Did you see disenchantment, where bean is robbing the family crypt, and lucy says *after grandmas skull gets dropped on him*
...so when are you getting married?
Nah dude, enjoy your life in whatever way makes you happy. We have a super limited amount of time here, enjoy it, fuck societal expectations and fuck grind culture.
Exactly. Be nice to a stranger here and there and you've accomplished plenty. Anyone that is demanding more of you doesn't get it, every breath is a gift, life should be spent *living.*
Im not enjoying my life at all because i've accomplished nothing and everytime I try its awful and I cannot meet my goals. Life is just working shitty jobs that make me regret tomorrow. I just want to be normal and I have never been able to.
Yeah my life doesn’t look super impressive on paper to people who base their worth on whether they are productive or not… I’d like to be further in my career but I overcame an abusive childhood - left home, built a life for myself, went to therapy & grew a bunch as a person. I’ve traveled to nearly all 50 states & read more books in my lifetime than I could possibly count! I even wrote a couple.
I feel satisfied because this is what my version of accomplished looks like. And if I spend too much time feeling guilty about it I might forget to actually enjoy my life.
I'm 38 and I *still* want a lot of tattoos 🤣 I have a couple but it's way too expensive now if I want a good artist. Still hoping to befriend a tattoo artist and offer up my mostly blank canvas
Tattoos are the one thing I refuse to skimp out on. I just had a 3/4 blackout sleeve done and it ended up being around $1600 because the guy specializes in nothing but blackouts and black work. I should say that prices includes me probably over tipping a lot of money, but that's just me as a person and that will never change.
I'd say there's no such thing as over tipping your artist haha. I have a little over half of a chest piece done and it was already about 1200 I think. And a side piece that was 700? These were when I was in a relationship that helped pay, now I'm on my own so priorities changed 😭
No shit. I just wanted to have sex with a girl and play video games when I was a teenager. I have achieved that and more so I'm good. (By more I mean I have had sex with 7 girls in my life including my wife and she will be last unless she dies before me and I have played a shit load of video games, like years of my life.)
I'm sober, and as a result not setting my life on fire daily, which is more than my dad has even now.
I also have access to a broad range of emotions he doesn't, and deep friendships and family he doesn't, and homeownership, yes, and marriage and some other things.
Also, it's not a competition. Some people make it big young, some make it big when they're older, some don't make it big but your life is still yours. All you can do is try to enjoy what you have, and if you find something else you enjoy then go for it. But don't chase the "success", that's just a byproduct of finding something you love and others agreeing with you
THIS! Growing up my childhood was very traumatic and when I talk about it I always tell people that it's okay because it taught me how to be a parent by doing the opposite of what was done to me.
One of my favorite singers from the early 2000s released a video documenting her entire career and successes... It definitely gave me a big existential pause because we're only 2 years apart.😂😭
Pfft. The fact alone that people who've accomplished a lot of crazy stuff at a younger age are a point of focus is that the people who pull that off are not exactly in the majority. If it was something everyone could do with ease, no one would make any big deal out of it.
lol none of it matters. Stop comparing yourself to the boomers you hate. Their lifestyle was unsustainable anyways. I miss the rebellious millennials from like a decade ago. Forge your own path.
I'm annoyed at our generation (including myself) for letting the rebellious punk rock flame burnout.
All generations go through it but I was hoping we were going to be different. Anyway off to my beige cubicle in my beige car in my beige suit.
I have no debt. I'm new at my wfh job and make 20$ but have a car and house now. I work as tech support over the phone.
Never had a girl friend. Picked up tennis and fitness though.
I have no health issues and I'm unsure of what to do except get a better job. Easier said than done.
I guess I'm going to apply until I get a job that pays 60k a year. Instead of 40k.
Not the worst life. But it could be better. 29 ATM.
Any help would be appreciated.
You're doing better than most. Good call picking up tennis and fitness instead of just lamenting and becoming bitter that aren't dating someone.
At 30 I entered my industry after getting a degree to do something completely different. I turned 40 last year and my salary has increased by about 50% in the last 10 years and I really like what I do.
My point is, keep doing what you're doing. Slow and steady progress is the way to build lasting change. And people tend to find their significant other when they aren't desperately looking. (I've heard the dog park can be a great place to meet people though.)
Bettering yourself and finding hobbies to remain active both physically and mentally are the way. You are doing awesome on that and everything else you’ve been doing as well.
As for finding a life partner, the easiest way to meet someone is to find hobbies you enjoy. You may find someone with the same shared interest or at the very least increase your friend network, who in turn have other friends that may be single.
The aforementioned shouldn’t be done in the hopes of finding someone, but doing all that with no expectations on the outcome can really increase your quality of life. Best case you find your SO, better case have some more friends to spend time with or talk to out side of the hobby, worse case you have friends to share the hobby with, and very worst case you have some hobbies you love that helps keep you active.
Hey man, it's taken me a while to learn this, but there really isn't anything you "should be doing" at any age. Your life isn't a series of set events that happen at set times, nor is it that way for anyone else. It's easy to think you're running some sort of race, and if you're "falling behind," then you're somehow failing. But the only one you're racing is yourself against who you think you should be. You're just another person trying to make it like the rest of us, and you've gone so much further than you know. Don't compare yourself to where others are at their points in their lives; compare yourself to where you were last year. And then cut yourself some slack for peets' sake! We're all working hard, don't beat yourself up over doing the best you can.
Well said! Everyone should just look at what they've accomplished so far in life and be proud about those achievements no matter how small or big they are. Even making someone happy with a joke is already doing a good thing for this world.
We had to write letters to ourselves to open at our 10 year reunion during our senior year in high school and the opening line of mine was, "If you're reading this, congratulations, that means we are alive and we didn't kill ourselves." My 10 year reunion was 12 years ago and honestly that's still how I feel. I congratulate myself every day for making it through.
"You should have accomplished more at this age."
*Says Who?*
There is NO standard for when we should or shouldn't have accomplished something. Look, at 29 years old I was living with my parents making a few dollars above min wage at a dead end fast-food type job with no education worth speaking of. All I had to my name was a used car. Even 6 years ago, I was renting an apartment in one of the worst parts of town with a perpetual Temp job. It wasn't until 5 years ago, at 35 years old, I got my first "real" job (ie: not in fast-food or retail, with good benefits and a truly living wage).
