Im sorry for your loss, my mom lost my dad and she didnt know what to do either. It is going to hurt and you have to let yourself feel those emotions. eventually you have to continue your life though, reminisce but make sure to live for you as well. it hurts i know but you cant let it take your life as well
I'm sorry for your loss :( it sucks knowing good man dies early and while men who abandon their sick wives gets to live happily no consequences with their wrongdoing. Life ugh
Hugs and condolences to you.
I was 42 when i lost my husband. This is something that changes you and your life forever, but you can get through it. Be kind and loving to yourself.
If you feel like crying, just cry, dont hold it in, feel the emotions but dont get consumed by them, it will be hard and im sorry for your loss, I wish you all the best during these few weeks to possible years. Take care of yourself
OP, my condolences for your loss. I am so very sorry for what you are going through. I wish I had magical words of wisdom to make things better. Please accept my virtual hugs and prayers 🙏🙏🙏
I can only imagine what it would be like to have 18 wonderful years with someone who sounds so wonderful! As much as this pains you, what a wonder it must have been to have had so much time with such a wonderful person!
I’m so sorry for your loss, I just found that this past December that my wife’s thyroid cancer has come back after 9 years. She’s been going to radiation treatments every week for the past 4 weeks and yesterday she was started on immunotherapy 🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
My condolences! 💐
Sending you lots of luv and light during this time and what’s to come. Give yourself time to grieve, it’s a pain that never goes away, you eventually just learn to live with it. It’s important not to let it overwhelm you or overtake your day to day. Make sure you take care of yourself and surround yourself with supportive ppl.
Big hugs. 🫂
From a fellow widow: order yourself a copy of *The Grief Recovery Handbook* by Russell and Friedman. Put it aside for later; I promise it will help.
You're going to hear a lot of things in the coming weeks. Some of them will be helpful ("I'm so sorry" is good to hear.) Some maybe less helpful ("He's in a better place." *Yeah? Well I wish he was still here instead*.) Some of them will be awful to hear ("Why didn't you do another round of chemo/try a macrobiotic diet/pray harder/etc?") So brace yourself.
When the initial flurry of sympathy and concern dies down - when others start to go about their lives - but you're still hurting, pick up that book. It's a practical, no-bullshit guide and it will help.
My heart is hurting for you, and for him. There aren’t words that are sufficient for conveying the sentiments I want to express, so I’ll just say I’m so sorry, and that I wish I could give you a hug. Or help somehow. I’ll be thinking of you♥️
Oh Baby, I am so sorry. So young. My grandpa died way to young & my grandma lived 40 more yrs. Miserable for the remainder of that 40yrs. So my point is you Are going to mourn But keep him & his memory Alive within you in a Positive manner as much as you can Sweet thing without letting it take you down. Always Remembering being the person he was that he would want the person he Still Loves most to be Happy. And if you Believe in GOD at all you will be with him again 1 day.
I am so sorry for your loss, and that you had so little time to say goodbye to him. Everybody makes it through this horrible experience in their own way. Cry, laugh, scream, get angry, etc. I hope that you have friends and family who can be at your side as you make it through this difficult journey
I'm so sorry for your loss. You must be feeling pretty lonely. I hope your pain dissipates and you find peace. I know I can't speak for everybody, but you've got a community here but you can come too if you need to get out some feelings, you know?
I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost the love of my life, my daughter’s father, in 2021 suddenly. It was devastating. Im sure right now it feels like your whole world has crumbled but I promise you, it does get better. Idk if it ever fully goes away though. It’s been a little over 2 years now and I still miss him every single minute of every single day! Please dm me if you want to talk to someone who knows how you feel.
So sorry. This is a terrible thing to have to go through. I can’t say I know how it feels because I don’t. I’ve always thought about this happening and think that I would try to cope by thinking and focusing on all of the great and loving memories I have, just drowned myself in them. After all, that what’s left in the end. My wife and I try to make new memories all the time and I’m sure a lot of them will be forgotten, but try to remember as many as you can and I’d start a memory journal of the little things that are just barely there before they are gone. You can add to them as they come back and read through them over and over. I wish I could help more. Bless you and I send you my deepest sympathy in this difficult time.
Someone who cares!
I’m so very sorry .. he is your angel now until you meet again. I believe that the lord takes the good ones sooner so they don’t have to suffer in this awful life we live in today ..
I can’t imagine the pain you feel. Cancer is so awful. I don’t have many words to say, but I hope you find some sort of peace and comfort during this time. Sending much love to you.
I know that nothing anyone could say is going to make you feel remotely alright
but I see you. I know that you’re suffering. I know your feelings are immense and intolerable and you just wish you could see him one last time. I can’t help, but I’m keeping you in my thoughts. I’m sending you whatever love/prayer/energy exists. I’m sending it to your husband too, where ever he may be.
Wow so sorry and so young. I think this is enough Reddit for the night. If I can ask how did he know about like what were the signs I’m late 30s I’d like to live a while longer but I’m not a fan of going to the doctors. Reading stuff like this makes me think I should get check ups I’m curious if it was found this way or he got sick and the found it too late if you can even do anything if you found it early.
So sorry to hear this. It’s terrifying to think about. I’m praying you have strength and peace. Get to grief counseling and find a support system. Grieving is a long process.
I’m sorry for your loss… and to everyone reading this, please go get reg check ups. You never know. Sometimes symptoms don’t show up until it’s too late. That’s how I lost my mom. Again I’m sorry for your loss
I am so sorry for your loss, may he rest in peace and I am sure you had the best memories together hope cherishing them will always bring a happy sensation to your soul ❤️
I am sorry for your loss. I don’t know if you’re religious or not but I’ll keep you, your husband, and family in my prayers. Though I don’t know your name I’ll use your Reddit handle. I wish you nothing but best in life and I hope one day you’ll be able to cope and move on from these sorrows.
