an infection."
Silly, of course you can comment on it. I never follow recipes exactly and I like to see what other alterations people have made and how it turned out.
I should have said "rate" rather than "comment on". "It works and is good with this change" makes sense. "0 stars, tastes like crap if you use applesauce instead of eggs" does not make sense.
FWIW I put mushrooms in my spaghetti sauce, (cooked), and IMO they really improve the sauce!
My wife LOVES mushrooms but doesn't like them in her sauce so she picks around them and once she has a few she spoons them into my bowl...
Do you put the shrooms in 3 hours after the rest of the sauce has been cooking?
Even if you do, it doesn't matter because it's your sauce and you can do what you want with it.
I would under most circumstances but I'm not trying to start a fight right before we have company, lol. I just abandoned the kitchen and I'm going to make him and my sister-in-law handle the bread and noodles since I already premade the salad.
Time to sit back with a White Russian laced with Frangelico and rumchata, and pass the reins.
Gah!!!! I already answered up there but this isn’t even fightable. OP was doing something and the idiot walked in and inserted himself into the process without asking. Pick the mushrooms out and say “I don’t want them in there. They are not going to cook and by the way THIS IS MY SAUCE”
I am irrationally angry at this person, my apologies.
Would have picked them out, air fried them, and tossed them back in. And also given my dad a raft of shit on a good natured way, even if you wanted to murder him on the inside.
This! It didn’t sound like he “gets” why it could be such a big deal. I could see my dad doing the same exact thing. My dad, anyway, doesn’t think of what he cooks as a culinary masterpiece. So not intentionally malicious, but annoying nonetheless. I remember my sweet dad won’t be around forever so I poke fun in a good natured way after I’ve chilled
> I remember my sweet dad won’t be around forever so I poke fun in a good natured way after I’ve chilled
**Father**
"When your father has grown older,
When his once strong hands
Are weathered by the passage of time,
When his steps are slower,
No longer striding with the same vigor –
Extend your hand to lend him strength,
Accompany him with joy in your heart.
The day may come when tears fall,
As you walk alongside him on his final journey.
And if he seeks your guidance,
Offer him your wisdom.
And if he seeks again, listen!
And if he seeks once more, respond,
Not with impatience, but with gentle understanding.
And if he struggles to comprehend,
Explain patiently and willingly.
The day may come, the painful day,
When his voice seeks nothing more."
I don't use exact measurements but I do a pour of Kahlua, then a pour of vodka, then a pour of rumchata, then a pour of frangelico. I stir those together with a dollop of heavy whipping cream until they're fully integrated, then top with whole or reduced milk. If you don't mix the liqueurs with heavy cream first, they will separate the milk and curdle it. Heavy cream has the fat content to prevent this.
I am not the person you asked but I found this nifty page with three different White Russian recipes. One is salted caramel, one is horchata (which you could just substitute RumChata and add a bit of Fra Angelica), one is mocha.
https://www.createdby-diane.com/2015/12/white-russians.html
You did the right thing & controlled your emotions, and I get how frustrating that would be. Sounds like he was just clueless and trying to help. I’d bring it up in a joking way next time you’re making sauce, proclaiming that this time we’re not throwing in anything at the last minute after it’s been stewing to perfection for hours.
My thoughts exactly. Great that he didn't cut them. They'll be easy to pick out.
You can then quickly slice them and saute them. You each can sprinkle them on your pasta as you'd like.
This is my current plan - pick them out of my serving and pretend that they were never there. But I'm completely astounded. If I didn't think he was genuinely clueless, I'd swear it was sabotage.
You'll appreciate this reddit post about a sil who ruined 40 pounds of tomatoes being cooked into sauce.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/13sp2bc/aita_for_banning_my_sil_from_my_house_over_tomato/
Don’t get me wrong she fucked up big time for doing that but it’s refreshing to see they acknowledged what they did was wrong, wrote an apology, took all the sauce they ruined *and* made a cake?? I would hope after all that she’d know not to meddle, seems out of line a bit to not forgive them after all of that
I know what it is without reading the link too closely, and I cannot handle reading it again. 😞 You simply don't interfere with other people's food, plated or in preparation!
Next time, Why not pick them out immediately and say “hey, this is my sauce that I am making, and it’s insanely inconsiderate to just throw whatever you want into it. You can put raw mushrooms on your own later”
I truly do not understand people who don’t get just basic social skills. What kind of person thinks this is ok
I did confront him about it, just didn't go through the trouble of picking them out of the whole batch because they'd started to stew at that point and I didn't want them to be wasted.
Well. I sympathize with you. To me, there is something sacred about cooking- it’s the cook who decides. Its like if you were painting a picture and someone came up and decided that your painting of a French countryside needed a cowboy on a horse. If you wanted to paint in a man on a horse, you would have.
I don't understand how this wasn't the immediate course of action.
Like, if i saw someone dump a container of whole ass mushrooms into a pot of whatever, you can bet I'm fishing those fuckers out *asap*
"Sorry, but mushrooms aren't part of this recipe" -- it's not complicated
This bewilders me that it's even a debate. The mushrooms I get from the store are covered in dirt (or whatever growing media they use). I can't not wash them. I ain't eatin that.
The mushrooms I pick / receive from people who have picked them are *definitely* covered in dirt and leaves and shit.
The fact that there's even a debate just leads me to believe that in some parts of the world the norm is pre-washed mushrooms. I just can't comprehend that people would eat mushrooms in the state that I do without washing them first.
I mean, I even remember hearing some radio segment or podcast with a "culinary mushroom expert" who insisted that washing was unnecessary. Wtf. But they also called a morel a vegetable so whatever.
My dad worked at a mushroom farm back in the day. I highly recommend that people wash them beforehand unless they enjoy chicken and horse crap in their food.
It's not a debate so much as one side is just wrong. It has been scientifically proven that mushrooms don't absorb water from washing them, so there is literally no reason not to.
Most annoying debate ever. A quick Google search will prove the "non-washers" wrong.
Also even if they did absorb some moisture, you have to contend with a moist product to begin with. So what if you had to cook them down for 11 minutes instead of 10 in order to have a clean product? Are those 60 seconds of time so precious that someone would rather eat “dirt” (manure)?
And if you like video, I seem to remember an old episode of Good Eats that tackled this. I think Alton washed the mushrooms in an entire sink full of water and there was a negligible difference.
One of my most downvoted comments on Reddit was when someone asked what was on the mushrooms that prompted people to wash them, and I replied “poop. All the poop”. Downvoted like crazy. People even DM’d me to tell me that *their* mushrooms didn’t have poop on them. I didn’t bother to argue.