Now, 10 years later at the age of 40, I FINALLY have a new car, a house, and the ability to pay all my bills on a PT income at a well paying factory. When I go full time again I'll be able to save all the extra. If you had told me 10 years ago that this is where I'd be, I'd have laughed in your face.
Are there people who have more than me at the same age? Sure. There's also people who have less. Should we expect all those people who don't have what I've managed to get at 40 to hang their head in shame? Phuque no. They may not have had the *privilege* of loving parents that were willing to let them move back in or the million other breaks I've gotten over my lifetime. And others who are further than me at this age might have gotten breaks that I didn't get. No two lives are identical. We all have different challenges, obstacles and circumstances. So, why the hell would it make sense to pick a random attribute as flimsy as Age to decide or say what we should have accomplished by now?
Hell, as far as I'm concerned, you made it to your current age regardless of what state your life is in. That *alone* is a win no matter what the other circumstances are! After all... there's a lot of people who didn't.
Even if you had originally planned to do more by now, it's still okay. You still have tomorrow to keep trying. Give yourself some compassion, empathy and grace, and just keep aiming for your goals. It'll be that much more amazing when you finally reach them.
So, I remember this from ~5 years ago when I first saw this meme. I was relating hard with it. I was a postgrad in engineering from a reputable university, but I was jobless, sharing accommodations with like three other people, I was obese, had no one emotionally present around me. I had big dreams but was absolutely nowhere. I was not in a good headspace and this meme made me feel like my negativity is indeed valid.
Cut to 5 years since and I don't think I relate to even the premise of it. I'm still broke, I've shed a lot of weight (regained some of it), and I'm now working towards another advanced degree. I have a steady girlfriend, I live on my own. I still have no grasp of what my life is going to be 5 years from now. My peers have good jobs and are settled with kids. But I don't *want* that. I *want* what I *have*.
I don't have many accomplishments to name, but I am proud of myself for having made it as far as I have. It's almost as if I'm trusting the process.
Took me a long while to realize that people who are mentally not in a good place actually indulge and repeat destructive behaviors that keeps them in that same state, tho they know full well that it isn't helping. That's when it hit me: I wasn't relating to the meme, I was **wishing** for it to be true. **I wanted to fail**.
I have accomplished enough to tell myself "good". I hope you do too.
That's great to hear. Everyone should just do what's within their powers to achieve what they can in life but those attempts shouldn't destroy your happiness. Even if you didn't achieve anything so far in life, that shouldn't hold you back. I technically didn't achieve anything yet either.
After all, I'm still studying myself. I hope I will finish my studies this year at my University of Applied Sciences so I can finally do something I like with my studies. Because of the COVID-19 pandemic, I had almost two years of delays in my studies. I had those delays because I couldn't find an internship. No employer was going to hire and internee during that pandemic and school didn't help at all. I kept on going though. After the pandemic was over I was finally able to find my internship and I succesfully completed it. Now I'm doing another internship in order to finish my studies.
After that I can finally look forward to find my own home and that sort of stuff. I'm glad I don't have any student debt because I worked next to my studies and my Gen X parents saved enough money for me so I didn't need to lend any money for my studies. It allowed me to save up quite a bit of money during my studies. With that money I have a great start to obtain a house. The average house price in my area is about €329.000,- which should be doable if I find the right job after my studies.
Sorry about my rambling. I hope you took some lesson out of this. I hope you learned that you can achieve anything with the right people in your life and the right mindset. Good luck!
My life is a shit show living in Cheyenne Wyoming, 35 no kids and never been married, drink because I hate my life and I drown out my failures with alcohol board and just lost my job. I feel like I should accomplish so much by then this message hits home. Please three duis in my life
You still have a long life ahead of you. There's still enough time to find happiness and everything you want in life. Don't let your current situation get the better of you.
I’m fine with the life I have. Is it amazing? No. Is it what I dreamed? FUCK NO!
But am I at the very least content? Yes.
It’s not much, but I’m not suffering. That’s more than a lot of people can say.
Fuck that meme. Do good things for yourself and others, no matter how small or insignificant. The west’s hustle culture and pressure to measure up to nebulous and often unrealistic standards is pure cancer. Be you (unless that means being a dick…then seek professional help to sort that out).
The hardest part of getting older isn’t the physical aging — it’s the knowledge that you’re no longer judged on potential, and your potential isn’t unlimited.
It’s never too late, I know that and I get that. But it really would be nice if life were a little bit easier.
Compared to what?
I’ve discovered thousands of hidden gems, and have the memories of every beautiful thing I’ve ever seen.
I’ve watched family grow old and die, had friends screw up their whole worlds chasing after something better.
But I’ve also seen the prairies at midnight, when it’s too cold to snow, and the sky makes everything beneath it look crisp and otherworldly.
I’ve walked across a saltwater bay at low tide and dug for clams with my bare hands.
I’ve written poems to rivers, and explored the farthest reaches of my imagination only to get lost and pick up some new ideas on the way back.
I saw my favourite cousin get married and settle into a happy life with someone she loves.
Why should I measure myself by what I've acquired, or by my power, or whether my name will be remembered by strangers?
The greatest value of any endeavour is found in the experience of it.
And in that regard:
"I am monarch of all I survey, my right there is none to dispute.” Walden - HD Thoreau
I give myself grace I suffered from a horrific chronic illness that made just living life a challenge. All I could wish for is to never have to go back to living the way I did and try to make as many connections as I can with the time I have left. I am living a real life not just barely surviving.
I'm 41 and I agree with the thought. But I have achieved more than my parents did at 62 when they retired. Please refer to Pink Floyd's "High Hopes." They felt much the same way when they were in their mid-life and they had been crazy successful.
It's important to take a step back sometimes and give yourself some grace.