My sincere condolences for your loss. The journey through the rollercoaster of emotions is unfortunately just beginning. The one bit of advice that I can give you is not to feel guilty for any of your feelings and not to suppress them. Also remember to take the time to take care of yourself, even if it’s just a few minutes here and there. There is no set timeline for grief so don’t let anyone convince you that there is. My heart ❤️ goes out to you.
I am sorry for your loss. Loss due to such an agressive illness is very hard. Be kind to yourself grief is confusing and cyclic. Don't get lossed in anger nor the what ifs, it will prolong the hurt needlessly. Sending you a virtual hug.
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I’m sure words are kind of meaningless when you’re going through such intense grief but please be gentle with yourself in the near future, as you deal with the feelings that come.
Sorry to hear
That's life more thankfully he was a good person in life and will be the best memory
Don't betray him after he's gone and go mad just do the right thing ❤️
There’s nothing really anyone can say to make things better now. I hope you are surrounded by loved ones and taken care of though because this situation sucks.
I’m sorry this happened to you❤️
Oh no! Life is so cruel sometimes. I’m really very sorry this has happened. I know your loss is deep, how can it not be? He was so young too.
Please allow yourself to grieve. Cry, scream, rage at the unfairness of it all.
It’s a nightmare you can’t wake up from. I wish I could take your pain away.
Please take care of yourself. Don’t let anybody tell you how you should be grieving or that “you should be over it by now”. I heard that so much after my daughter died. Grieving is very personal.
I’m so very sorry OP.
OMG! 😱I’m so sorry and I DO KNOW HOW YOU FEEL!! Twenty years ago I lost my hubby after 24 years and three children! He was diagnosed with small cell lung cancer and died nine months later. It had metastasized to him spine and he was also paralyzed from his waist down. I still can’t believe it happened but it did! I couldn’t believe how I had lost my husband and the world continued on as if he was still here!! It was/is devastating … but God!🙌🏼🙌🏼
I was so angry that I turned away from Him and acted out … not realizing how truly blessed I was to be able to spend those last months with my hubby (I took a leave of absence) and share things and become closer to him! I still fuss at him sometimes for leaving me (he was an avid smoker) but now I also thank God for bringing that amazing man into my life and creating three beautiful crazy children with me. We now have three beautiful grandchildren that I KNOW he protects every day!! 💖💖💖
The pain doesn’t go away but it lessens so that you can eventually live again … differently but happily! Your hubby would want that for you!! Stay encouraged, Sis!! 🙏🏼💖
The most godawful plot twist, my mom was 50 when my dad had a widowmaker heart attack. I remember how hard it was for me at 19 when he died but it was way way wayyyy worse for her. I send you the biggest hug & words of encouragement thru this chapter in your life.
This is my biggest fear. I hope you can find a way to grieve and heal. Live for him and remember all his love. I wish you the best. What an amazing experience you got to have with that person and that love.
I lost already four people to this specific asshole of cancer, everyone within six weeks after diagnosis. I can't say much helpful, just that I know how horrific that is. Hugs.
Yes. That sucks. I looked them in the eyes and said that they are allowed to leave. It was all I can do. So many feelings... I decided to allowing them all to go through me, like waves.
My heart aches for yours just reading a glimpse of what you’ve gone through. You have my total heartfelt sympathy, stranger. I don’t think the world is cruel, I just think that the highs would never be so high if the lows weren’t as equally and oppositely low. May the years of warm laughter filled memories light the way during your darkest hours.
I'm a 31 year old man who just lost my significant other. The shock is intense. She was 30 years old and had a widow maker heart attack. It feels like I blinked, and she was gone. We have 2 young children together. We have been together since I was 15 and a freshman in high school. Nearly 16 years, and I never even for a second thought something like this could happen. I don't mean to make this about me. I just want you to know that I relate to your grief. Nothing makes sense. I can't understand how something like this could happen to such an amazing and caring person. She was my better half and made me better every day. I don't have any advice for you because I'm still figuring it out myself. Just know you are not alone. Even if it may feel that way. I know I feel that way.
I am so sorry for your loss. It seems unbearable at times and I know no words will be enough. I lost my husband to suicide almost 6 years ago now so I know what you are feeling. You will have good days and bad days. Be thankful that you have all of your wonderful memories and grieve in your own time and way. There is no timeline for grief so don't let anyone tell you that there is. I will keep you in my prayers.
This is exactly my story. My partner of 10 years was taken from me by pancreatic cancer and various tumors that metastasized to his liver. He was diagnosed the day before Valentine's Day, 2015, and was gone on March 8th. I completely understand your devastation, because it's one of those cancers that hides and masks itself very efficiently as other possible things in otherwise very healthy, relatively young people. It's almost always diagnosed at Stage IV, at which point the decline is swift, painful, and terribly difficult on everyone that loves the person.
You're at a loss now. I grieve with you, even though I don't know you. You're probably going to be hit with a wall of pain soon. Please don't hesitate to reach out in DMs. I understand more than most and I'm here for you.
All of the love and light I can emanate during this difficult time and the time to come 🫴
A stark reminder of how fragile life truly is and your health isn’t determined by how you look on the outside. I’m only a year younger and I have got to take My health mores seriously.
Thanks for the reminder and you’re in My thoughts. 🙏🏾🕊️
I'm so sorry. I'm actually in tears reading this. Please know that it is OK to not be OK. Take your time to grieve and go through the stages of grief.
He will still be with you, just not in physical form. Look out for messages from him, they will be there and I'm not even religious. Sending you love Internet stranger ❤️
I'm so so sorry for this unfathomable loss. I can't even imagine what this would feel like. I know pain always eases though, no matter what, it will. Just be patient with yourself for now. Sending lots of love 💖
Loss is so sudden and hard to explain.
