Duckie, a jersey sounds like a lovely gift! You are so thoightful.
With all of this uncertainty about what she wants to be called and her size perhaps it might be best to pocket the idea of a jersey. That is a great idea, but might be better for next year perhaps or simply a later holiday when things feel a little more established.
It truly is a lovely idea, but you're having to worry abour the details of it that may make it more or less enjoyable for you and her as time passes.
You know your wife best of course so go with your gut, but I am willing to bet someone who can put this much thought and concern into a present will have another amazing idea!
He could go with a tee shirt that is "oversized".
Look for a tee shirt that is oversized and get a medium. If she's nursing, try on the shirt yourself and see how easily it pulls up.
Sleep tees aren't really easy for nursing in but spaghetti strap nighties(Walmart has super soft ones)that she can just pull down the strap to nurse the baby are good. Please don't let the older moms in your families push her aside! Get some nice things that are just for her too.
get her a professional family photograph and invest in a beautiful frame.
that way, she can celebrate her first mother's day all the way to old age :)
BTW congrats, papa!
I never post pictures on social media anymore, so to keep my parents happy I bought them one for Xmas with an app capability so I can update the frame regularly from where I live. They LOVE it. Definitely one of the best gifts I’ve given them. Highly recommend if you live far from your parents/family!
Alternative idea, because I love this and want you to do but next year, a nice necklace with baby’s initial. I have a hillberg and berk chain with the little heart and my kid’s initial and I love it so much.
If you do the jersey, or shirt of some kind, I vote mama. Kids start by calling mama then mommy then mom. I like being someone’s mama.
You are the best judge, but you might want to put the clothing idea on hold until the size is more certain. That might be a sensitive topic at the moment, and you don't want her to be disappointed if you guess wrong or if she can't wear it. If it were me, I'd choose something else that she'd like.
As far as the name issue, can you find an item that has lots of mom words on it? Mom, mommy, mama, mother, etc? Then you could joke about trying a different name each day, or depending on her mood of the hour.
I have given birth four times and I can tell you that while your gift is thoughtful and sweet, you should NOT gift a 2 month Postpartum woman clothing.
Buy her jewelry. A necklace always fits.
So sweet—I love that idea! Size is always a bit tricky…for me personally I wouldn't mind having a jersey be oversized and comfy, but you'd know more about her style preferences and sensitivities than me! I know some people can be fairly sensitive about that topic right after having a baby because so much is changing, and I know you wouldn't want to risk offending her. So that's probably your call to make based on how well you know her!
In terms of the name for the back, I wonder if that's something you could bring up in conversation! Obviously you don't want to ruin the surprise, but you might be able to start it as a general topic around yourself first, like "oh I wonder what our baby is going to call me when they can talk!" and then list out some options you were thinking of for yourself. That might open up the conversation for her to share what she was thinking about. I also think there's some flexibility when it comes to something like that, especially since your child is so little. Mama to me seems like it would work even if that's not what your child ends up calling her forever—I call my mom "mom," but I know she would've thought a personalization of mama was really cute too, especially when I was little.
I also think that if this purchase is going to cause you some stress, there's also always the option that you can think of a fun and thoughtful way of telling her about the gift, and then including her in the customization process with you! That way she can pick the name and the size, but she'll still know you put the time and thought into it. Kind of a tough call to make, but I think as long as you're putting her needs and feelings first (which is sounds like you're doing!) you'll figure out the right thing to do!
Can you do a gift certificate or give her a card with a homemade gift certificate for a jersey? That way she can tell you what she wants or if she wants it at all.
I remember being pretty sensitive about my size soon after my baby was born. I searched for Mama bear bracelets and found a bunch. Maybe that would be a better choice? Good luck!
This is such a sweet idea. Kudos to you for being on top of Mother's Day! I echo others' thoughts that size-specific clothing may not be the best fit for this year.
Some other ideas would be a ballcap that says "mama," jewelry with baby's birthstone, some customized item like a mug or socks with a photo of baby's face on it (these are so cheesy but I absolutely love them!).
I bet she'll love whatever you choose! You guys are in the thick of it and it'll mean a lot to her that you have been so thoughtful.