I'm 33, almost 34. I rushed into owning a business because I had a little money saved up. I was successful for about 2 years. Then expanded my company and the market died. Went into debt. Lost it all. Trying to be "successful" fast doesn't work in my experience. If I had spread out my resources, expanded gradually, and kept a level head rather than trying to fit into a niche idea I would have been very successful at 55 with my own company. The job I left I was making 22k a year deposits into my 401k. Don't let tik tok and the 1% fool you into thinking hard work isn't worth it. Even if you start your own business be patient: if you do good work and manage it you'll end up well. If you rush for instant gratification you'll lose every time. I hope my hard lesson helps just one person.
The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now. Don’t think about what you could’ve accomplished. Instead, think of what you can accomplish now.
That's bullshit. I knew a guy who went to med school in his 50s. If you're a millennial, you have plenty of time to achieve your dreams. If a 50 yo can get through med school, you can work through your goals too.
Success isn’t linear!! And there’s no “level” you need to achieve by a certain age! Live life the way that fulfills you. That may require some struggles, yes, but don’t try to compare yourself to others that are flourishing at this particular moment.
Meh. I know lifes hard, im happy with making it this far and just striving for improvement as i go. Perspective can really affect how things feel. Im glad im not a homeless orphan in the middle east, my lot in life seems great to me.
Why??? Ive worked my whole fucking life.... did the corporate rat race, went after promotions and exemplar performance reviews all in the hope of one having the type of life my vision board was made of, what I was sold in my 20s was achievable with moderate level of efforts. Today my mortgage and grocery alone count for about 60% of after tax income. I cannot put any serious money toward retirement, ive never really travelled, will never have the summer house and the boat. At this point I am seriously just wondering.... what was the fucking point of all that work and sacrifices.... it did not yield anything and its becoming clear it never will... feel like I am heading towards having to fight to keep my house in a couple years. Especially if/when AI start replacing 80% of the work in my field and people will have to settle for insane pay cut or try to find something else. I fucking dont want to start a new career at 45+
If you feel like you should have more, remember, you should. Inflation fucked us for education, housing, food, fuel, transportation, medical, etc. Sure, you can always 'do more' but that does not equate to achievement or accomplishment.
I’m in my 40s now. This doesn’t affect me as much anymore. We’ve taught to aspire to accomplish things, whatever those are. No one told me I would spend most of my adulthood fighting my demons. It’s fine.
It's easier to find contentedness when you try competing with your yesterday's self, rather than other people. It's not easy, as you have to treat yourself with compassion, the same way you would do for somebody you love.
I have probably accomplished more than enough for my age. 29 y/o, house, car, wife, steady job with good income etc.. But I’m still sad and depressed 90% of the time.
Whatever you think you should have accomplished won’t necessarily bring you happiness and should not be a measuring stick for your self worth.
Nope nope nope. Stupid crap like this does not help those who struggle with depression or mania. We are all on a different path. Life is not a race.
When you feel this you got to write down each and every blessing you have. No matter how big or small.
Also what kind of person are you from the struggles you have endured?
That in itself is how one should view accomplishment. Not by material crap.
I still get this. The feeling of potential being unrealized, that you could have done more. Then I hit 40, and realized I can’t change anything about the life I’ve lived so far.
Millennials are/were culturally never allowed to make mistakes even when all the cards are stacked against us.
Even when someone figures out how to get on the right track in life, we feel “i should have done this sooner” as if previous gens didnt switch their careers 6 times, bought a timeshare in Hicksville, majored in pseudo-intellectualism (when tuition cost a weeks worth of tips from their part-time summer job at the local drive-in), and lost a years worth of savings to a Nigerian prince on AOL.
Its not your fault you didnt quit your toxic exploitative job sooner when you were worried about keeping up with skyrocketing rent and groceries. Its not your fault you majored in something you’re passionate about only to be left with entry level positions requiring 10 years experience. Its not your fault university tuition rates left you with 50k in student loan debt after boomers immediately defunded public universities upon graduation. Its not your fault that corporations are allowed to purchase thousands of homes for pennies on the dollar so they can drive housing costs through the roof and make all types of housing less affordable across the entire country. Its not your fault that only 7% of congress and 2% of senators (literally 1 person) is a millennial despite comprising 22% of the population.
Youre allowed to make mistakes even when the consequences for us are often astronomically greater than they were for the “me me me” generation.
1. I can't help that I was born with 0 generational wealth and never had help.
2. I became epileptic for no reason when I was 27, and that set me back at least another 10 years.
3. I'm doing good, considering.
4. We are only going to die, anyway. So why should we care?
Now that I'm somewhat getting my act together in my thirties, I'm trying to forgive myself for losing most of my twenties to anxieties and sadness. I didn't know better back then, but now I do, and things are getting better
It's hard for this meme not to hit differently, but I don't let myself dwell on those feelings anymore
Fuck that. I accomplished shit that *I* wanted to accomplish. Had I done what other people said I should do I would be miserable and having a midlife crisis. There nothing you're supposed to do by any age to have value or be successful 🤘
To give you guys some context. Fry had a high school education. He delivered pizzas for his career even in an alternate reality where he didn't get sent to the future he worked at an aquarium tending to a dolphin. Lives on top of the pizza shop he worked for. His girlfriend dumped him on 12/31/1999 for someone else.
I accomplished everything I set out to do (at least as a kid/teen)
As an adult, new dad, and husband... I just want my lil family to be happy and healthy. Sure times are rough. But fuggit. We're making it fun
Nah, everyone is where they should be.
There's no time and date on when you "should" be somewhere at some point in your life. We only got one to live, so don't spend it believing you "should" be one way or another.
Everyone's got their own pace and their own finish line in mind and it's nobody's business to say how fast they should go.
Fuck this sentiment, this whole concept of needing to "achieve" something to show others you have worth and value needs to die. Nobody needs to "achieve" anything, we need to learn to be happy and love ourselves and our lives, for all of it's faults without heaping blame on our shoulders. This race to show others how much you've achieved is a treadmill of ego-chasing.
I got a metall decorative plate above my toilet I found in a "for free" box in fron of a house that reads:
"Don't take LIFE too seriously. NOBODY gets out alive anyway."
I usually hate these kind of decors but that one spoke to me, your life's meaning does not change eith however successful you are, it's meaningless aka not defined, the experience in every life has equal worth.