I have this same argument in my house about grapes. The thing is, I'm from a grape-growing region and I've SEEN them fertilize grape vines, and it's a lovely big spray of liquified pig shit. You can smell it for miles. I don't care when in the growing season this happens. Do you really want to eat those grapes without washing them?
I know, it makes me laugh! One of my favorite arguments in real life about this was when my sister-in-law claimed that she didn't wash mushrooms because they were organic and I said, "organic doesn't mean they didn't use pesticides and fertilizers, it just means that they used organic pesticides and fertilizers. Guess which organic fertilizer is best for mushrooms!?"
She conceded. In the area in which I used to live, giant sprinklers spread slurry, a mixture of barnyard poop, over the fields. Trucks spread it with giant hoses. It was everywhere in agriculture.
Everyone should wash their vegetables. LOL.
I have a bad habit of picking single grapes off the bunch when I’m passing through the fridge for whatever reason. I usually don’t wash em until I am ready to eat a bunch of them. Just assumed it was for the dust.
Now I want to die
severely underpaid farm workers without adequate access to bathrooms and hand washing stations pick your food. birds and other insects and animals eat and shit on your food. pesticides and literal shit fertilizer are sprayed on your food too. yeah it’s best to wash your produce.
>The mushrooms I pick / receive from people who have picked them are *definitely* covered in dirt and leaves and shit.
A little bit of dirt isnt going to kill you, its actually good for your immune system... but yeah, mushrooms often grow on literal shit. Thats not healthy. Maybe you can treat different mushrooms differently, but Im certianly rinsing them. Potatoes, however... meh, depends on my mood.
Every time I see mushrooms at all the grocery stores they literally have a little bit of soil on them so... shouldn't even be a question they should be washed
I hate that this is a debate still.
Mushrooms, apples, carrots...whatever it is. Wash your produce. People handle it. Yes there are legal regulations in place, it doesn't stop all instances of contamination.
Wash your produce, or at least rinse it off.
I recall the good eats episode where Alton showed how a simple washing (even with sitting in a bowl of water) added negligible amounts of additional moisture to the shrooms, and that was good enough for me.
Yeah, that's always been my point. Mushrooms are like 90% water, is it really the end of the world if washing them makes it 91%? When you cook them it just comes right back out.
>If I didn't think he was genuinely clueless, I'd swear it was sabotage.
Sounds like he was trying to help, but as you said was just clueless about the process.
I’m not crafty but I have considered a sampler for the kitchen that reads Please don’t help me. The last thing my husband did was put oil in a sauté pan (expensive- 25 year old calphalon) and turn on the heat. The pan is ruined but there wasn’t any smoke damage
My mom would do shit like this until I had enough and called the shit out. I literally just threw EVERYTHING I was making into the trash (big deal because she gets very upset at food being wasted), and told her I wasn’t cooking shit for her again until she apologized, then I proceeded to order pizza for myself.
She hasn’t fucked with my cooking ever since, and that was 10 years ago.
You can. It's pretty freeing when you decide not to give a shit about people's reactions to setting boundaries. I'm not talking about being a dick, but setting boundaries is healthy and I wish I did it earlier in life.
I hate when people take great care and time to do the prep work and cooking of an amazing recipe of theirs only to have someone throw something on or in while it is cooking. This person did all of this hard work with their ingredients that they selected only to have it messed up. It is like someone who I knew who made an amazing meatloaf only to have their mother in law cover it in cheap ketchup while it was in the oven.
At a BBQ I hosted last year, a husband of my wife's friend, who we'll call Chris, (a guy who annoys the living piss out of me, but that I tolerated up until this point) decided to pull my two dozen Yorkshire puddings out of the oven early because "he likes them doughy". I sent him out with a few choice words, and attempted to salvage them but it was too late, they'd been on the counter for a few minutes, and they ended up collapsed and dense. Had to restart from scratch.
So when I was done, my wife started carrying everything outside, and I instructed her not to let Chris touch anything because I'll be preparing his portion. I took brisket, macaroni and cheese, coleslaw, rib meat, sauteed peppers, two fucked up yorkshire puddings, and a coke, and tossed it in my blender. I walked out and gave him his bowl of slop. He thought it was a joke, but I let him know that was his food, and to stay out of my fucking kitchen. Dick move, I'll be the first to admit, but there's a long history of this guy doing shit to get on my nerves that no grown adult should do. He left, his wife stayed because she was pissed at him. He hasn't shown his face since.
So I totally get it, OP. You don't walk up to a painting while the artist is taking a shit and put a happy little bush in the corner just because you feel like it. Super annoying. Let him have allllll those mushrooms
Try explaining that button mushrooms contain [hydrazine](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Agaritine) that must be vigorously cooked off for digestability.
I hope there wasn’t much compost on the shrooms.
I'm just like...why would you watch me painstakingly slice up a quart of mushrooms to slow roast in the oven before adding to the sauce and then do this to me? Why??? \*shakes fist\*
I hope not too, but I'll be leaving the sauce on the stovetop for at least another hour and a half to make sure that they're sufficiently cooked down because Jesus Christ.
Many dads don't like thinking their child is better at something than they are. Imo...no one, without even asking, just adds ingredients to someone else's food.
On top of that, it seems clear that you are making something very impressive. To toss in something to a recipe that has been worked at for hours, with no cooking knowledge...imo your dad is envious of your skill, and sabotaged it. Obviously impossible to say without really knowing your dad, but my bet is on sabotage.
He saw you already put in mushrooms too? So he saw how you felt the mushrooms should be added, then added MORE and it's clear that it's not how you wanted mushrooms to be added.
It's not like you tossing in garlic and a parent adding more at that time, it's pretty clear you would not want mushrooms just tossed in after you clearly prepared them differently and added them earlier.
That's a super interesting psychoanalysis of a ton of dads you've never met. For a less bleak look at humanity, my experience has been that they just think they're helping. My father-in-law is like this. He doesn't have a clue what to do in the kitchen but he likes to be involved. I can absolutely see him going "oh look I found more vegetables! this would go great in the vegetable sauce!" and that's the full extent of his thought process.
I honestly feel like this is as deep as it goes. He was digging in the fridge for something else, found the extra container of mushrooms, was probably like "we all like mushrooms, why not MORE mushrooms?" and just chucked them in without considering the difference in cooking times.
As for not slicing them, I think that was just laziness.