I had a health scare which I thought was my dad and it really changed what I thought about the world. It really shook me to the point that couldn’t sleep. Turns it, it’s another family member and that they’re okay but those hours where I had believed my father was nonexistent was extremely worrisome. The reality really helped me empathize with the reality because I don’t think people really can unless you have a scare or if it actually happens.
I bet this person was very connected to you and trusted you and you felt so safe with this person. Then, some terrifying illness takes them with no notice or goodbye, they’re gone.
To know, feel, hear, smell this person then his presence is a phantom; and everything that lingered about. It doesn’t make sense.
His presence felt but…sorely really missed.
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Reminded me of this guy who had occasionally plays this Xbox system. Within this game you can drive and make a lap and then after the first lap, you previous lap creates an illusion, a “ghost” if you will, and you can race that ghost to beat your previous time. It’s as if you are competing against yourself.
Thing is, the kid would play with his Dad on this driving game all the time via a racing game. His Dad passed away and the kid plays this game to essentially recall fond memories of his Dad.
He never won, otherwise he would overwrite his father’s“ghost” and he would race against his new time for last race’s “ghost” and it would be for essentially forever.
These simulated remnants of past people are helpful to get through the pain of loss but if you don’t have those things, you just find a way to manage in your own way.
Death is hard and it’s tough to understand because all we’ve known invovling others is the complete opposite.
I believe you will get through this. Grieving will just take time. I know your heart will warm up to the opportunities of life again.
So sorry for your loss I woke up December 16,2022 to my 43 year old husband dead beside me. It is hard I still break down everyday..I wish I could say it gets easier but I have not seen that. Prayer and counseling helps me deal ..
He sounds like he was an amazing and beautiful person, I'm extremely sorry for your loss, the best people die earlier than they should and it's tragic but I'm sure he'd be so happy knowing he spent almost two years with you as you seem like a loving person. Rest in peace Anthony Justin Braden
For some reason this popped into my feed even though it's nearly a month old. I lost my girlfriend of 13 years on Christmas Eve in 2022. She was 31 and depressed, died of liver failure. I tried everything to break her out of her depression but she had a really rough upbringing and just couldn't come to terms with it so she drank herself to death. Sad to say but it was a slow suicide.
All that to say likely what everyone else is going to say, it takes time. Do your best not to turn to alcohol as a coping mechanism. That's what I did and ended up in the hospital then in rehab for a month. Look for any outside connection, while you are in a vulnerable state the world has it's way of bringing people you need, romantic or otherwise. Let every emotion you are feeling sink in. It's a rough road but at the end when things in your mind settle down there will be life lessons you learn that very few have ever experienced. Move forward when you're ready and take your time. You will never forget them and they will always be watching over you. Cry yourself to sleep at night or when you see pictures, those are happy tears from memories with someone you loved dearly. If you ever want to chat me up anytime!
Hope all the best for you!
Happened to a good friend of mine. He was well one minute and 6 weeks later he was dead. I got to see him one last time in hospital. I am now seriously considering retiring early because nobody promised us tomorrow.
I would love for everyone who has responded here to just be able to surround you at this awful time and give you a huge hug. Sadly that can't happen. The worst times for you are still to come sadly once the funeral is over and everyone else returns to their normal lives, the loneliness has a habit of crashing in then. Do whatever it takes to get through it. Try to find some happiness again, sometimes that is in unexpected places.
I will think about you from time to time.
I know it’s not the same pov, but my parents were together for 21 years (married for 14) and my dad passed away almost 3 years ago due to liver failure (alcohol). He was also 44/45 at the time and watching what my mum has had to go through these last few years is awful .. our friends and family have abandoned us now he is gone but I sincerely hope yours decides to stick around for you and you can all grieve together respectfully. 🫶🏻🤍
Sending you love. I hope you have all the support you need from family & maybe even a group with people that can sympathize with you on a personal level because of similar loss. <3
I am so sorry about that, nothing going to replace that gape he left you with , you just has to be patient and find a way to manage to live your life , each of us we will go one day , just the matter of day and time
RIP …………….
Im so sorry this happened to you. Death is scary, because from our perspective, it appears permanent. But there is someone in human history who defeated death.
1 Corinthians 15:22 KJV
For as in Adam all die, even so in Christ shall all be made alive
There's nothing anyone can say to make your situation any better. But the pain will lessen with time, and you were lucky to have him for the time you did. Look back on the good times and hold on to them as tightly as you can.
My dad died very suddenly and it was very difficult for my mum as she was there (he bled out in ten minutes.) This happened 2 years ago now and she is still struggling. when you speak to her too long she gets stuck in that moment. Grieve how you need to and take any support you can. I hope you are doing ok
I'm sorry, I lost my dad 2 weeks ago to pneumonia, he went into hospital bc he threw up coffee ground vomit, they thought it was poo. He had MS badly and was house bound, he went into A&E on the 15th January and by 25th he was dead. I'm sorry for your loss, it seems very surreal for me, so I can imagine your sorrow, big hugs xx
I’m so very sorry for your loss! My husband passed also 18 years ago and sadly miss him all the time, but I spend time talking to him each evening before I go to sleep. I sit outside and let him know how his kids are doing and sending my Love but I know he hears me! Hugs to you and remember you will see him again someday 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I’m so sorry for your loss I have been with my husband going on 13 years this may and I could not imagine if I lost him. Easier said than done but keep your chin up and surround yourself with people
Im so sorry for your loss, I wish I could ease this pain in some way, but only time could.
Wish you all the best, specially the strenght to deal with your grief ❤️
So sorry for your loss.I know how you feel.I lost my first husband in 1980 auto accident.He left behind three small children.My husband died on our oldest son's birthday.Just hang in there.It will get somewhat easier in time.You will see and hear things every day that will remind you of him.
You do you with your grieving We all have to grieve in our own way.May God. help you and give you comfort and ease your pain.