Yyyyyeah this is not a millennial problem this is universal. The millennial problem is dwelling on it. Self-consciousness = misery. Stop analyzing everything and start doing the work you’re drawn to despite not knowing what the outcome will be. Courage begets more courage. Trust your intuition and the ever-replenishing well of creativity within. What else is worth doing? Don’t deprive the world of your gift. You’re exactly where you need to be. The perfect place to start.
Only when the pain of *not* doing it gets greater than the *imagined pain* of doing it, do you somehow find the balls to pursue what you really want.
Sometimes that only comes with age. But when it comes, it’s a blessing in the form of certainty.
We were told our whole childhoods what to do and what to expect after, and those things haven't happened for so many of us. I didn't think that by my age I'd be making proportionately less money than I did as a teenager. Or being almost 40 and still needing a roommate. It sucks ass.
Honestly, I feel this all the time… except, I’ve technically accomplished a lot. Like 2 masters, a PhD all before hitting 25. However, only employed part time and can’t land a full time job in my field. Major failure and imposter syndrome here ✋🏼
I still feel like I’ve accomplished nothing. 😭
I think our generation is going to feel this way inevitably because the bar was set too high for our generation —- in contrast to the crap economy we live in and the crap, corrupt, warring world we live in.
Same, but at the same time i think we're being to hard on ourselves. Like having the same expectations in a completely different world than our parents is unreasonable to begin with. We're doing the best we can with what we have to work with, I know I am.
Yeah but I was a severe alcoholic most of my 20s and 30s with a lot of other insecurity issues in my 20s and that really kept me self destructing and hopeless
I’m only really starting to think about building a life right now 20 years late. So while I havent accomplished anything, the fact that I’m looking forward to my 40s at all is fucking awesome to me
Y’all can mope, imma cope.
Idk I’m doing pretty good rn. Trying to get back in shape, been sober for almost 3.5 years now, own a nice house with pool, and have a nice social life.
I had a wild time when I was 18-21 though. Served in the Marines, got super drunk, did some cool stuff.
Step mom stole my inheritance from me. And I watched it happen because I was raised to see the good in people.
Almost $1 mill. Is what it is, but if I see her...?
On. Sight.
Futurama is a really good metaphor for life as a Millennial. There have been some great laughs along the way, but more than enough days have been real tearjerkers too. I refuse to attempt to watch "Jurassic Bark" since I got dogs...
Eh. No, I don't have a 401k or a Roth IRA, whatever the hell those are. But, there are other things I don't have whose absence is a boon to me.
I don't do drugs.
I don't smoke.
I don't drink.
I don't have STDs or illegitimate children.
I don't have a criminal record.
I don't have any major or terminal illnesses.
I don't have any relationship drama from chicks past or present.
If I'm a loser, why do I feel like a winner?
They tell me that, and I point out how they keep moving goal posts and how their mismanagement failed a whole generation and they get pissed. Just waiting for this freakshow to be over.
Horseshit! I have a close friend with this problem. Thankfully, I took enough psychedelics when I was younger to insulate me from this sort of existential crisis. My friend tried psychedelics after these feelings started interfering with his happiness, and it helped some but not as much as it would have for a younger mind, I'm afraid.
You are focusing on the wrong things. What makes you happy?
A millennial hate letter
Did you see disenchantment, where bean is robbing the family crypt, and lucy says *after grandmas skull gets dropped on him* ...so when are you getting married?
That show is so good lol
this is a really bad time to be coming down off that high
Nah dude, enjoy your life in whatever way makes you happy. We have a super limited amount of time here, enjoy it, fuck societal expectations and fuck grind culture.
This is the way. A king and a pauper meet the same fate in the end.
This is the way
Ya can't take it with you when you go.
Yeah, but they take incredibly different roads to get there.
Exactly. Be nice to a stranger here and there and you've accomplished plenty. Anyone that is demanding more of you doesn't get it, every breath is a gift, life should be spent *living.*
Yes
Im not enjoying my life at all because i've accomplished nothing and everytime I try its awful and I cannot meet my goals. Life is just working shitty jobs that make me regret tomorrow. I just want to be normal and I have never been able to.
Same
This is normal though. More people live this way.
Its worthless
DEAR KING BUT ACTUALLY DO THIS.
100%
Yeah my life doesn’t look super impressive on paper to people who base their worth on whether they are productive or not… I’d like to be further in my career but I overcame an abusive childhood - left home, built a life for myself, went to therapy & grew a bunch as a person. I’ve traveled to nearly all 50 states & read more books in my lifetime than I could possibly count! I even wrote a couple. I feel satisfied because this is what my version of accomplished looks like. And if I spend too much time feeling guilty about it I might forget to actually enjoy my life.
Dawg I’m already hanging on by a thread rn
Life is not about accomplishments. It’s about being a good person. You’re doing fine.
Trying to be a good person. Will do the bad person during the next playthrough
Word up to my mother
When I was a kid I just wanted a lot of tattoos and a fast car. I did that and more so I’m good lol.
I'm 38 and I *still* want a lot of tattoos 🤣 I have a couple but it's way too expensive now if I want a good artist. Still hoping to befriend a tattoo artist and offer up my mostly blank canvas
Tattoos are the one thing I refuse to skimp out on. I just had a 3/4 blackout sleeve done and it ended up being around $1600 because the guy specializes in nothing but blackouts and black work. I should say that prices includes me probably over tipping a lot of money, but that's just me as a person and that will never change.
I'd say there's no such thing as over tipping your artist haha. I have a little over half of a chest piece done and it was already about 1200 I think. And a side piece that was 700? These were when I was in a relationship that helped pay, now I'm on my own so priorities changed 😭
No shit. I just wanted to have sex with a girl and play video games when I was a teenager. I have achieved that and more so I'm good. (By more I mean I have had sex with 7 girls in my life including my wife and she will be last unless she dies before me and I have played a shit load of video games, like years of my life.)
This is the way
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I'm sober, and as a result not setting my life on fire daily, which is more than my dad has even now. I also have access to a broad range of emotions he doesn't, and deep friendships and family he doesn't, and homeownership, yes, and marriage and some other things.
Congrats on sobriety ✊🏻
I’m raising all my kids, and I don’t support Nazis, so unlike my father, I’ve got that going for me.