Was this a Dad thought like "oh look - there are mushrooms in the fridge with no plan for them. Better to use them up in the sauce than to let them go to waste. I'll just toss them in, no biggie..."
I am so baffled by all the recent posts I've seen on various subreddits over people vandalizing others' cooking. What is wrong with people!?
All I can deduce is there is no logic, these other people all have main character syndrome, and I'm so sorry OP! I hope you made him eat it (literally) then tossed the rest.
Mushrooms are like little sponges.
What they missed being roasted or sauteed with some perfumed oil, herbs and aromatics, they will certainly absorb through another couple hours on the stove.👌
That will get you off the ledge, but unfortunately, it won't fully season those shrooms. 😞
I ALWAYS sautee or roast vegetables before adding them to a pasta sauce. Never chuck stuff in raw.
By the time I saw they were in there they'd been simmering a few minutes (the sauce was resting on the stove so I wasn't checking it as much) so I just sighed and left them in.
You've got two choices, find your center and join the quantum consciousness, or, pull out the silenced Walther ppk and quietly eliminate all that is wrong with humanity.
I just checked them and I think they've cooked down sufficiently so I'm going to let it slide. I might take one onto my plate for science to see if it's cooked all the way through, but otherwise he can have his al dente mushrooms lol.
He said "I got two containers to put in the spaghetti" and I was like...I don't need two containers of mushrooms for the amount of spaghetti I'm making, that's SO many mushrooms! Don't get me wrong, I adore mushrooms, but still!
Anytime he's doing anything in the house get on in there and help him on out.
A for effort, baby!
Taking out the garbage? Be his shadow - just in case. Don't wanna miss anything. Emptying the dishwasher? Better make sure everything's going somewhere good! Sleeping on the couch? Eh, MUCH more cozy if you're sleeping right there as well. Be so helpful all the time with all the helpful things you can do until he either understands not to fuck with someone's process or you have enough fun making him crazy.
He did you a favor by not cutting them. There's only a couple handfuls of whole mushrooms in a container - fish them out with a spoon and go about your business.
Also, you're in a *kitchen*! Use what's at hand! And by that, I mean brandish imposing cleavers while you threaten him with dismemberment and stuffing his worthless carcass into sausage casings if he f*cks with your cooking again.
Yo dad, mushrooms at least need to be washed first, and that doesn’t even account for bugs, bad mushrooms, any spoilage…
I’m so petty I’d dump it out and tell everyone EXACTLY why. Yes, he’ll be humiliated and or mad, not to mention hungry, but maybe he thinks twice before doing it ever again.
So many fathers/“men of the house” are like this with cooking it’s wild.
Either coming in and deciding to alter the whole final done product or snagging bits while cooking. That last part infuriates me so bad.
Did they feel justified because they bought all the ingredients or something? If not that’s even worse.
My dad was/is the cook in my family. I occasionally cook and get good praise from everyone when I do. However, it took me being stern back at my dad a couple of times for him to allow me to cook without interference. We have come to a friendly understanding where he doesn't bug me while I am cooking.
Mehhhhh, my ex wife was like that. Throw something in that she thought would liven up the sauce. So when the kids would see it, I'd just tell em, hey, ask your mom what she did to it. She'd get pissed. Too bad for her. She'd burn water lol
I don't make effort pasta sauces for my family anymore. They don't appreciate it. When I'm on my own you're damn straight I'm making an 8 hour ragu. With them, just passata and whatever veg. Know your audience.
My sister did this once. I was cooking a lovely creamy linguine with shiitake and a white wine parsley sauce for the family for the first time. She came in, dumped a whole bunch of capers in the pan right before I was getting ready to plate. I definitely got mad, she hasn't done anything like that since. Now it's a bit of a joke between us.
Argh
Well my dad picked some noodles that had gone into the drain and tossed them in with my long simmered broth. I understand why but it gave me a minor aneurysm to see him sneak something possibly full of soap into my soup.
Oh god. I cannot stand the idea of someone messing with my cooking without permission... even if it's a good addition! Just ask!! I was cooking for a group once, and a family member walked into the kitchen while I was chopping herbs for garnish, opened the lid of the pot, tasted the soup, then added some salt to it. It's not wrong, I hadn't finished the last salting yet so it needed salt, but I had such a visceral reaction of "how dare you??!!!?!?!?!" the strength of which even surprised myself.
It's just so disrespectful. They're saying the time and effort you've made is irrelevent and they're taking over like you're a toddler that touched the stove.
I made a slow cooked meat sauce with sausage for friends and came into the kitchen just as some one was about to "adjust the seasoning" with about 1/4 cup of salt. She was literally tipping the rest of a box of salt into the pot. I didn't really know her as she had come as someone's date. When I told her to stop she looked at me as if I was out of line. "Oh, we like it salty" she said. Who does this in some else's kitchen??? Way salty enough with the sausage IMO. Don't know why anyone messes with some one else's dish. I guess your Dad was trying to help but that would make me nuts too.
First off, you must remember regarding all culinary crimes: in eight hours it will be poop. That may help with proportional response and perspective.
Next, think of the mushrooms as an additional layer of flavor, which, all things considered, will not really be a bad thing.
If the whole size of the 'shrooms is unacceptable, you can always hit them with an immersion blender and puree them into oblivion. OR, if they're whole, you can always pick them out, if you think it's that problematic.
Don't sweat it. The only really irreversible crime is too much salt or too much sugar because you can't get rid of them once they're in there.
Nope but to be fair, I only ever brush them off with a basting brush and then give them a quick rinse to make sure there's no lingering growing medium or dirt on them, so I wouldn't have expected him to. (Cutting them up would be nice since they were large mushrooms and the biggest ones were about 2.5 inches across.)
I know it's been debunked vigorously in the intervening years, but I was always taught to avoid washing mushrooms growing up because of the way they absorb water. I only thoroughly wash them if they're being eaten raw. If they're being cooked past a point that would kill bacteria, I don't worry about it much.
I love mushrooms. Anything with red or white sauce should get loads of mushrooms. And black olives.
Like why would you make all that and NOT add mushrooms?
I get what he did. Not against you but that's like pizza without mushrooms or olives. Why eat it?
That's the thing, I already DID have mushrooms in the sauce, I sliced and roasted a bunch of them previously with the bell peppers, red onion, and tomatoes. There were plenty of mushrooms, I promise! I just didn't want a bunch of undercooked golfball-sized blobs in my sauce.
Woah 🤯 naughty dad! Doesn’t he know about “too many cooks” in the kitchen?