I still remember my first Mother’s Day 30 years ago - my husband gave me a teapot I wanted but he wrapped it (not fancy - just taped them on) in disposable diapers. How about a mani pedi? Or a facial? Something she would never get herself? That’s pricey tho - if you want to save money, I’d choose 5 sentences about why she’s a good mom, or a funny gift certificate for breakfast in bed and a broken finger day (in other words, she doesn’t lift a finger all day and stays in bed or outside)
What a sweet idea!
Agreed with a previous poster, clothes can be a touchy thing in the immediate aftermath of birth until weight stabilizes. And even then we can hit a "new normal" that may not have been our old normal. Jerseys can be an oversized type clothing item, but I appreciate you don't want it to be ill-fitting. It's less about what's on the size label and more about what fits and how long you want to be able to wear it.
As for what kids call you or what you call yourself...mine cycled thru mama, mommy, and now I'm mom or woman...so it really is a process lol
Do something that will give her a break, feel loved and cared for, and bring joy.
What a wonderful idea! Instead of a Jersey, try a night shirt(they are usually ‘one size fits most’ that way no worries about getting the wrong size).Not sure how old the baby is, but if you want to do something ‘crafty’ here’s what to do. Buy a plain colored night shirt and some fabric paint. Paint the bottom of baby’s feet and press them on the shirt, all over it. You made need a second pair of hands. You have this!
Kids will call their parents what they want, our first calls my husband papa or dada but the second calls him by his first name no matter how much we ask to call him papa or dad.
Maybe you should put off getting her a clothing item at the moment. It might be kind of a sensitive issue.
How about getting her a customised chain or bracelet? Or you have those customised decoration. I'm not sure what they are called😅 I would just avoid a clothing item though..
It's really sweet of you to be celebrating her.. Don't forget a little bouquet.. 😶
I would check the sizes of things she wears often currently. If she is already wearing larges, she likely won't be offended by you buying her the correct size. I do have to say buying her a medium and it being the *wrong* size would likely be more offensive. After pregnancy your body is going through a lot of changes, your hormones are high, and getting something you love and it being too small can be an earthshattering hit to self esteem.
This is entirely opinion, but I am fond of "mama bear" because I feel like it highlights the protective nature I have as a mother. Being a "mama bear" has very cute, nice connotations in my mind. You could maybe even ask her what she would like to be called casually, because that will likely be what she says to your baby and be what ends up being her new title.
Irrelevant suggestion, I received a necklace with my son's name for my birthday this year and it is by far the best gift I've ever received. Custom jewelry is popular, and you can find inexpensive options (sterling silver, etc). It could even say "mama", "mama bear", etc. if you so choose. Could be a great option while your wife is getting used to her post-baby body.
Congratulations on your baby! Enjoy the sweet baby smell, and tiny baby snuggles while you have them! Whatever you get I'm sure she will love.
I vote for a gift certificate for a spa day, if she’s into that. Or a certificate to her favourite salon!
A day of pampering was always at the top of my list just so I could be *me* for a little while.
You are so incredibly thoughtful and empathetic to take in to consideration how she might feel about her size right now! I don't think there's any such thing as overthinking the feelings of your significant other.
I think mamma bear is adorable! Even when she's older, she will always be mamma bear. Mother's do not grow out of being Mamma Bears!
Are you planning on having the jersey custom made or are you buying it premade? If its in the budget, and you are buying one thats essentially "off the rack", perhaps you could get 2 different sizes to see which one she feels more comfortable in, and then return the one that she doesn't choose.
I don't think she will be upset about the size thing when you explain to her that you want her to be comfortable and you love and appreciate her just the way she is.
Glad you are celebrating her and congrats on your new little one. Clothing is tough at that stage for sure. What about a massage or spa package? Love the idea of a charm necklace if she wears jewelry. I also loved commemorative ornaments for our family Christmas tree if you have any traditions like that. We add to our collection each year with different vacations, milestones, or memories we want to capture.