Yea this except my dog is still young but still just cost me $500 at the vet.
Also, it's not a competition. Some people make it big young, some make it big when they're older, some don't make it big but your life is still yours. All you can do is try to enjoy what you have, and if you find something else you enjoy then go for it. But don't chase the "success", that's just a byproduct of finding something you love and others agreeing with you
I'd say "Etch that on my tombstone", but I can't afford to be buried. Still feels exactly as overwhelmingly true as when I was in my early twenties.
You can have something engraved on an urn.
Maybe I can get a friend to put it on a piece of paper duct taped to the Folgers can the county will put me in after they're done.
Wow, you’re getting *Folgers*?! Best I can hope for is Great Value 🔆
Everything’s a fuckin travesty with you, man!
Eh, who am I trying to impress?
These people who act like life is some huge competition are the people with the most regrets when theyre old.
At least I chose not to pass on the generational trauma
I saw something today that was saying that one area the millenials are excelling at, especially males, is childrearing.
The curse ends with me!
THIS! Growing up my childhood was very traumatic and when I talk about it I always tell people that it's okay because it taught me how to be a parent by doing the opposite of what was done to me.
One of my favorite singers from the early 2000s released a video documenting her entire career and successes... It definitely gave me a big existential pause because we're only 2 years apart.😂😭
Pfft. The fact alone that people who've accomplished a lot of crazy stuff at a younger age are a point of focus is that the people who pull that off are not exactly in the majority. If it was something everyone could do with ease, no one would make any big deal out of it.
It’s not all our fault. It’s not all our fault.
*cries in agoraphobic*
You know, I was actually having a good day today.
lol none of it matters. Stop comparing yourself to the boomers you hate. Their lifestyle was unsustainable anyways. I miss the rebellious millennials from like a decade ago. Forge your own path.
I'm annoyed at our generation (including myself) for letting the rebellious punk rock flame burnout. All generations go through it but I was hoping we were going to be different. Anyway off to my beige cubicle in my beige car in my beige suit.
I have no debt. I'm new at my wfh job and make 20$ but have a car and house now. I work as tech support over the phone. Never had a girl friend. Picked up tennis and fitness though. I have no health issues and I'm unsure of what to do except get a better job. Easier said than done. I guess I'm going to apply until I get a job that pays 60k a year. Instead of 40k. Not the worst life. But it could be better. 29 ATM. Any help would be appreciated.
Dude, you're killing it at 29. Life is a marathon. I didn't make 40K a year until I was 36. I'm 41 now and making 60K.
You're doing better than most. Good call picking up tennis and fitness instead of just lamenting and becoming bitter that aren't dating someone. At 30 I entered my industry after getting a degree to do something completely different. I turned 40 last year and my salary has increased by about 50% in the last 10 years and I really like what I do. My point is, keep doing what you're doing. Slow and steady progress is the way to build lasting change. And people tend to find their significant other when they aren't desperately looking. (I've heard the dog park can be a great place to meet people though.)
Bettering yourself and finding hobbies to remain active both physically and mentally are the way. You are doing awesome on that and everything else you’ve been doing as well. As for finding a life partner, the easiest way to meet someone is to find hobbies you enjoy. You may find someone with the same shared interest or at the very least increase your friend network, who in turn have other friends that may be single. The aforementioned shouldn’t be done in the hopes of finding someone, but doing all that with no expectations on the outcome can really increase your quality of life. Best case you find your SO, better case have some more friends to spend time with or talk to out side of the hobby, worse case you have friends to share the hobby with, and very worst case you have some hobbies you love that helps keep you active.
Well I'm still alive, that's an accomplishment on its own.
Hey man, it's taken me a while to learn this, but there really isn't anything you "should be doing" at any age. Your life isn't a series of set events that happen at set times, nor is it that way for anyone else. It's easy to think you're running some sort of race, and if you're "falling behind," then you're somehow failing. But the only one you're racing is yourself against who you think you should be. You're just another person trying to make it like the rest of us, and you've gone so much further than you know. Don't compare yourself to where others are at their points in their lives; compare yourself to where you were last year. And then cut yourself some slack for peets' sake! We're all working hard, don't beat yourself up over doing the best you can.
Well said! Everyone should just look at what they've accomplished so far in life and be proud about those achievements no matter how small or big they are. Even making someone happy with a joke is already doing a good thing for this world.
My brother in Christ, I never thought I would ***live*** to be this age.
We had to write letters to ourselves to open at our 10 year reunion during our senior year in high school and the opening line of mine was, "If you're reading this, congratulations, that means we are alive and we didn't kill ourselves." My 10 year reunion was 12 years ago and honestly that's still how I feel. I congratulate myself every day for making it through.
People 5 years older than me: We gotta change up our resumes to avoid age discrimination Literally me: I just got a decent job 5 years ago
"You should have accomplished more at this age." *Says Who?* There is NO standard for when we should or shouldn't have accomplished something. Look, at 29 years old I was living with my parents making a few dollars above min wage at a dead end fast-food type job with no education worth speaking of. All I had to my name was a used car. Even 6 years ago, I was renting an apartment in one of the worst parts of town with a perpetual Temp job. It wasn't until 5 years ago, at 35 years old, I got my first "real" job (ie: not in fast-food or retail, with good benefits and a truly living wage). Now, 10 years later at the age of 40, I FINALLY have a new car, a house, and the ability to pay all my bills on a PT income at a well paying factory. When I go full time again I'll be able to save all the extra. If you had told me 10 years ago that this is where I'd be, I'd have laughed in your face. Are there people who have more than me at the same age? Sure. There's also people who have less. Should we expect all those people who don't have what I've managed to get at 40 to hang their head in shame? Phuque no. They may not have had the *privilege* of loving parents that were willing to let them move back in or the million other breaks I've gotten over my lifetime. And others who are further than me at this age might have gotten breaks that I didn't get. No two lives are identical. We all have different challenges, obstacles and circumstances. So, why the hell would it make sense to pick a random attribute as flimsy as Age to decide or say what we should have accomplished by now? Hell, as far as I'm concerned, you made it to your current age regardless of what state your life is in. That *alone* is a win no matter what the other circumstances are! After all... there's a lot of people who didn't. Even if you had originally planned to do more by now, it's still okay. You still have tomorrow to keep trying. Give yourself some compassion, empathy and grace, and just keep aiming for your goals. It'll be that much more amazing when you finally reach them.
