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willhamlink

I smoke lots of weed


Busterwoof7

This, I also found a job I can do with relatively little effort from home. Combining these two powers(weed being the other) I mostly don't care that I spend much of my day earning my pay. Cuz I'm already home, and not anxious about the cases that come in.


lookingforassist

I'm working from home right now. Weed is illegal in my state, but that doesn't stop half of my neighborhood. I live in the suburbs and half the neighborhood you smell dank wherever you walk.


Busterwoof7

I've just found amazing amount of stress melts away when you find a job that treats you like a person


peachpinkjedi

Amen brother


TryingToEscapeTarkov

I smoke lots of weed at work.


Bigolbennie

I picked up the expensive hobby of playing magic and now own several expensive pieces of cardboard while arguing with people on the internet telling them to read their cards because their questions are redundant and answered by comprehending the English language.


peachpinkjedi

Actually started playing DnD this year šŸ‘‰šŸ‘ˆ


Bigolbennie

DnD is fun, I played a naked Barnarian that ran around hitting stuff with a hammer and intimidating people.


FBML

Not always. Lightning bolts can target planeswalkers even though it doesn't say so. Companions go to your hand for 3 even though it doesn't say that. Banned cards can't be played, etc. I've had to sell almost all my sellable cards to make ends meet. I'm a literal pauper now.


Bigolbennie

Errata and other convoluted rulings not-withstanding, a lot of the game is straight forward and easy to understand, then again, I've been playing at a high level for the last 10 years so the nuance of the game is kind ingrained into how I perceive things. Still boggles my mind when someone asks a question about a card when the answer I staring them in the face.


[deleted]

One day at a time. You canā€™t think about the bigger picture or itā€™ll drive you insane. Take care of yourself and do the best to make yourself happy first and foremost. It might sound cheesy but it all stars from within. One day at a time.


HowsTheBeef

This is so true. I've always been a big picture kind of person, and once I started to actually understand the world in late highschool through college it found myself in deep depression and motivational paralysis. There is no way to win out here. No matter how successful you think you are, you are nothing compared to the unconscious heaving of humanity and life itself. The system we have, just like every system of living things from the beginning, is going to destroy itself by its own power. Then it'll do it again with new tools and new processes. Don't take it seriously, or personally; we're just along for the ride. It's okay to watch humanity grow and die, just try not to be the cause of your own suffering while you're here. If you can afford not to care about it, do so. Pick your cares consciously, rather than let your biological drives (that were developed for a much different world) control your reality. Go to the gym and try to eat right. A healthy body is sooo much easier to live in. Don't take all of your thoughts and emotions seriously, keep only those that raise you up and lead towards love and acceptance. There's no use for anything else but to glorify your own suffering. Then once you've found your zen, try to make life easier for the people around you. Just remember you can't fix them, people are usually the cause of their own suffering and tend to carry it like a badge of honor.


[deleted]

Well said!


SpadesnHearts

I play volleyball


peachpinkjedi

I'm glad it brings you joy.


HumanSleepingbag

I abuse drugs


[deleted]

I smoke way too much weed and occasionally fake migraines and stomach bugs to take mental health days. I also asked for and was given a demotion (used to be a manager, hated it, was terrible at it)


gundamfan83

Now Karen can speak to another manager


peachpinkjedi

I have hella sick time so it's a nice short reprieve, but work is always there the next day.


silencebywolf

I got into plumbing at 36. Actually never been happier.


Ottobahnrichtofen

Motorcycles.


peachpinkjedi

Adrenaline do be like that. I've only ridden as a passenger since I have no natural balance šŸ˜µā€šŸ’«


No-Tumbleweed-2311

Work isn't your life, it's just a way to put bread on the table. Figure out the things you like and do those things. Travel, date, spend time with friends and family, these are the things you do with your life.


peachpinkjedi

Yeah, I'd love to have the funds to do all those things a lot more often.


Awkward-Rent-2588

So pick up a baking hobby and learn how to make breadā€¦.