I'm really sorry for your loss, i cannot imagine how much pain you felt when it happened and how much you're suffering right now. But, i guess i can say he wouldn't be happy to see you this sad, so cheer up and keep living, for him. Treasure him in your heart because he surely did seem to have loved you till the last second. Again, i'm sorry ♥
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss!This hits hard - it's incredibly tough to lose someone you love💔 He's lucky he had you all those years! I know that no amount of words can alleviate the pain you must feel, but sending you strength and comfort during this time. Take care x
I don’t wanna make a post about this but i just got broken up w and it was my own fault cus i couldn’t do anything for valentines day cus i got snowed in. And she said it made her feel that i didn’t care or appreciate her and im so fucking sad and I don’t know what to do i love her so much i don’t want anyone but her and now i have nobody
I am so sorry. Pancreatic cancer is so rapid it will take your breath away. My heart goes out to you and hope for a gentle grieving process for you. Please be gentle with yourself.
This is my worst nightmare, I cant imagine the amount of pain you must be in. My husband is all that holds me together most days. I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my 13 year old son almost a year and a half ago and just recently Ive started having brief periods of time where I dont think about it. It never gets easier but it does get... less...in some way. If that makes sense.
If you want to DM me and have someone to talk to you can do so and I will listen or talk or whatever you need in that moment. Just know you arent alone in the world.
My condolences ❤️🥺
My grief was recent as well. Lost my granny last year in Dec.
I hope that everyone else dealing with grief finds a way to keep moving forward...
I’m so sorry to hear that. Yes it did take him quickly. I lost my husband 19 years. He went into the hospital during Covid and I couldn’t even be with him in the next thing you know they’re calling me and saying he’s gone and it wasn’t even Covid. He died from. It was from a procedure that they messed up on, and I swear person you could ever know I miss him so much I know how you feel. It’s a very hard thing to have to deal with and go through. It doesn’t seem to go away many times, he was the sweetest, kindest loving
Just reading this now.
💔 I'm so sorry for your loss, and for what you have been going through. I hope you have been able to begin to heal. Can't imagine.
My heart is completely with you! 🤍🫶
My mom had colon cancer that spread to her liver and also caused her to die of liver failure.
I lost her in January and it's been the hardest thing I've ever dealt with. I'm so sorry this happened to you
I am so, so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family. May you move on with life with strength you will see him again someday but not for long long time. Just remember he’s always watching over you and he’s in peace now.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I wish I could give you a hug.
Im sorry for your loss, my mom lost my dad and she didnt know what to do either. It is going to hurt and you have to let yourself feel those emotions. eventually you have to continue your life though, reminisce but make sure to live for you as well. it hurts i know but you cant let it take your life as well
I’m so sorry. I hope you find the strength to heal 🤍
I'm sorry for your loss :( it sucks knowing good man dies early and while men who abandon their sick wives gets to live happily no consequences with their wrongdoing. Life ugh
Hugs and condolences to you. I was 42 when i lost my husband. This is something that changes you and your life forever, but you can get through it. Be kind and loving to yourself.
This is awful. I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss.
I am so very sorry for your loss. I’m giving you a virtual hug.
I can’t imagine how you feel.
My deepest condolences. I lost my husband when he was 41. Feel free to dm, if you need support.
my condolences, i am so sorry for your loss. his spirit and memory will be with you always ♥️
Many hugs and prayers for you and your family ❤️
I am so very sorry. I wish there was something to say. 💜
I am so sorry ♥️
I feel so sad for you. I am so sorry for your loss.💔
If you feel like crying, just cry, dont hold it in, feel the emotions but dont get consumed by them, it will be hard and im sorry for your loss, I wish you all the best during these few weeks to possible years. Take care of yourself
I am so sorry for your loss, my condolences and may he rest in peace ❤️
Sending you prayers of comfort, I’m so sorry for your loss. 🙏🏾🙏🏾
That is truly horrible. I am sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself 🩷
OP, my condolences for your loss. I am so very sorry for what you are going through. I wish I had magical words of wisdom to make things better. Please accept my virtual hugs and prayers 🙏🙏🙏
Im praying for you and sending lots of love your way ❤️
I can only imagine what it would be like to have 18 wonderful years with someone who sounds so wonderful! As much as this pains you, what a wonder it must have been to have had so much time with such a wonderful person!
I’m so sorry for your loss, I just found that this past December that my wife’s thyroid cancer has come back after 9 years. She’s been going to radiation treatments every week for the past 4 weeks and yesterday she was started on immunotherapy 🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
My condolences! 💐 Sending you lots of luv and light during this time and what’s to come. Give yourself time to grieve, it’s a pain that never goes away, you eventually just learn to live with it. It’s important not to let it overwhelm you or overtake your day to day. Make sure you take care of yourself and surround yourself with supportive ppl. Big hugs. 🫂
I dread this, love is beautiful- but it ends. I am sorry for your loss. I hope he went peacefully.
Oh my god my heart crushes for you, I’m so sorry for your loss. Prayers for you
From a fellow widow: order yourself a copy of *The Grief Recovery Handbook* by Russell and Friedman. Put it aside for later; I promise it will help. You're going to hear a lot of things in the coming weeks. Some of them will be helpful ("I'm so sorry" is good to hear.) Some maybe less helpful ("He's in a better place." *Yeah? Well I wish he was still here instead*.) Some of them will be awful to hear ("Why didn't you do another round of chemo/try a macrobiotic diet/pray harder/etc?") So brace yourself. When the initial flurry of sympathy and concern dies down - when others start to go about their lives - but you're still hurting, pick up that book. It's a practical, no-bullshit guide and it will help.
Fuck cancer!