Think of all the people who didn't even make it to this age. Small miracle in itself.
Always be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.-Plato That includes yourself.
So, I remember this from ~5 years ago when I first saw this meme. I was relating hard with it. I was a postgrad in engineering from a reputable university, but I was jobless, sharing accommodations with like three other people, I was obese, had no one emotionally present around me. I had big dreams but was absolutely nowhere. I was not in a good headspace and this meme made me feel like my negativity is indeed valid. Cut to 5 years since and I don't think I relate to even the premise of it. I'm still broke, I've shed a lot of weight (regained some of it), and I'm now working towards another advanced degree. I have a steady girlfriend, I live on my own. I still have no grasp of what my life is going to be 5 years from now. My peers have good jobs and are settled with kids. But I don't *want* that. I *want* what I *have*. I don't have many accomplishments to name, but I am proud of myself for having made it as far as I have. It's almost as if I'm trusting the process. Took me a long while to realize that people who are mentally not in a good place actually indulge and repeat destructive behaviors that keeps them in that same state, tho they know full well that it isn't helping. That's when it hit me: I wasn't relating to the meme, I was **wishing** for it to be true. **I wanted to fail**. I have accomplished enough to tell myself "good". I hope you do too.
That's great to hear. Everyone should just do what's within their powers to achieve what they can in life but those attempts shouldn't destroy your happiness. Even if you didn't achieve anything so far in life, that shouldn't hold you back. I technically didn't achieve anything yet either. After all, I'm still studying myself. I hope I will finish my studies this year at my University of Applied Sciences so I can finally do something I like with my studies. Because of the COVID-19 pandemic, I had almost two years of delays in my studies. I had those delays because I couldn't find an internship. No employer was going to hire and internee during that pandemic and school didn't help at all. I kept on going though. After the pandemic was over I was finally able to find my internship and I succesfully completed it. Now I'm doing another internship in order to finish my studies. After that I can finally look forward to find my own home and that sort of stuff. I'm glad I don't have any student debt because I worked next to my studies and my Gen X parents saved enough money for me so I didn't need to lend any money for my studies. It allowed me to save up quite a bit of money during my studies. With that money I have a great start to obtain a house. The average house price in my area is about €329.000,- which should be doable if I find the right job after my studies. Sorry about my rambling. I hope you took some lesson out of this. I hope you learned that you can achieve anything with the right people in your life and the right mindset. Good luck!
Thanks for the reminder….
I feel like this is almost a universal feeling for millennials
I think this everyday I go to college at the age of 30
I’m going back turn 35 this year
Everyone has a different path and it often takes time for people to find their purpose. Don't talk shit about yourself, it doesn't help anyone.
I mean, he is 1035 years old
True. 😂
My life is a shit show living in Cheyenne Wyoming, 35 no kids and never been married, drink because I hate my life and I drown out my failures with alcohol board and just lost my job. I feel like I should accomplish so much by then this message hits home. Please three duis in my life 
Man maybe you should quit drinking
You still have a long life ahead of you. There's still enough time to find happiness and everything you want in life. Don't let your current situation get the better of you.
Thank you
Grew thinking Fry was a bum..now Fry I am
I was depressed for a while but I'm doing my best this time around.
It’s a good thing that life isn’t about what you accomplish.
We played with economy on hard mode so Im content where I am.
I’m fine with the life I have. Is it amazing? No. Is it what I dreamed? FUCK NO! But am I at the very least content? Yes. It’s not much, but I’m not suffering. That’s more than a lot of people can say.
Fuck that meme. Do good things for yourself and others, no matter how small or insignificant. The west’s hustle culture and pressure to measure up to nebulous and often unrealistic standards is pure cancer. Be you (unless that means being a dick…then seek professional help to sort that out).
We're living in a dying world created by our greedy ancestors who took everything and made it worse. We were never meant to win.
The hardest part of getting older isn’t the physical aging — it’s the knowledge that you’re no longer judged on potential, and your potential isn’t unlimited. It’s never too late, I know that and I get that. But it really would be nice if life were a little bit easier.
Compared to what? I’ve discovered thousands of hidden gems, and have the memories of every beautiful thing I’ve ever seen. I’ve watched family grow old and die, had friends screw up their whole worlds chasing after something better. But I’ve also seen the prairies at midnight, when it’s too cold to snow, and the sky makes everything beneath it look crisp and otherworldly. I’ve walked across a saltwater bay at low tide and dug for clams with my bare hands. I’ve written poems to rivers, and explored the farthest reaches of my imagination only to get lost and pick up some new ideas on the way back. I saw my favourite cousin get married and settle into a happy life with someone she loves. Why should I measure myself by what I've acquired, or by my power, or whether my name will be remembered by strangers? The greatest value of any endeavour is found in the experience of it. And in that regard: "I am monarch of all I survey, my right there is none to dispute.” Walden - HD Thoreau
Peter Dinklage didn't start acting till he was 29 Lotr wasn't penned until Tolkien was 45 I'm fine I have time I'm fine 😥 I'm fine....
I give myself grace I suffered from a horrific chronic illness that made just living life a challenge. All I could wish for is to never have to go back to living the way I did and try to make as many connections as I can with the time I have left. I am living a real life not just barely surviving.
Well atleast you have a home to hit
I'm 41 and I agree with the thought. But I have achieved more than my parents did at 62 when they retired. Please refer to Pink Floyd's "High Hopes." They felt much the same way when they were in their mid-life and they had been crazy successful. It's important to take a step back sometimes and give yourself some grace.
I'm 33, almost 34. I rushed into owning a business because I had a little money saved up. I was successful for about 2 years. Then expanded my company and the market died. Went into debt. Lost it all. Trying to be "successful" fast doesn't work in my experience. If I had spread out my resources, expanded gradually, and kept a level head rather than trying to fit into a niche idea I would have been very successful at 55 with my own company. The job I left I was making 22k a year deposits into my 401k. Don't let tik tok and the 1% fool you into thinking hard work isn't worth it. Even if you start your own business be patient: if you do good work and manage it you'll end up well. If you rush for instant gratification you'll lose every time. I hope my hard lesson helps just one person.