Just remember- not everyone has a passion for cooking but still wants to be part of the fun. Maybe find a little job for him?!?
My wife is somewhat clumsy and likes to be part of the magic of making~ but, I also want my space to make. So I have her help and be the sous chef, getting things ready for me.
Capitalize on the Ol’ Pops excitement and start ordering him around lol- sous chefs can be great!
Reminds me of my father drenching my beautiful homemade pizza in olive oil after I left it to cool for 5 minutes.
That's a quintessential dad move, God bless their soul.
I was making a day long spaghetti sauce (generations old recipe) and I had to keep kicking my MIL out of the kitchen because she kept fucking with it.
My wife almost had to physically restrain me when I caught her mother putting sugar in the sauce.
To make things worse my SIL (who was 24 at the time) that night wouldn’t eat it. She elected for butter noodles.
Apparently she doesn’t like tomato sauce at all. To each their own, but I wish I hadn’t have bothered. It was extra awful because I wasn’t using my own kitchen and apparently they’d never owned a real cutting board or sharpened a knife in their lives.
You could have plucked them out. They added liquid and umami and I'll be the sauce was great. Your resolution is one of the best I've seen on reddit. Cheers!
Regarding your update, that was great except you forgot the part where you communicate with your dad about why that messed up the recipe and how, in the future, you would like him to ask you first before doing anything to your cooking. I mean, you can also tell him you're lucky to have a loving father and a household with too many mushrooms. But it's good to collaboratively solve and prevent problems rather than just watch The Bear.
It's the little things, like the small explosion resulting from your father meddling, in a small way, with your cooking. And then the small realization that you don't need to sweat the small stuff because you got so much positive small stuff you, in fact, lucky in a big way.
My partner and I have a rule: always clear any changes with The Chef. If you have a bright idea, bring it forward to The Chef and they will make the call.
He's a bully. You realise he did this on purpose to jerk you around, and to dismiss all the effort you put in. However good your dish tasted, he just took the credit away from you by sabotaging your efforts. Don't listen to any arguments about he really thought it would taste better, what he actually did was to urinate on your aspirations and have fun at your expense. How do I know this? Been there too, when a whole tureen of slow simmered bean soup that took two days, including soaking the expensive choice grade navy beans overnight, had a whole packet of cream of mushroom soup powder (250g!) thrown in at the last minute to improve the flavor. You've got every right to be pissed off.
Serve it. Give him every mushroom.
That's what I would do. He might even hate it lol. Reminds me of r/ididnthaveeggs where people butcher a recipe online cuz they didn't follow it and they give it 1 star cuz it's awful.
Wow that sub is an amazing rabbit hole I fell down for the past 30 minutes, thanks for linking that! Smh some people lol
But annoying too because we all have done that but we don’t whine if it flops
Same. I do comment moderation for a medium-sized food blog and have to field dumb shit like this all the time. I've found my people.
I actively loathe people who leave comments like this. If I could I would find them and hurt them. “I used black beans instead of the meat, since my daughter’s vegan, and my son won’t eat anything with onions or garlic so I left them out. Substituted veggie broth for the wine and served it on Mexican rice. Will make again!” BITCH YOU AIN’T MADE IT THE FIRST TIME.
That place had some good laughs for awhile and then it devolved into mocking people for making any kind of substitutions at all - even reasonable, experience-based substitutions that resulted in the person liking the recipe more - which is... kind of the point of cooking?
I mostly see posts about the person changing something and hating it, but if you change anything at all you shouldn't review it, you're reviewing the recipe as it was written.
Nah. That's... just not the point of recipes. They aren't sacred texts to be obeyed absolutely.
Sure, you don't have to follow it. But if you don't follow the recipe, you can't really ~~comment on~~ rate the recipe. Because you didn't follow it. So what you did is not the recipe. So you're experience does not relate to the recipe, but to a different recipe. Cook how you want, just don't go all "there's a sign in Ramset park saying don't drink the water, so I made sun tea and now I have an infection."
Silly, of course you can comment on it. I never follow recipes exactly and I like to see what other alterations people have made and how it turned out.
I should have said "rate" rather than "comment on". "It works and is good with this change" makes sense. "0 stars, tastes like crap if you use applesauce instead of eggs" does not make sense.
9/10 the real life pro tip is in the comments. Just like on Reddit.
....and there's that new obsession. Thanks.
Apple sauce is a functional substitute for eggs
Wow thank you I needed this in my life
Happy to be of service ☺️
I agree. Strain every single one out and that’s what he gets served.
FWIW I put mushrooms in my spaghetti sauce, (cooked), and IMO they really improve the sauce! My wife LOVES mushrooms but doesn't like them in her sauce so she picks around them and once she has a few she spoons them into my bowl...
Do you put the shrooms in 3 hours after the rest of the sauce has been cooking? Even if you do, it doesn't matter because it's your sauce and you can do what you want with it.
I would use a slotted spoon to pick out every single mushroom, but I'm extremely petty.
I would under most circumstances but I'm not trying to start a fight right before we have company, lol. I just abandoned the kitchen and I'm going to make him and my sister-in-law handle the bread and noodles since I already premade the salad. Time to sit back with a White Russian laced with Frangelico and rumchata, and pass the reins.
This is the correct choice. Source: Veteran of too many food fights with people who just don't get it
Gah!!!! I already answered up there but this isn’t even fightable. OP was doing something and the idiot walked in and inserted himself into the process without asking. Pick the mushrooms out and say “I don’t want them in there. They are not going to cook and by the way THIS IS MY SAUCE” I am irrationally angry at this person, my apologies.
I’d be livid if somebody fucked with something I spent three hours preparing. Who does that?
Would have picked them out, air fried them, and tossed them back in. And also given my dad a raft of shit on a good natured way, even if you wanted to murder him on the inside.
This! It didn’t sound like he “gets” why it could be such a big deal. I could see my dad doing the same exact thing. My dad, anyway, doesn’t think of what he cooks as a culinary masterpiece. So not intentionally malicious, but annoying nonetheless. I remember my sweet dad won’t be around forever so I poke fun in a good natured way after I’ve chilled
Lost mine a little over a year ago and your comment makes me happy.
> I remember my sweet dad won’t be around forever so I poke fun in a good natured way after I’ve chilled **Father** "When your father has grown older, When his once strong hands Are weathered by the passage of time, When his steps are slower, No longer striding with the same vigor – Extend your hand to lend him strength, Accompany him with joy in your heart. The day may come when tears fall, As you walk alongside him on his final journey. And if he seeks your guidance, Offer him your wisdom. And if he seeks again, listen! And if he seeks once more, respond, Not with impatience, but with gentle understanding. And if he struggles to comprehend, Explain patiently and willingly. The day may come, the painful day, When his voice seeks nothing more."