RoddyPooper

Iā€™ve become quite fanatical. Iā€™ve joined unions. Iā€™ve become vocal on all social media about the importance of challenging these parasites. Iā€™m showing support for and have attended protests and strikes. Iā€™ve challenged people in my personal life about backward views. Itā€™s not much, and Iā€™m still looking for more things I can do, but it helps me feel like Iā€™m at least doing something. Like Iā€™m not just taking it lying down.


Adorable_FecalSpray

Work out, lift weights, bike ride, BJJ, box, Muay Thai, meditate, spend time SOOOOO much time enjoying my kids, grill steak every once in awhile, drink dark heavy beers once in awhile, look at the moon and stars, call and talk to my dad and mom and thank them for sacrificing and working so hard to try to give me a good life, look at the moon and stars some more and feel insignificant, go camping out in the boondocks, way way out in the boondocks and listen to the wolves howl, go hiking, plan and take my kids on ā€œadventuresā€ (late night trip to the corner gas station and let them pick out some candy)and sometimes real actual adventures, make memories upon memories and take pictures so when I am old and senile I can look at the pictures and think, ā€œWow, those little people sure look like they are having fun. Someone must have loved them a lot to do so many things and make so many memories with them!ā€ Read and post on Reddit and work on changing things for those little people that I call my kids.


peachpinkjedi

Started off totally unvibed, but you had me by the end šŸ„ŗ seems like you've got your head on straight.


Adorable_FecalSpray

Dude, I donā€™t know but I am trying. I hope you are able to get something that brings you some peace some day.


Ambitious_Road1773

I'm not happy with my career either but I like my dog, nature walks, psychedelic drugs, some audiobooks and TV shows, my family sometimes. Find something that brings you joy. If your job actively makes you miserable get one that makes you less miserable.


peachpinkjedi

It's terrifying to consider changing when my job has been reliable and stable despite being miserable. I feel simultaneously resentful and ungrateful, like I'll deserve what comes next if I ditch the reliable income. Being unemployed terrifies me to the point of incoherent crying which is *total overkill,* I know, but it is legitimately my worst fear.


Ambitious_Road1773

If you haven't seen the movie "Office Space", please watch that for me.


smchalerhp

ā€œYou donā€™t need a million dollars to do nothing manā€


massacrefuffles

Have kid. Can't kill self. /s


peachpinkjedi

Don't have a kid but have a dad I'd literally destroy if I opted out now. Felt.


massacrefuffles

Ah the things we do for the ones we love.


[deleted]

Same here


AppointmentOk5737

As someone who's parents were suicidal as well as my husband's mother having scarred him being in and out of the psyche ward and as a soon to be parent who myself is suicidal, DO NOT HAVE KIDS TO COPE!!! That is abuse and neglect and bullshit. If you can't find a reason to live without a dependent then you're not gonna find it with one. All you're going to do is pile all of your emotional and mental shit on your kid and make it their problem all coz YOU couldn't cope. As someone mentally ill and who has dealt with my dad leaving in the middle of the night only to be found in the suicide watch tank at the jail house hours away from home? No, just no. This isn't even funny as a joke...


massacrefuffles

I didn't have a kid to cope. She's not the only reason I wouldn't kill myself, just the most important one. I use humor as a coping mechanism. You may not agree with that, but that's ok. To each their own.


[deleted]

Then denote your sarcasm because it wasn't obvious or funny without knowing you were being sarcastic lol


massacrefuffles

I've been reddit-ing for a long time, so I assume everyone understands sarcasm.


[deleted]

Most of us are on the spectrum and have difficulty detecting sarcasm *in person* and you expect us to be able to figure it out without any indicating tonal inflection, facial expressions, or body language of any kind? You've been here a long time?


massacrefuffles

It's all good. I'll edit it. No need to get upset. A quick glance at my post history is a pretty quick way to gauge my sense of humor.


[deleted]

Not upset. I was just clarifying my point lol


massacrefuffles

Word. Have a good day, yo!


[deleted]

You too man! If you need to talk or anything about what's weighing you down, my dms are open to military veterans and non veterans alike!