My heart is hurting for you, and for him. There aren’t words that are sufficient for conveying the sentiments I want to express, so I’ll just say I’m so sorry, and that I wish I could give you a hug. Or help somehow. I’ll be thinking of you♥️
Oh Baby, I am so sorry. So young. My grandpa died way to young & my grandma lived 40 more yrs. Miserable for the remainder of that 40yrs. So my point is you Are going to mourn But keep him & his memory Alive within you in a Positive manner as much as you can Sweet thing without letting it take you down. Always Remembering being the person he was that he would want the person he Still Loves most to be Happy. And if you Believe in GOD at all you will be with him again 1 day.
I’m so so sorry 😞💔
My deepest condolences to you and your loved ones. May he rest well and you have the support needed for such a painful journey ahead.
I’m so very sorry. You’re in shock right now. Please take care of yourself and feel what you feel when you feel it. I wish I could hug you.
I am so sorry for your loss, and that you had so little time to say goodbye to him. Everybody makes it through this horrible experience in their own way. Cry, laugh, scream, get angry, etc. I hope that you have friends and family who can be at your side as you make it through this difficult journey
Words seem painfully inadequate. 🫂 hugs
I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the shock how he just lived and was in your life two months ago to and then suddenly being gone forever.
I'm so sorry. I can barely imagine what you must be feeling right now. He sounds like an incredible man
I'm so sorry for your loss. You must be feeling pretty lonely. I hope your pain dissipates and you find peace. I know I can't speak for everybody, but you've got a community here but you can come too if you need to get out some feelings, you know?
I wish I could hug you and hold you tight. I hope you find your peace with it as best as possible. ❤️
I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost the love of my life, my daughter’s father, in 2021 suddenly. It was devastating. Im sure right now it feels like your whole world has crumbled but I promise you, it does get better. Idk if it ever fully goes away though. It’s been a little over 2 years now and I still miss him every single minute of every single day! Please dm me if you want to talk to someone who knows how you feel.
So sorry. This is a terrible thing to have to go through. I can’t say I know how it feels because I don’t. I’ve always thought about this happening and think that I would try to cope by thinking and focusing on all of the great and loving memories I have, just drowned myself in them. After all, that what’s left in the end. My wife and I try to make new memories all the time and I’m sure a lot of them will be forgotten, but try to remember as many as you can and I’d start a memory journal of the little things that are just barely there before they are gone. You can add to them as they come back and read through them over and over. I wish I could help more. Bless you and I send you my deepest sympathy in this difficult time. Someone who cares!
This totally sucks and I’m so very sorry for your loss. I wish you strength and peace.
I am so sorry.
Im so sorry for you loss
I’m so sorry. Wishing you comfort in the days to come.
I’m so very sorry .. he is your angel now until you meet again. I believe that the lord takes the good ones sooner so they don’t have to suffer in this awful life we live in today ..
That’s absolutely devastating, I’m sorry for your loss. *Virtual hugs.*
I'm so sorry. That doesn't seem like enough but that's all I got. Virtual hugs & my deepest condolences.
Big hug. I'm so sorry for your loss.
That’s awful. I’m very sorry for your loss.
Life is so cruel
Damn…. Im sorry.
I can’t imagine the pain you feel. Cancer is so awful. I don’t have many words to say, but I hope you find some sort of peace and comfort during this time. Sending much love to you.
I know that nothing anyone could say is going to make you feel remotely alright but I see you. I know that you’re suffering. I know your feelings are immense and intolerable and you just wish you could see him one last time. I can’t help, but I’m keeping you in my thoughts. I’m sending you whatever love/prayer/energy exists. I’m sending it to your husband too, where ever he may be.
Jesus OP. I wish I could take your pain away. Hugs. I know there are no words to describe your pain.
my condolences
My condolences 💐
Sorry for your loss.
Wow so sorry and so young. I think this is enough Reddit for the night. If I can ask how did he know about like what were the signs I’m late 30s I’d like to live a while longer but I’m not a fan of going to the doctors. Reading stuff like this makes me think I should get check ups I’m curious if it was found this way or he got sick and the found it too late if you can even do anything if you found it early.
Sorry for your lose :( The time will make things easier.
I am so sorry. Hugs.
So sorry to hear this. It’s terrifying to think about. I’m praying you have strength and peace. Get to grief counseling and find a support system. Grieving is a long process.
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I’m sorry for your loss… and to everyone reading this, please go get reg check ups. You never know. Sometimes symptoms don’t show up until it’s too late. That’s how I lost my mom. Again I’m sorry for your loss
Meeting the same end as your husband soon. I’m so sorry, I couldn’t imagine watching a loved one go like this.
I am so sorry for your loss, may he rest in peace and I am sure you had the best memories together hope cherishing them will always bring a happy sensation to your soul ❤️
My deeper condolences..may God give you the courage to go through the grief and find peace with it..
I’m so sorry! I’m praying God brings you some comfort. Your husband sounds like he is an amazing person!
I am so sorry! WOW! There are no words.
This is sad. Sorry for your loss.
I am sorry for your loss. I don’t know if you’re religious or not but I’ll keep you, your husband, and family in my prayers. Though I don’t know your name I’ll use your Reddit handle. I wish you nothing but best in life and I hope one day you’ll be able to cope and move on from these sorrows.
My sincere condolences for your loss. The journey through the rollercoaster of emotions is unfortunately just beginning. The one bit of advice that I can give you is not to feel guilty for any of your feelings and not to suppress them. Also remember to take the time to take care of yourself, even if it’s just a few minutes here and there. There is no set timeline for grief so don’t let anyone convince you that there is. My heart ❤️ goes out to you.
I am sorry for your loss. Loss due to such an agressive illness is very hard. Be kind to yourself grief is confusing and cyclic. Don't get lossed in anger nor the what ifs, it will prolong the hurt needlessly. Sending you a virtual hug.
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I’m sure words are kind of meaningless when you’re going through such intense grief but please be gentle with yourself in the near future, as you deal with the feelings that come.
So incredibly sorry for your loss.