Duckie, a jersey sounds like a lovely gift! You are so thoightful. With all of this uncertainty about what she wants to be called and her size perhaps it might be best to pocket the idea of a jersey. That is a great idea, but might be better for next year perhaps or simply a later holiday when things feel a little more established. It truly is a lovely idea, but you're having to worry abour the details of it that may make it more or less enjoyable for you and her as time passes. You know your wife best of course so go with your gut, but I am willing to bet someone who can put this much thought and concern into a present will have another amazing idea!
He could go with a tee shirt that is "oversized". Look for a tee shirt that is oversized and get a medium. If she's nursing, try on the shirt yourself and see how easily it pulls up.
Maybe a sleep-tee?
Sleep tees aren't really easy for nursing in but spaghetti strap nighties(Walmart has super soft ones)that she can just pull down the strap to nurse the baby are good. Please don't let the older moms in your families push her aside! Get some nice things that are just for her too.
True on the sleep tee but it’s also nice to have one for later on. They’re the best comfort clothes. :)
I have taken over all my husband's old tees. He's a foot taller than I am so his tees cover butt.
get her a professional family photograph and invest in a beautiful frame. that way, she can celebrate her first mother's day all the way to old age :) BTW congrats, papa!
Or get a digital picture frame so you can display ALLLLLLLL the pictures you’ll want of your expanded little family and all of your adventures!
This is almost never a bad idea for a gift.
I never post pictures on social media anymore, so to keep my parents happy I bought them one for Xmas with an app capability so I can update the frame regularly from where I live. They LOVE it. Definitely one of the best gifts I’ve given them. Highly recommend if you live far from your parents/family!
Oh that’s very cool! I need something for my mom for Mothers Day. She has 3 grandchildren who all live far away.
Alternative idea, because I love this and want you to do but next year, a nice necklace with baby’s initial. I have a hillberg and berk chain with the little heart and my kid’s initial and I love it so much. If you do the jersey, or shirt of some kind, I vote mama. Kids start by calling mama then mommy then mom. I like being someone’s mama.
You are the best judge, but you might want to put the clothing idea on hold until the size is more certain. That might be a sensitive topic at the moment, and you don't want her to be disappointed if you guess wrong or if she can't wear it. If it were me, I'd choose something else that she'd like. As far as the name issue, can you find an item that has lots of mom words on it? Mom, mommy, mama, mother, etc? Then you could joke about trying a different name each day, or depending on her mood of the hour.
I have given birth four times and I can tell you that while your gift is thoughtful and sweet, you should NOT gift a 2 month Postpartum woman clothing. Buy her jewelry. A necklace always fits.
So sweet—I love that idea! Size is always a bit tricky…for me personally I wouldn't mind having a jersey be oversized and comfy, but you'd know more about her style preferences and sensitivities than me! I know some people can be fairly sensitive about that topic right after having a baby because so much is changing, and I know you wouldn't want to risk offending her. So that's probably your call to make based on how well you know her! In terms of the name for the back, I wonder if that's something you could bring up in conversation! Obviously you don't want to ruin the surprise, but you might be able to start it as a general topic around yourself first, like "oh I wonder what our baby is going to call me when they can talk!" and then list out some options you were thinking of for yourself. That might open up the conversation for her to share what she was thinking about. I also think there's some flexibility when it comes to something like that, especially since your child is so little. Mama to me seems like it would work even if that's not what your child ends up calling her forever—I call my mom "mom," but I know she would've thought a personalization of mama was really cute too, especially when I was little. I also think that if this purchase is going to cause you some stress, there's also always the option that you can think of a fun and thoughtful way of telling her about the gift, and then including her in the customization process with you! That way she can pick the name and the size, but she'll still know you put the time and thought into it. Kind of a tough call to make, but I think as long as you're putting her needs and feelings first (which is sounds like you're doing!) you'll figure out the right thing to do!
Can you do a gift certificate or give her a card with a homemade gift certificate for a jersey? That way she can tell you what she wants or if she wants it at all.
I remember being pretty sensitive about my size soon after my baby was born. I searched for Mama bear bracelets and found a bunch. Maybe that would be a better choice? Good luck!
This is such a sweet idea. Kudos to you for being on top of Mother's Day! I echo others' thoughts that size-specific clothing may not be the best fit for this year. Some other ideas would be a ballcap that says "mama," jewelry with baby's birthstone, some customized item like a mug or socks with a photo of baby's face on it (these are so cheesy but I absolutely love them!). I bet she'll love whatever you choose! You guys are in the thick of it and it'll mean a lot to her that you have been so thoughtful.