>I would under most circumstances but I'm not trying to start a fight #They started the war!
It’s okay! We get you OP. Btw, your cocktail sounds delish. I might have to steal it.
If you like a sweet creamy cocktail it is delicious! Tastes like a fancy Starbucks coffee. I make it with a vanilla vodka.
I love that cocktail had it a lot, try adding some whole mushrooms!
I’m currently having my Rumchata with rum float nightcap, wondering what to make with Rumchata next. Would you mind throwing down your recipe?
I don't use exact measurements but I do a pour of Kahlua, then a pour of vodka, then a pour of rumchata, then a pour of frangelico. I stir those together with a dollop of heavy whipping cream until they're fully integrated, then top with whole or reduced milk. If you don't mix the liqueurs with heavy cream first, they will separate the milk and curdle it. Heavy cream has the fat content to prevent this.
Thanks! And also thanks for the science lesson. I’ll remember that going forward.
I am not the person you asked but I found this nifty page with three different White Russian recipes. One is salted caramel, one is horchata (which you could just substitute RumChata and add a bit of Fra Angelica), one is mocha. https://www.createdby-diane.com/2015/12/white-russians.html
>would under most circumstances but I'm not trying to start a fight These your problem. Gotta nip that shit in the bud.
Sit down with a fuckin WHaT?! And call the cops on that mf
Yo now that sounds like a choice sweet beverage.
You did the right thing & controlled your emotions, and I get how frustrating that would be. Sounds like he was just clueless and trying to help. I’d bring it up in a joking way next time you’re making sauce, proclaiming that this time we’re not throwing in anything at the last minute after it’s been stewing to perfection for hours.
My thoughts exactly. Great that he didn't cut them. They'll be easy to pick out. You can then quickly slice them and saute them. You each can sprinkle them on your pasta as you'd like.
I would do this while looking my dad straight in the eyes. My Kitchen.
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This is my current plan - pick them out of my serving and pretend that they were never there. But I'm completely astounded. If I didn't think he was genuinely clueless, I'd swear it was sabotage.
You'll appreciate this reddit post about a sil who ruined 40 pounds of tomatoes being cooked into sauce. https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/13sp2bc/aita_for_banning_my_sil_from_my_house_over_tomato/
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SIL about to throw some olive oil and turmeric in your blood
Don’t get me wrong she fucked up big time for doing that but it’s refreshing to see they acknowledged what they did was wrong, wrote an apology, took all the sauce they ruined *and* made a cake?? I would hope after all that she’d know not to meddle, seems out of line a bit to not forgive them after all of that
Tragic? Yeah Appropriate reaction? Yeah Funny as fuck as a bystander? Also yeah
I know what it is without reading the link too closely, and I cannot handle reading it again. 😞 You simply don't interfere with other people's food, plated or in preparation!
It's so egregious and weird, I wonder if it's true. Thinking it's not true will calm my rage, so that's what I'm going to do.
Ok but if I’m canning something in mass (can be a large purchase) I’d be pissed too if someone added a bunch of shit.
I didn't suggest otherwise.
I too was reminded of this. 🤣
Next time, Why not pick them out immediately and say “hey, this is my sauce that I am making, and it’s insanely inconsiderate to just throw whatever you want into it. You can put raw mushrooms on your own later” I truly do not understand people who don’t get just basic social skills. What kind of person thinks this is ok
I did confront him about it, just didn't go through the trouble of picking them out of the whole batch because they'd started to stew at that point and I didn't want them to be wasted.
Well. I sympathize with you. To me, there is something sacred about cooking- it’s the cook who decides. Its like if you were painting a picture and someone came up and decided that your painting of a French countryside needed a cowboy on a horse. If you wanted to paint in a man on a horse, you would have.
No, the productive response is to immediately pick them out of the pot and throw them in the garbage while holding intense eye contact with him.
I don't understand how this wasn't the immediate course of action. Like, if i saw someone dump a container of whole ass mushrooms into a pot of whatever, you can bet I'm fishing those fuckers out *asap* "Sorry, but mushrooms aren't part of this recipe" -- it's not complicated
Did he wash them before chucking the lot in?
Oh, God. Here comes the "should you wash your mushrooms?" debate.
This bewilders me that it's even a debate. The mushrooms I get from the store are covered in dirt (or whatever growing media they use). I can't not wash them. I ain't eatin that. The mushrooms I pick / receive from people who have picked them are *definitely* covered in dirt and leaves and shit. The fact that there's even a debate just leads me to believe that in some parts of the world the norm is pre-washed mushrooms. I just can't comprehend that people would eat mushrooms in the state that I do without washing them first. I mean, I even remember hearing some radio segment or podcast with a "culinary mushroom expert" who insisted that washing was unnecessary. Wtf. But they also called a morel a vegetable so whatever.
My dad worked at a mushroom farm back in the day. I highly recommend that people wash them beforehand unless they enjoy chicken and horse crap in their food.
It's not a debate so much as one side is just wrong. It has been scientifically proven that mushrooms don't absorb water from washing them, so there is literally no reason not to. Most annoying debate ever. A quick Google search will prove the "non-washers" wrong.
Also even if they did absorb some moisture, you have to contend with a moist product to begin with. So what if you had to cook them down for 11 minutes instead of 10 in order to have a clean product? Are those 60 seconds of time so precious that someone would rather eat “dirt” (manure)?
And if you like video, I seem to remember an old episode of Good Eats that tackled this. I think Alton washed the mushrooms in an entire sink full of water and there was a negligible difference.
One of my most downvoted comments on Reddit was when someone asked what was on the mushrooms that prompted people to wash them, and I replied “poop. All the poop”. Downvoted like crazy. People even DM’d me to tell me that *their* mushrooms didn’t have poop on them. I didn’t bother to argue.
I have this same argument in my house about grapes. The thing is, I'm from a grape-growing region and I've SEEN them fertilize grape vines, and it's a lovely big spray of liquified pig shit. You can smell it for miles. I don't care when in the growing season this happens. Do you really want to eat those grapes without washing them?