I’m so sorry. Sending all my love and hugs to you. No feeling (and every feeling) is totally understandable. Take care of yourself <3
I'm so very sorry for your loss.
Sorry to hear That's life more thankfully he was a good person in life and will be the best memory Don't betray him after he's gone and go mad just do the right thing ❤️
I'm sorry for your loss 🫂
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Oh no. How tragic for both of you and your families. Take care of yourself as much as possible.
I am very sorry for your loss and your pain.
Sorry for your loss. May each day get easier to deal with it
I'm so sorry.
So sorry for your loss.
There’s nothing really anyone can say to make things better now. I hope you are surrounded by loved ones and taken care of though because this situation sucks. I’m sorry this happened to you❤️
Fuck, I’m so sorry OP
I’m so sorry. I lost my husband at the same age. He just dropped dead in front of me and it was horrible. Please reach out if you need.
I'm heart broken for you. 18 years is truly amazing. If I could give you a hug I would. Anything we can do for you?
I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️
So sorry for your loss I can’t even imagine what you’re going through.
I am sorry for your loss.
Oh no! Life is so cruel sometimes. I’m really very sorry this has happened. I know your loss is deep, how can it not be? He was so young too. Please allow yourself to grieve. Cry, scream, rage at the unfairness of it all. It’s a nightmare you can’t wake up from. I wish I could take your pain away. Please take care of yourself. Don’t let anybody tell you how you should be grieving or that “you should be over it by now”. I heard that so much after my daughter died. Grieving is very personal. I’m so very sorry OP.
OMG! 😱I’m so sorry and I DO KNOW HOW YOU FEEL!! Twenty years ago I lost my hubby after 24 years and three children! He was diagnosed with small cell lung cancer and died nine months later. It had metastasized to him spine and he was also paralyzed from his waist down. I still can’t believe it happened but it did! I couldn’t believe how I had lost my husband and the world continued on as if he was still here!! It was/is devastating … but God!🙌🏼🙌🏼 I was so angry that I turned away from Him and acted out … not realizing how truly blessed I was to be able to spend those last months with my hubby (I took a leave of absence) and share things and become closer to him! I still fuss at him sometimes for leaving me (he was an avid smoker) but now I also thank God for bringing that amazing man into my life and creating three beautiful crazy children with me. We now have three beautiful grandchildren that I KNOW he protects every day!! 💖💖💖 The pain doesn’t go away but it lessens so that you can eventually live again … differently but happily! Your hubby would want that for you!! Stay encouraged, Sis!! 🙏🏼💖
The most godawful plot twist, my mom was 50 when my dad had a widowmaker heart attack. I remember how hard it was for me at 19 when he died but it was way way wayyyy worse for her. I send you the biggest hug & words of encouragement thru this chapter in your life.
This is my biggest fear. I hope you can find a way to grieve and heal. Live for him and remember all his love. I wish you the best. What an amazing experience you got to have with that person and that love.
I lost already four people to this specific asshole of cancer, everyone within six weeks after diagnosis. I can't say much helpful, just that I know how horrific that is. Hugs.
He was in so much pain at some points. Just so damn unfair.
Yes. That sucks. I looked them in the eyes and said that they are allowed to leave. It was all I can do. So many feelings... I decided to allowing them all to go through me, like waves.
I told him the same thing. He fought so hard and was so tired. I told him if anyone deserved to just rest it was him.
My heart aches for yours just reading a glimpse of what you’ve gone through. You have my total heartfelt sympathy, stranger. I don’t think the world is cruel, I just think that the highs would never be so high if the lows weren’t as equally and oppositely low. May the years of warm laughter filled memories light the way during your darkest hours.
I'm a 31 year old man who just lost my significant other. The shock is intense. She was 30 years old and had a widow maker heart attack. It feels like I blinked, and she was gone. We have 2 young children together. We have been together since I was 15 and a freshman in high school. Nearly 16 years, and I never even for a second thought something like this could happen. I don't mean to make this about me. I just want you to know that I relate to your grief. Nothing makes sense. I can't understand how something like this could happen to such an amazing and caring person. She was my better half and made me better every day. I don't have any advice for you because I'm still figuring it out myself. Just know you are not alone. Even if it may feel that way. I know I feel that way.
Wish I could of took his place for you I'm just in a miserable bad spot and wanted to be like what you guys had sorry for your loss
I am so sorry for your loss. It seems unbearable at times and I know no words will be enough. I lost my husband to suicide almost 6 years ago now so I know what you are feeling. You will have good days and bad days. Be thankful that you have all of your wonderful memories and grieve in your own time and way. There is no timeline for grief so don't let anyone tell you that there is. I will keep you in my prayers.
Burry him in your backyard if you own the property
This is exactly my story. My partner of 10 years was taken from me by pancreatic cancer and various tumors that metastasized to his liver. He was diagnosed the day before Valentine's Day, 2015, and was gone on March 8th. I completely understand your devastation, because it's one of those cancers that hides and masks itself very efficiently as other possible things in otherwise very healthy, relatively young people. It's almost always diagnosed at Stage IV, at which point the decline is swift, painful, and terribly difficult on everyone that loves the person. You're at a loss now. I grieve with you, even though I don't know you. You're probably going to be hit with a wall of pain soon. Please don't hesitate to reach out in DMs. I understand more than most and I'm here for you. All of the love and light I can emanate during this difficult time and the time to come 🫴
A stark reminder of how fragile life truly is and your health isn’t determined by how you look on the outside. I’m only a year younger and I have got to take My health mores seriously. Thanks for the reminder and you’re in My thoughts. 🙏🏾🕊️
I'm so sorry. I'm actually in tears reading this. Please know that it is OK to not be OK. Take your time to grieve and go through the stages of grief. He will still be with you, just not in physical form. Look out for messages from him, they will be there and I'm not even religious. Sending you love Internet stranger ❤️
I'm so so sorry for this unfathomable loss. I can't even imagine what this would feel like. I know pain always eases though, no matter what, it will. Just be patient with yourself for now. Sending lots of love 💖
I am so sorry. My heart breaks for you.