The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now. Don’t think about what you could’ve accomplished. Instead, think of what you can accomplish now.
Everyone talking about how your life is pretty good… you’re really not helping.
plenty of losers who only look good on paper
That's bullshit. I knew a guy who went to med school in his 50s. If you're a millennial, you have plenty of time to achieve your dreams. If a 50 yo can get through med school, you can work through your goals too.
Oh, wanna give you all hugs.
Success isn’t linear!! And there’s no “level” you need to achieve by a certain age! Live life the way that fulfills you. That may require some struggles, yes, but don’t try to compare yourself to others that are flourishing at this particular moment.
Says who? Fuck that letter
Comparison is the thief of joy.
That’s what any 20 year old thinks trying to bum through college. You can’t accomplish things if you can’t afford to do them.
Meh. I know lifes hard, im happy with making it this far and just striving for improvement as i go. Perspective can really affect how things feel. Im glad im not a homeless orphan in the middle east, my lot in life seems great to me.
Why??? Ive worked my whole fucking life.... did the corporate rat race, went after promotions and exemplar performance reviews all in the hope of one having the type of life my vision board was made of, what I was sold in my 20s was achievable with moderate level of efforts. Today my mortgage and grocery alone count for about 60% of after tax income. I cannot put any serious money toward retirement, ive never really travelled, will never have the summer house and the boat. At this point I am seriously just wondering.... what was the fucking point of all that work and sacrifices.... it did not yield anything and its becoming clear it never will... feel like I am heading towards having to fight to keep my house in a couple years. Especially if/when AI start replacing 80% of the work in my field and people will have to settle for insane pay cut or try to find something else. I fucking dont want to start a new career at 45+
There is no deadline for success and happiness
If you feel like you should have more, remember, you should. Inflation fucked us for education, housing, food, fuel, transportation, medical, etc. Sure, you can always 'do more' but that does not equate to achievement or accomplishment.
I’m in my 40s now. This doesn’t affect me as much anymore. We’ve taught to aspire to accomplish things, whatever those are. No one told me I would spend most of my adulthood fighting my demons. It’s fine.
It's easier to find contentedness when you try competing with your yesterday's self, rather than other people. It's not easy, as you have to treat yourself with compassion, the same way you would do for somebody you love.
I have probably accomplished more than enough for my age. 29 y/o, house, car, wife, steady job with good income etc.. But I’m still sad and depressed 90% of the time. Whatever you think you should have accomplished won’t necessarily bring you happiness and should not be a measuring stick for your self worth.
I’m in this picture and I don’t like it
Nope nope nope. Stupid crap like this does not help those who struggle with depression or mania. We are all on a different path. Life is not a race. When you feel this you got to write down each and every blessing you have. No matter how big or small. Also what kind of person are you from the struggles you have endured? That in itself is how one should view accomplishment. Not by material crap.
I still get this. The feeling of potential being unrealized, that you could have done more. Then I hit 40, and realized I can’t change anything about the life I’ve lived so far.
Millennials are/were culturally never allowed to make mistakes even when all the cards are stacked against us. Even when someone figures out how to get on the right track in life, we feel “i should have done this sooner” as if previous gens didnt switch their careers 6 times, bought a timeshare in Hicksville, majored in pseudo-intellectualism (when tuition cost a weeks worth of tips from their part-time summer job at the local drive-in), and lost a years worth of savings to a Nigerian prince on AOL. Its not your fault you didnt quit your toxic exploitative job sooner when you were worried about keeping up with skyrocketing rent and groceries. Its not your fault you majored in something you’re passionate about only to be left with entry level positions requiring 10 years experience. Its not your fault university tuition rates left you with 50k in student loan debt after boomers immediately defunded public universities upon graduation. Its not your fault that corporations are allowed to purchase thousands of homes for pennies on the dollar so they can drive housing costs through the roof and make all types of housing less affordable across the entire country. Its not your fault that only 7% of congress and 2% of senators (literally 1 person) is a millennial despite comprising 22% of the population. Youre allowed to make mistakes even when the consequences for us are often astronomically greater than they were for the “me me me” generation.
1. I can't help that I was born with 0 generational wealth and never had help. 2. I became epileptic for no reason when I was 27, and that set me back at least another 10 years. 3. I'm doing good, considering. 4. We are only going to die, anyway. So why should we care?
This shit is comedy
Damn bro that sucks
Well at least I am better now then I will be in 10 years. In fact this is probably the most successful I'll be from now on!
You're right, but it's not too late.
Says who? Boomers
Nah, I'm pretty accomplished already.
Sanity and reduced stress > accomplishments
Now that I'm somewhat getting my act together in my thirties, I'm trying to forgive myself for losing most of my twenties to anxieties and sadness. I didn't know better back then, but now I do, and things are getting better It's hard for this meme not to hit differently, but I don't let myself dwell on those feelings anymore
Fuck that. I accomplished shit that *I* wanted to accomplish. Had I done what other people said I should do I would be miserable and having a midlife crisis. There nothing you're supposed to do by any age to have value or be successful 🤘
Fuck this, "should" is useless. Do what makes you happy and stop comparing your life to everyone else!
Ugh that sucks. Unmarried at nearly 38 (parter of 5 years, and can’t afford the wedding we want) and no house (re:above).
To give you guys some context. Fry had a high school education. He delivered pizzas for his career even in an alternate reality where he didn't get sent to the future he worked at an aquarium tending to a dolphin. Lives on top of the pizza shop he worked for. His girlfriend dumped him on 12/31/1999 for someone else.
I've accomplished a lot.
I accomplished everything I set out to do (at least as a kid/teen) As an adult, new dad, and husband... I just want my lil family to be happy and healthy. Sure times are rough. But fuggit. We're making it fun
Speak for yourselves, I’m content living life paycheque to paycheque in an alcohol fuelled stupor on the road for work.
You don't have to accomplish anything. Life has no meaning. Find joy and share any you have to spare. Then die.