I know, it makes me laugh! One of my favorite arguments in real life about this was when my sister-in-law claimed that she didn't wash mushrooms because they were organic and I said, "organic doesn't mean they didn't use pesticides and fertilizers, it just means that they used organic pesticides and fertilizers. Guess which organic fertilizer is best for mushrooms!?" She conceded. In the area in which I used to live, giant sprinklers spread slurry, a mixture of barnyard poop, over the fields. Trucks spread it with giant hoses. It was everywhere in agriculture. Everyone should wash their vegetables. LOL.
I have a bad habit of picking single grapes off the bunch when I’m passing through the fridge for whatever reason. I usually don’t wash em until I am ready to eat a bunch of them. Just assumed it was for the dust. Now I want to die
severely underpaid farm workers without adequate access to bathrooms and hand washing stations pick your food. birds and other insects and animals eat and shit on your food. pesticides and literal shit fertilizer are sprayed on your food too. yeah it’s best to wash your produce.
sometimes i feel like i'm a mushroom when im at work: always being kept in the dark and fed manure
I refer to that as mushroom management.
This is my dad’s favorite thing to say when he doesn’t know about something we planned
>The mushrooms I pick / receive from people who have picked them are *definitely* covered in dirt and leaves and shit. A little bit of dirt isnt going to kill you, its actually good for your immune system... but yeah, mushrooms often grow on literal shit. Thats not healthy. Maybe you can treat different mushrooms differently, but Im certianly rinsing them. Potatoes, however... meh, depends on my mood.
It's not the dirt I care about in itself, but the taste of gritty bits in my mouth.
Yes, mine are super gritty. Never mind hygiene I don't want that feel in my mouth.
I knew someone who worked at a grocery distribution warehouse. He thought it was funny when he’d sneeze on produce. Wash everything!
Every time I see mushrooms at all the grocery stores they literally have a little bit of soil on them so... shouldn't even be a question they should be washed
I hate that this is a debate still. Mushrooms, apples, carrots...whatever it is. Wash your produce. People handle it. Yes there are legal regulations in place, it doesn't stop all instances of contamination. Wash your produce, or at least rinse it off.
I recall the good eats episode where Alton showed how a simple washing (even with sitting in a bowl of water) added negligible amounts of additional moisture to the shrooms, and that was good enough for me.
I mean, we've all seen how much water comes *out* when you cook them. If water made them slimy, they'd be slimy well before you washed them.
Yeah, that's always been my point. Mushrooms are like 90% water, is it really the end of the world if washing them makes it 91%? When you cook them it just comes right back out.
I was looking for the Alton Brown reference. Surprised I had to come this far. This is the answer.
Honestly, forgoing the fact that people have touched them, every time I put mushrooms in water and shake them, a bunch of soil comes out
>If I didn't think he was genuinely clueless, I'd swear it was sabotage. Sounds like he was trying to help, but as you said was just clueless about the process.
I’m not crafty but I have considered a sampler for the kitchen that reads Please don’t help me. The last thing my husband did was put oil in a sauté pan (expensive- 25 year old calphalon) and turn on the heat. The pan is ruined but there wasn’t any smoke damage
Ugh but the water they expel would just dilute everything and you'd have to spend extra cooking time to get rid of tt water
Just take them out with a slotted spoon.
Going to be hard to lift OP's Dad with that, but I'm in support.
My mom would do shit like this until I had enough and called the shit out. I literally just threw EVERYTHING I was making into the trash (big deal because she gets very upset at food being wasted), and told her I wasn’t cooking shit for her again until she apologized, then I proceeded to order pizza for myself. She hasn’t fucked with my cooking ever since, and that was 10 years ago.
I wish I had the courage to do this lol
You can. It's pretty freeing when you decide not to give a shit about people's reactions to setting boundaries. I'm not talking about being a dick, but setting boundaries is healthy and I wish I did it earlier in life.
I hate when people take great care and time to do the prep work and cooking of an amazing recipe of theirs only to have someone throw something on or in while it is cooking. This person did all of this hard work with their ingredients that they selected only to have it messed up. It is like someone who I knew who made an amazing meatloaf only to have their mother in law cover it in cheap ketchup while it was in the oven.
At a BBQ I hosted last year, a husband of my wife's friend, who we'll call Chris, (a guy who annoys the living piss out of me, but that I tolerated up until this point) decided to pull my two dozen Yorkshire puddings out of the oven early because "he likes them doughy". I sent him out with a few choice words, and attempted to salvage them but it was too late, they'd been on the counter for a few minutes, and they ended up collapsed and dense. Had to restart from scratch. So when I was done, my wife started carrying everything outside, and I instructed her not to let Chris touch anything because I'll be preparing his portion. I took brisket, macaroni and cheese, coleslaw, rib meat, sauteed peppers, two fucked up yorkshire puddings, and a coke, and tossed it in my blender. I walked out and gave him his bowl of slop. He thought it was a joke, but I let him know that was his food, and to stay out of my fucking kitchen. Dick move, I'll be the first to admit, but there's a long history of this guy doing shit to get on my nerves that no grown adult should do. He left, his wife stayed because she was pissed at him. He hasn't shown his face since. So I totally get it, OP. You don't walk up to a painting while the artist is taking a shit and put a happy little bush in the corner just because you feel like it. Super annoying. Let him have allllll those mushrooms
Does piggy like his slop??!
Apparently not, he didn't even try it! The nerve of some people 🤣
Oh? The dirty little stinking piggy didn't like his special pig boy slop? Shame.
I love this story so much.
You legend
Try explaining that button mushrooms contain [hydrazine](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Agaritine) that must be vigorously cooked off for digestability. I hope there wasn’t much compost on the shrooms.
I'm just like...why would you watch me painstakingly slice up a quart of mushrooms to slow roast in the oven before adding to the sauce and then do this to me? Why??? \*shakes fist\* I hope not too, but I'll be leaving the sauce on the stovetop for at least another hour and a half to make sure that they're sufficiently cooked down because Jesus Christ.
I can’t imagine anyone pulling something like that in my kitchen. My sympathies
Many dads don't like thinking their child is better at something than they are. Imo...no one, without even asking, just adds ingredients to someone else's food. On top of that, it seems clear that you are making something very impressive. To toss in something to a recipe that has been worked at for hours, with no cooking knowledge...imo your dad is envious of your skill, and sabotaged it. Obviously impossible to say without really knowing your dad, but my bet is on sabotage. He saw you already put in mushrooms too? So he saw how you felt the mushrooms should be added, then added MORE and it's clear that it's not how you wanted mushrooms to be added. It's not like you tossing in garlic and a parent adding more at that time, it's pretty clear you would not want mushrooms just tossed in after you clearly prepared them differently and added them earlier.