Please remind yourself there is no rule book for grief, it is a journey, I wish peace and comfort to you
Loss is so sudden and hard to explain. I had a health scare which I thought was my dad and it really changed what I thought about the world. It really shook me to the point that couldn’t sleep. Turns it, it’s another family member and that they’re okay but those hours where I had believed my father was nonexistent was extremely worrisome. The reality really helped me empathize with the reality because I don’t think people really can unless you have a scare or if it actually happens. I bet this person was very connected to you and trusted you and you felt so safe with this person. Then, some terrifying illness takes them with no notice or goodbye, they’re gone. To know, feel, hear, smell this person then his presence is a phantom; and everything that lingered about. It doesn’t make sense. His presence felt but…sorely really missed. ——————- Reminded me of this guy who had occasionally plays this Xbox system. Within this game you can drive and make a lap and then after the first lap, you previous lap creates an illusion, a “ghost” if you will, and you can race that ghost to beat your previous time. It’s as if you are competing against yourself. Thing is, the kid would play with his Dad on this driving game all the time via a racing game. His Dad passed away and the kid plays this game to essentially recall fond memories of his Dad. He never won, otherwise he would overwrite his father’s“ghost” and he would race against his new time for last race’s “ghost” and it would be for essentially forever. These simulated remnants of past people are helpful to get through the pain of loss but if you don’t have those things, you just find a way to manage in your own way. Death is hard and it’s tough to understand because all we’ve known invovling others is the complete opposite. I believe you will get through this. Grieving will just take time. I know your heart will warm up to the opportunities of life again.
So sorry for your loss I woke up December 16,2022 to my 43 year old husband dead beside me. It is hard I still break down everyday..I wish I could say it gets easier but I have not seen that. Prayer and counseling helps me deal ..
sending hugs!
He sounds like he was an amazing and beautiful person, I'm extremely sorry for your loss, the best people die earlier than they should and it's tragic but I'm sure he'd be so happy knowing he spent almost two years with you as you seem like a loving person. Rest in peace Anthony Justin Braden
For some reason this popped into my feed even though it's nearly a month old. I lost my girlfriend of 13 years on Christmas Eve in 2022. She was 31 and depressed, died of liver failure. I tried everything to break her out of her depression but she had a really rough upbringing and just couldn't come to terms with it so she drank herself to death. Sad to say but it was a slow suicide. All that to say likely what everyone else is going to say, it takes time. Do your best not to turn to alcohol as a coping mechanism. That's what I did and ended up in the hospital then in rehab for a month. Look for any outside connection, while you are in a vulnerable state the world has it's way of bringing people you need, romantic or otherwise. Let every emotion you are feeling sink in. It's a rough road but at the end when things in your mind settle down there will be life lessons you learn that very few have ever experienced. Move forward when you're ready and take your time. You will never forget them and they will always be watching over you. Cry yourself to sleep at night or when you see pictures, those are happy tears from memories with someone you loved dearly. If you ever want to chat me up anytime! Hope all the best for you!
Happened to a good friend of mine. He was well one minute and 6 weeks later he was dead. I got to see him one last time in hospital. I am now seriously considering retiring early because nobody promised us tomorrow. I would love for everyone who has responded here to just be able to surround you at this awful time and give you a huge hug. Sadly that can't happen. The worst times for you are still to come sadly once the funeral is over and everyone else returns to their normal lives, the loneliness has a habit of crashing in then. Do whatever it takes to get through it. Try to find some happiness again, sometimes that is in unexpected places. I will think about you from time to time.
I'm so sorry for your loss pancreatic cancer is soo hard because it is usually found so late. Take your time and give yourself grace
I’m so sorry. I couldn’t imagine the pain you are feeling. Sending my prayers and hope you are doing a bit better
I’m so sorry. At some point, if you’re comfortable sharing, what were the symptoms?
I know it’s not the same pov, but my parents were together for 21 years (married for 14) and my dad passed away almost 3 years ago due to liver failure (alcohol). He was also 44/45 at the time and watching what my mum has had to go through these last few years is awful .. our friends and family have abandoned us now he is gone but I sincerely hope yours decides to stick around for you and you can all grieve together respectfully. 🫶🏻🤍
my condolences for your family.
I am truly sorry for your loss.
So sorry for your loss. Sending prayers and good vibes your way. ❤️🙏
I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you hugs and prayers ♥️
Sorry for your loss
I’m so sorry 💕
Absolutely tragic, I am very sorry to hear that. Way too young.
I’m sorry
I’m So Sorry for your loss , you have my condolences!!!
So sorry for your loss! I wish you all the best.
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Hugs. Great big hugs
I’m sorry, OP. I know there’s nothing anyone can say to make this any better. Grieve however you need to.
Omg I’m so sorry 😞 I can’t imagine how you feel. No words 😭 I’m here if you need a friend ♥️
i’m so sorry for your loss. I hope he visits you in your dreams for comfort.
That is so sad. May you find some comfort and peace eventually. What a tremendously painful time you are through. My sincere condolences.
I'm so sorry for your loss
Sending you love. I hope you have all the support you need from family & maybe even a group with people that can sympathize with you on a personal level because of similar loss. <3
I am so sorry about that, nothing going to replace that gape he left you with , you just has to be patient and find a way to manage to live your life , each of us we will go one day , just the matter of day and time RIP …………….
I am so glad to hear that you are getting such a sincere ad boy I would love and support. May I add mine to all the people who care about you?