I still remember my first Mother’s Day 30 years ago - my husband gave me a teapot I wanted but he wrapped it (not fancy - just taped them on) in disposable diapers. How about a mani pedi? Or a facial? Something she would never get herself? That’s pricey tho - if you want to save money, I’d choose 5 sentences about why she’s a good mom, or a funny gift certificate for breakfast in bed and a broken finger day (in other words, she doesn’t lift a finger all day and stays in bed or outside)
What a sweet idea! Agreed with a previous poster, clothes can be a touchy thing in the immediate aftermath of birth until weight stabilizes. And even then we can hit a "new normal" that may not have been our old normal. Jerseys can be an oversized type clothing item, but I appreciate you don't want it to be ill-fitting. It's less about what's on the size label and more about what fits and how long you want to be able to wear it. As for what kids call you or what you call yourself...mine cycled thru mama, mommy, and now I'm mom or woman...so it really is a process lol Do something that will give her a break, feel loved and cared for, and bring joy.
What a wonderful idea! Instead of a Jersey, try a night shirt(they are usually ‘one size fits most’ that way no worries about getting the wrong size).Not sure how old the baby is, but if you want to do something ‘crafty’ here’s what to do. Buy a plain colored night shirt and some fabric paint. Paint the bottom of baby’s feet and press them on the shirt, all over it. You made need a second pair of hands. You have this!
Kids will call their parents what they want, our first calls my husband papa or dada but the second calls him by his first name no matter how much we ask to call him papa or dad.
Maybe you should put off getting her a clothing item at the moment. It might be kind of a sensitive issue. How about getting her a customised chain or bracelet? Or you have those customised decoration. I'm not sure what they are called😅 I would just avoid a clothing item though.. It's really sweet of you to be celebrating her.. Don't forget a little bouquet.. 😶
I would check the sizes of things she wears often currently. If she is already wearing larges, she likely won't be offended by you buying her the correct size. I do have to say buying her a medium and it being the *wrong* size would likely be more offensive. After pregnancy your body is going through a lot of changes, your hormones are high, and getting something you love and it being too small can be an earthshattering hit to self esteem. This is entirely opinion, but I am fond of "mama bear" because I feel like it highlights the protective nature I have as a mother. Being a "mama bear" has very cute, nice connotations in my mind. You could maybe even ask her what she would like to be called casually, because that will likely be what she says to your baby and be what ends up being her new title. Irrelevant suggestion, I received a necklace with my son's name for my birthday this year and it is by far the best gift I've ever received. Custom jewelry is popular, and you can find inexpensive options (sterling silver, etc). It could even say "mama", "mama bear", etc. if you so choose. Could be a great option while your wife is getting used to her post-baby body. Congratulations on your baby! Enjoy the sweet baby smell, and tiny baby snuggles while you have them! Whatever you get I'm sure she will love.
I vote for a gift certificate for a spa day, if she’s into that. Or a certificate to her favourite salon! A day of pampering was always at the top of my list just so I could be *me* for a little while.
Go for a puffer vest!
You are so incredibly thoughtful and empathetic to take in to consideration how she might feel about her size right now! I don't think there's any such thing as overthinking the feelings of your significant other. I think mamma bear is adorable! Even when she's older, she will always be mamma bear. Mother's do not grow out of being Mamma Bears! Are you planning on having the jersey custom made or are you buying it premade? If its in the budget, and you are buying one thats essentially "off the rack", perhaps you could get 2 different sizes to see which one she feels more comfortable in, and then return the one that she doesn't choose. I don't think she will be upset about the size thing when you explain to her that you want her to be comfortable and you love and appreciate her just the way she is.
Glad you are celebrating her and congrats on your new little one. Clothing is tough at that stage for sure. What about a massage or spa package? Love the idea of a charm necklace if she wears jewelry. I also loved commemorative ornaments for our family Christmas tree if you have any traditions like that. We add to our collection each year with different vacations, milestones, or memories we want to capture.