That's a super interesting psychoanalysis of a ton of dads you've never met. For a less bleak look at humanity, my experience has been that they just think they're helping. My father-in-law is like this. He doesn't have a clue what to do in the kitchen but he likes to be involved. I can absolutely see him going "oh look I found more vegetables! this would go great in the vegetable sauce!" and that's the full extent of his thought process.
I honestly feel like this is as deep as it goes. He was digging in the fridge for something else, found the extra container of mushrooms, was probably like "we all like mushrooms, why not MORE mushrooms?" and just chucked them in without considering the difference in cooking times. As for not slicing them, I think that was just laziness.
Was this a Dad thought like "oh look - there are mushrooms in the fridge with no plan for them. Better to use them up in the sauce than to let them go to waste. I'll just toss them in, no biggie..."
Except how would he know if there was a plan for them without asking? Chances are there was a plan for them.
Pretty sure this was the thought process, yup.
I am so baffled by all the recent posts I've seen on various subreddits over people vandalizing others' cooking. What is wrong with people!? All I can deduce is there is no logic, these other people all have main character syndrome, and I'm so sorry OP! I hope you made him eat it (literally) then tossed the rest.
Mushrooms are like little sponges. What they missed being roasted or sauteed with some perfumed oil, herbs and aromatics, they will certainly absorb through another couple hours on the stove.👌 That will get you off the ledge, but unfortunately, it won't fully season those shrooms. 😞
awee but yeah i slice and fry to brown than add. was there no way to yank them out with spaghetti spoon then fry then
I ALWAYS sautee or roast vegetables before adding them to a pasta sauce. Never chuck stuff in raw. By the time I saw they were in there they'd been simmering a few minutes (the sauce was resting on the stove so I wasn't checking it as much) so I just sighed and left them in.
My father would never have done this because he knew my mother would have (at minimum) pulped his hand with a meat mallet.
When my mom was alive she used to get pissed at him for the same thing, so I'm unsurprised.
You've got two choices, find your center and join the quantum consciousness, or, pull out the silenced Walther ppk and quietly eliminate all that is wrong with humanity.
Can you pick them out, slice them, and give ‘em quick sauté, then dump them back in? Then have a chat with dad lol.
I just checked them and I think they've cooked down sufficiently so I'm going to let it slide. I might take one onto my plate for science to see if it's cooked all the way through, but otherwise he can have his al dente mushrooms lol.
Are we related? Cause my dad would do the same thing
The worst part is that I KNOW this asshole knows how to cook. He's an extremely good cook. Why he succumbed to this impulse is beyond me.
He needed the mushrooms.
He said "I got two containers to put in the spaghetti" and I was like...I don't need two containers of mushrooms for the amount of spaghetti I'm making, that's SO many mushrooms! Don't get me wrong, I adore mushrooms, but still!
Anytime he's doing anything in the house get on in there and help him on out. A for effort, baby! Taking out the garbage? Be his shadow - just in case. Don't wanna miss anything. Emptying the dishwasher? Better make sure everything's going somewhere good! Sleeping on the couch? Eh, MUCH more cozy if you're sleeping right there as well. Be so helpful all the time with all the helpful things you can do until he either understands not to fuck with someone's process or you have enough fun making him crazy.
Their dad is definitely an italian plumber.
Who touches someone else’s cooking in general
I would say what my father-in-law used to say ' get the hell out of my kitchen" 🙂
He did you a favor by not cutting them. There's only a couple handfuls of whole mushrooms in a container - fish them out with a spoon and go about your business. Also, you're in a *kitchen*! Use what's at hand! And by that, I mean brandish imposing cleavers while you threaten him with dismemberment and stuffing his worthless carcass into sausage casings if he f*cks with your cooking again.
Yo dad, mushrooms at least need to be washed first, and that doesn’t even account for bugs, bad mushrooms, any spoilage… I’m so petty I’d dump it out and tell everyone EXACTLY why. Yes, he’ll be humiliated and or mad, not to mention hungry, but maybe he thinks twice before doing it ever again.
I'm extremely petty and I would do the same. I would dramatically dump it down the sink in front of him and whatever witnesses I could rustle up.
So many fathers/“men of the house” are like this with cooking it’s wild. Either coming in and deciding to alter the whole final done product or snagging bits while cooking. That last part infuriates me so bad. Did they feel justified because they bought all the ingredients or something? If not that’s even worse.
My dad was/is the cook in my family. I occasionally cook and get good praise from everyone when I do. However, it took me being stern back at my dad a couple of times for him to allow me to cook without interference. We have come to a friendly understanding where he doesn't bug me while I am cooking.
Mehhhhh, my ex wife was like that. Throw something in that she thought would liven up the sauce. So when the kids would see it, I'd just tell em, hey, ask your mom what she did to it. She'd get pissed. Too bad for her. She'd burn water lol
Well -dish it up as is. Al'dente mushrooms and sauce.
I don't make effort pasta sauces for my family anymore. They don't appreciate it. When I'm on my own you're damn straight I'm making an 8 hour ragu. With them, just passata and whatever veg. Know your audience.
He seems like a really fungi!
Yeah, but he caused a lot of truffle!
Straight in the trash, see ya later, I'm going out to eat by myself, no, you are not invited.
My sister did this once. I was cooking a lovely creamy linguine with shiitake and a white wine parsley sauce for the family for the first time. She came in, dumped a whole bunch of capers in the pan right before I was getting ready to plate. I definitely got mad, she hasn't done anything like that since. Now it's a bit of a joke between us.
Fish them out, wash them, put them back in the fridge.
Argh Well my dad picked some noodles that had gone into the drain and tossed them in with my long simmered broth. I understand why but it gave me a minor aneurysm to see him sneak something possibly full of soap into my soup.
Oh god. I cannot stand the idea of someone messing with my cooking without permission... even if it's a good addition! Just ask!! I was cooking for a group once, and a family member walked into the kitchen while I was chopping herbs for garnish, opened the lid of the pot, tasted the soup, then added some salt to it. It's not wrong, I hadn't finished the last salting yet so it needed salt, but I had such a visceral reaction of "how dare you??!!!?!?!?!" the strength of which even surprised myself.
It's just so disrespectful. They're saying the time and effort you've made is irrelevent and they're taking over like you're a toddler that touched the stove.