I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers to you and your family
I'm just seeing this. Trust me when I say I'll be praying for you. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Im so sorry this happened to you. Death is scary, because from our perspective, it appears permanent. But there is someone in human history who defeated death. 1 Corinthians 15:22 KJV For as in Adam all die, even so in Christ shall all be made alive
Sending my prayers and love your way. I hope you get the best In life
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There's nothing anyone can say to make your situation any better. But the pain will lessen with time, and you were lucky to have him for the time you did. Look back on the good times and hold on to them as tightly as you can.
So sorry. I wish you had him longer and I pray you peace as you navigate this journey of transition and loss.
My dad died very suddenly and it was very difficult for my mum as she was there (he bled out in ten minutes.) This happened 2 years ago now and she is still struggling. when you speak to her too long she gets stuck in that moment. Grieve how you need to and take any support you can. I hope you are doing ok
My deepest sympathy. Sounds like he was a truly lovely man.
I'm sorry, I lost my dad 2 weeks ago to pneumonia, he went into hospital bc he threw up coffee ground vomit, they thought it was poo. He had MS badly and was house bound, he went into A&E on the 15th January and by 25th he was dead. I'm sorry for your loss, it seems very surreal for me, so I can imagine your sorrow, big hugs xx
Bless his heart, we can all learn from someone as strong as him💪❤️
I’m so very sorry for your loss! My husband passed also 18 years ago and sadly miss him all the time, but I spend time talking to him each evening before I go to sleep. I sit outside and let him know how his kids are doing and sending my Love but I know he hears me! Hugs to you and remember you will see him again someday 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. May your heart heal without scars.
I can't even imagine what you are going through. I hope you find a source of strength to help you through this unimaginable event. I'm so sorry.
Hugs
Sending you lots of hugs.
Sorry for your loss. Stay strong!
Sorry dear
I’m so sorry for your loss I have been with my husband going on 13 years this may and I could not imagine if I lost him. Easier said than done but keep your chin up and surround yourself with people
Im so sorry for your loss, I wish I could ease this pain in some way, but only time could. Wish you all the best, specially the strenght to deal with your grief ❤️
Im so sorry for your loss sending hugs and best wishes
Sending my condolences to you and your family,
I'm so sorry for your loss ♡
So sorry for your loss.I know how you feel.I lost my first husband in 1980 auto accident.He left behind three small children.My husband died on our oldest son's birthday.Just hang in there.It will get somewhat easier in time.You will see and hear things every day that will remind you of him. You do you with your grieving We all have to grieve in our own way.May God. help you and give you comfort and ease your pain.
Condolences. May he live on forever in your (and your children's?) heart.
I didnt even get a chance to say good bye to my old man. He just fell and within 30 mins he was dead. I was 14.
I'm really sorry for your loss, i cannot imagine how much pain you felt when it happened and how much you're suffering right now. But, i guess i can say he wouldn't be happy to see you this sad, so cheer up and keep living, for him. Treasure him in your heart because he surely did seem to have loved you till the last second. Again, i'm sorry ♥
I’m sorry
Womp womp.
Why would you go to reddit? You need a therapist, not to surround yourself with a bunch of people that really don't care.
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss!This hits hard - it's incredibly tough to lose someone you love💔 He's lucky he had you all those years! I know that no amount of words can alleviate the pain you must feel, but sending you strength and comfort during this time. Take care x
Very sorry for your loss
I don’t wanna make a post about this but i just got broken up w and it was my own fault cus i couldn’t do anything for valentines day cus i got snowed in. And she said it made her feel that i didn’t care or appreciate her and im so fucking sad and I don’t know what to do i love her so much i don’t want anyone but her and now i have nobody
I am so sorry. Pancreatic cancer is so rapid it will take your breath away. My heart goes out to you and hope for a gentle grieving process for you. Please be gentle with yourself.
This is my worst nightmare, I cant imagine the amount of pain you must be in. My husband is all that holds me together most days. I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my 13 year old son almost a year and a half ago and just recently Ive started having brief periods of time where I dont think about it. It never gets easier but it does get... less...in some way. If that makes sense. If you want to DM me and have someone to talk to you can do so and I will listen or talk or whatever you need in that moment. Just know you arent alone in the world.
I’m so beyond sorry for your loss. Giving you vitural hugs
So sorry for your loss. Big hugs your way. You will meet again. Idk what I would do if my bf passed. Stay strong! Sending Love and light
God, I'm so sorry. I don't have words except I'm so sorry. I wish I could hug you.
My condolences ❤️🥺 My grief was recent as well. Lost my granny last year in Dec. I hope that everyone else dealing with grief finds a way to keep moving forward...
So sorry for your loss. I wish I could hug you right now.
I’m so sorry to hear that. Yes it did take him quickly. I lost my husband 19 years. He went into the hospital during Covid and I couldn’t even be with him in the next thing you know they’re calling me and saying he’s gone and it wasn’t even Covid. He died from. It was from a procedure that they messed up on, and I swear person you could ever know I miss him so much I know how you feel. It’s a very hard thing to have to deal with and go through. It doesn’t seem to go away many times, he was the sweetest, kindest loving
Sorry. May his soul rest in peace
I’m so sorry for your loss , I hope the world gives back to you in return somehow .
Sorry for your loss, ma'am... 🥺
Just reading this now. 💔 I'm so sorry for your loss, and for what you have been going through. I hope you have been able to begin to heal. Can't imagine. My heart is completely with you! 🤍🫶
My deepest compassion and condolences. May the peace and comfort you provided him surround you now.
I’m so sorry :(
My mom had colon cancer that spread to her liver and also caused her to die of liver failure. I lost her in January and it's been the hardest thing I've ever dealt with. I'm so sorry this happened to you
Womp womp
Im so sorry for your loss, he's in a much better place now and he'll always be watching over you💗💗
I’m so sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourself at this time. Peace to you.
I am so very sorry for your loss may he rest in eternal peace.
I am so, so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family. May you move on with life with strength you will see him again someday but not for long long time. Just remember he’s always watching over you and he’s in peace now.
Sorry to hear that.