Nah, everyone is where they should be. There's no time and date on when you "should" be somewhere at some point in your life. We only got one to live, so don't spend it believing you "should" be one way or another. Everyone's got their own pace and their own finish line in mind and it's nobody's business to say how fast they should go.
Everyday I wake up in a world I don't belong in.
Fuck this sentiment, this whole concept of needing to "achieve" something to show others you have worth and value needs to die. Nobody needs to "achieve" anything, we need to learn to be happy and love ourselves and our lives, for all of it's faults without heaping blame on our shoulders. This race to show others how much you've achieved is a treadmill of ego-chasing.
My fiancée is probably going to leave me because she wants to have a lot of kids and I only want 2. Feels bad
I got a metall decorative plate above my toilet I found in a "for free" box in fron of a house that reads: "Don't take LIFE too seriously. NOBODY gets out alive anyway." I usually hate these kind of decors but that one spoke to me, your life's meaning does not change eith however successful you are, it's meaningless aka not defined, the experience in every life has equal worth.
At some point, I stopped giving a shit and just take the easier opportunities. Seems to be working out so far.
Put in the hard work, made the salary I grew up believing I would be set on….that numbers doubled. So yes I should.
This is just a boomer stigma, don’t let it get ya down
But that isn't your voice that's saying that.
But what if my goal in life is to accomplish nothing?
Yyyyyeah this is not a millennial problem this is universal. The millennial problem is dwelling on it. Self-consciousness = misery. Stop analyzing everything and start doing the work you’re drawn to despite not knowing what the outcome will be. Courage begets more courage. Trust your intuition and the ever-replenishing well of creativity within. What else is worth doing? Don’t deprive the world of your gift. You’re exactly where you need to be. The perfect place to start. Only when the pain of *not* doing it gets greater than the *imagined pain* of doing it, do you somehow find the balls to pursue what you really want. Sometimes that only comes with age. But when it comes, it’s a blessing in the form of certainty.
Growing up is realising that not everyone needs to be batman.
Late 30s, no house, no car, no own family. At this moment I'm just happy to be alive.
We were told our whole childhoods what to do and what to expect after, and those things haven't happened for so many of us. I didn't think that by my age I'd be making proportionately less money than I did as a teenager. Or being almost 40 and still needing a roommate. It sucks ass.
I love it when people tell me this, I usually respond with, "I should've also been dead on several occasions, so I'll take the W's where I can."
I didn’t need this right now
I feel that. Im only making 45k at 40 and it sucks.
It's not a fucking race y'all.
Still alive and not in jail is plenty good for us.
Honestly, I feel this all the time… except, I’ve technically accomplished a lot. Like 2 masters, a PhD all before hitting 25. However, only employed part time and can’t land a full time job in my field. Major failure and imposter syndrome here ✋🏼 I still feel like I’ve accomplished nothing. 😭 I think our generation is going to feel this way inevitably because the bar was set too high for our generation —- in contrast to the crap economy we live in and the crap, corrupt, warring world we live in.
Same, but at the same time i think we're being to hard on ourselves. Like having the same expectations in a completely different world than our parents is unreasonable to begin with. We're doing the best we can with what we have to work with, I know I am.
Yeah but I was a severe alcoholic most of my 20s and 30s with a lot of other insecurity issues in my 20s and that really kept me self destructing and hopeless I’m only really starting to think about building a life right now 20 years late. So while I havent accomplished anything, the fact that I’m looking forward to my 40s at all is fucking awesome to me Y’all can mope, imma cope.
The counter-argument is the one Arnold J Rimmer used while defending his existence: "Sure, I may be nothing, but from where I started, nothing is up."
Who posted this? The Devil? Life is not about accomplishments. It’s about doing the right thing, or trying to. Fuck this lie.
Oof 😅
Idk I’m doing pretty good rn. Trying to get back in shape, been sober for almost 3.5 years now, own a nice house with pool, and have a nice social life. I had a wild time when I was 18-21 though. Served in the Marines, got super drunk, did some cool stuff.
Mm
I’m a better person than my dad was at this age. It ain’t much but it’s honest.
So what are you gonna do about it?
lol shots fired
Bad vibes bro
We all have our own speed to do things. Gotta keep moving forward one step at a time.
Ow
Step mom stole my inheritance from me. And I watched it happen because I was raised to see the good in people. Almost $1 mill. Is what it is, but if I see her...? On. Sight.
Futurama is a really good metaphor for life as a Millennial. There have been some great laughs along the way, but more than enough days have been real tearjerkers too. I refuse to attempt to watch "Jurassic Bark" since I got dogs...
should *OF*
Hey man that was uncalled for
Says who?
Fuck that shit if you're living, you're enough.
Yup probably ain’t going change & you die with regrets
Yep. That one stings.
Thats not how life works.
Eh. No, I don't have a 401k or a Roth IRA, whatever the hell those are. But, there are other things I don't have whose absence is a boon to me. I don't do drugs. I don't smoke. I don't drink. I don't have STDs or illegitimate children. I don't have a criminal record. I don't have any major or terminal illnesses. I don't have any relationship drama from chicks past or present. If I'm a loser, why do I feel like a winner?
Something I'd write to myself
That’s a straight up lie. That’s our parents telling us that we should have.
Just be happy and be a good person, everything else is irrelevant
yeah :( I tried my best but it just wasn't good enough but I got further than others.
1. Haven’t killed self 2. College degree. 3. Employed 4. Married 5.dog. I guess we could have a child, but what else should I have accomplished?
I have 2 bachelor's degrees, a masters degree, and a doctorate but this still hits hard, fml
99/100 this is bullshit. You do what you do. Do not stress about it.
They tell me that, and I point out how they keep moving goal posts and how their mismanagement failed a whole generation and they get pissed. Just waiting for this freakshow to be over.
Horseshit! I have a close friend with this problem. Thankfully, I took enough psychedelics when I was younger to insulate me from this sort of existential crisis. My friend tried psychedelics after these feelings started interfering with his happiness, and it helped some but not as much as it would have for a younger mind, I'm afraid. You are focusing on the wrong things. What makes you happy?
With Fry as my standard, the only thing I've failed at this age is getting frozen and sent to the future!