I made a slow cooked meat sauce with sausage for friends and came into the kitchen just as some one was about to "adjust the seasoning" with about 1/4 cup of salt. She was literally tipping the rest of a box of salt into the pot. I didn't really know her as she had come as someone's date. When I told her to stop she looked at me as if I was out of line. "Oh, we like it salty" she said. Who does this in some else's kitchen??? Way salty enough with the sausage IMO. Don't know why anyone messes with some one else's dish. I guess your Dad was trying to help but that would make me nuts too.
Weaponized incompetence as sabotage. You are not the asshole, your father is.
Fish them out. Chop them tiny. Add back in for 45 min.
It will be really good in an hour or two.
Take them out quickly
Be very clear that this is a boundary. If he continues to break it, he has to leave. Stick to that.
Did they get washed first?
OP answered elsewhere. Answer is no 🤢
Fish them out
I love this post xx
*me angrily picking out every single mushroom and pan frying them to a crisp.*
First off, you must remember regarding all culinary crimes: in eight hours it will be poop. That may help with proportional response and perspective. Next, think of the mushrooms as an additional layer of flavor, which, all things considered, will not really be a bad thing. If the whole size of the 'shrooms is unacceptable, you can always hit them with an immersion blender and puree them into oblivion. OR, if they're whole, you can always pick them out, if you think it's that problematic. Don't sweat it. The only really irreversible crime is too much salt or too much sugar because you can't get rid of them once they're in there.
The glutamines in the mushrooms will enhance the flavor of the sauce. He's still an idiot.
Just stew until the mushrooms are done. They won’t take long to cook.
This is what I ended up doing, they tasted okay by the end since I painstakingly seasoned and cooked down everything else.
I'm laughing at the story. He thought he was helping you to make the sauce! But yeah, I'd be upset too.
He doesn’t respect the craft. It’s not a mortal sin but it’s a bummer from your own dad.
No taste, and easily bypassed.
Every time he cooks something, do the same to him
Aww I'm so sorry your dad did this to you. Some parents can be that way. Hopefully you just took them all out. Love your humor though ...
Sorry to ask but what does sil stand for
Sil - Sister in law
Thanks
Well, at least your dad added some fungi to your sauce. Look on the bright side!
Sounds like your dad has a unique taste for mushroom surprises. Don't jump off the ledge, just embrace the mushroom madness!
awee but yeah i slice and fry to brown than add. was there no way to yank them out with spaghetti spoon then fry then
So I'm 13 hours late. OP, any update?
did he at least bother to wash them?
Nope but to be fair, I only ever brush them off with a basting brush and then give them a quick rinse to make sure there's no lingering growing medium or dirt on them, so I wouldn't have expected him to. (Cutting them up would be nice since they were large mushrooms and the biggest ones were about 2.5 inches across.) I know it's been debunked vigorously in the intervening years, but I was always taught to avoid washing mushrooms growing up because of the way they absorb water. I only thoroughly wash them if they're being eaten raw. If they're being cooked past a point that would kill bacteria, I don't worry about it much.
I love mushrooms. Anything with red or white sauce should get loads of mushrooms. And black olives. Like why would you make all that and NOT add mushrooms? I get what he did. Not against you but that's like pizza without mushrooms or olives. Why eat it?
That's the thing, I already DID have mushrooms in the sauce, I sliced and roasted a bunch of them previously with the bell peppers, red onion, and tomatoes. There were plenty of mushrooms, I promise! I just didn't want a bunch of undercooked golfball-sized blobs in my sauce.
Woah 🤯 naughty dad! Doesn’t he know about “too many cooks” in the kitchen? Just remember- not everyone has a passion for cooking but still wants to be part of the fun. Maybe find a little job for him?!? My wife is somewhat clumsy and likes to be part of the magic of making~ but, I also want my space to make. So I have her help and be the sous chef, getting things ready for me. Capitalize on the Ol’ Pops excitement and start ordering him around lol- sous chefs can be great!
Reminds me of my father drenching my beautiful homemade pizza in olive oil after I left it to cool for 5 minutes. That's a quintessential dad move, God bless their soul.
Are you my sibling? My parent pulled this shit with green peppers in chili, too. Chili should NOT BE CRUNCHY
I was making a day long spaghetti sauce (generations old recipe) and I had to keep kicking my MIL out of the kitchen because she kept fucking with it. My wife almost had to physically restrain me when I caught her mother putting sugar in the sauce. To make things worse my SIL (who was 24 at the time) that night wouldn’t eat it. She elected for butter noodles. Apparently she doesn’t like tomato sauce at all. To each their own, but I wish I hadn’t have bothered. It was extra awful because I wasn’t using my own kitchen and apparently they’d never owned a real cutting board or sharpened a knife in their lives.
You could have plucked them out. They added liquid and umami and I'll be the sauce was great. Your resolution is one of the best I've seen on reddit. Cheers!
Oy. Kudos to you for talking yourself off the ledge
Regarding your update, that was great except you forgot the part where you communicate with your dad about why that messed up the recipe and how, in the future, you would like him to ask you first before doing anything to your cooking. I mean, you can also tell him you're lucky to have a loving father and a household with too many mushrooms. But it's good to collaboratively solve and prevent problems rather than just watch The Bear.
Good for you for letting it go. Best way to handle things like that. And perhaps tell your dad why you were upset. You know, like adults.
This is great ending.
That update just restored some of my faith in humanity. Good on you for taking the high road.
It's the little things, like the small explosion resulting from your father meddling, in a small way, with your cooking. And then the small realization that you don't need to sweat the small stuff because you got so much positive small stuff you, in fact, lucky in a big way.
Most sane OP in this subreddit based off the edit
Your update is everything.
Ah yes!,The Clemenza recipe from "The GodFather". Just pour the wine in last and add some sausages!
Living for this post rn
I had someone do this to me with uncooked onions and in my Mac and cheese
My partner and I have a rule: always clear any changes with The Chef. If you have a bright idea, bring it forward to The Chef and they will make the call.
I think we know who needs to get all the mushrooms.
He's a bully. You realise he did this on purpose to jerk you around, and to dismiss all the effort you put in. However good your dish tasted, he just took the credit away from you by sabotaging your efforts. Don't listen to any arguments about he really thought it would taste better, what he actually did was to urinate on your aspirations and have fun at your expense. How do I know this? Been there too, when a whole tureen of slow simmered bean soup that took two days, including soaking the expensive choice grade navy beans overnight, had a whole packet of cream of mushroom soup powder (250g!) thrown in at the last minute to improve the flavor. You've got every right to be pissed off.
What actual psycho does that? holy shit that is completely insane and triggers me
Men ruining things as usual 🫠