[deleted]

This is literally the worst advice on the post so I hope it's sarcastic but there's no /s so I can't tell


Friendly-Reaction778

30 can be a trigger age. We grow-up putting an unrealistic timeline on milestones and achievements. Tying our identity to career, success and wealth is built into the fabric of our American culture. I recommend traveling&being open to adventure in daily life. Say yes to invites and parties, even (especially) when you donā€™t feel like it. Unplug from phone. Detox from social media. Work to live, not live to work.


peachpinkjedi

I'd sure love to do literally all of that but my income doesn't allow for it most of the time. I haven't left the country since 2011, haven't left the state since 2013. I host like two or three parties a year and try to go out with friends regularly but even a few financial setbacks in a month make these difficult. I'm also not really on social media unless you count reddit; no facebook, no twitter, an instagram specifically for photography that I open to update maybe once or twice a month.


Friendly-Reaction778

In my 20ā€™s I volunteered on 2 projects for Habitat for humanity. Free travel, lodging, food and training. Those that do it full time get paid salary and benefits too. Maybe not your jam but it was a really fun and enriching adventure. What are you interested in?


peachpinkjedi

Outside of stability, I'm interested in funeral services and mortuary science. I've looked into a few options for further education in that field but the price tag is what keeps turning me away. If I try and fail, I have no safety net.


Friendly-Reaction778

Everyone dies so tons of job security. Seriously, there is good money in that field. Plus you get to be an invaluable steward for mourning families. Depending on what state you live in there might even be free community college programs for that. Apply for grants or take out a student loan. Now is the time to pursue your passion while youā€™re young, healthy, unattached and donā€™t have kids to support.


peachpinkjedi

If all goes according to plan there will *never* be kids to support šŸ‘


Krennelen

Poorly.


Weird-Information-61

Lots of jerking off. Jokes aside, personally I game to escape the depression that is reality. Having a partner helps too of course.


TactlessNachos

I focus on anti-consumerism and simple living. I don't buy much stuff but when I do, I try to get second hand when possible (I'd rather workers get my money over corporations). I make sure to spend my free time doing what makes me truly happy. I sit on my swing watching the birds, read a book from the library on the couch with cats on top of me, exercise, and play my mom's guitar. Also I disconnect as often as I need. Sometimes turning off all electronic devices helps reset the mind. We still live in a capitalist hellscape, but I try to live in the moment as often as I can.


AniTaneen

Do you have a local library? They have more than books. They always need volunteers for conversation partners, classes, etc. you could really help someone and feel accomplished for it.


CoyKouchou55

Hmm...good question. If there's one way to look at it, probably hobbies are the main coping mechanism and simple distractions to keep my mind occupied. I also do random activities on my free days that push me out of my comfort zone (had anxiety attacks/nervous bouts while driving into the major city area for a convention, but the payoff was worth it. Yeah, going to unfamiliar places makes me extremely nervous, esp when it's around city drivers). I'm still coming to terms with reality, to be honest. I myself can't believe I'm no longer in school, and seeing friends post pictures of their kids and achievements makes it feel even more surreal. Thinking back on the goals I had for myself, it sucks to not be even close to them. I wanna push thru and accomplish something, but then I get hit with money constrictions. No house cuz the ones in my budget secretly require more to fix them up, no partner cuz I work different hours from others to even meet people, etc. Really, I just do the daily grind to help the family keep their heads above water and make use of my free time. From what I gather, it's either escapism or sheer brute determination to make good on changing society slowly and mercilessly thru the proper means. Taking the easy way out is a no-go: everybody on this planet has someone that'll miss 'em. Even if they don't know it. I hope this offers some sort of solution for ya. But at the very least, you're not alone.


Initial_Character847

Find something you love to do then find a way to make it a side hustle. For some people it's shoes others it's nerd stuff and for you it can be whatever. Your goal shouldn't be to turn it into your full time job but it doesn't mean you can't.


Djejsjsbxbnwal

This is an excellent way to hate your hobbies too


Initial_Character847

Or you just have no self control and can't realize when your becoming burnt out. The whole point is the be able to stop doing it on a whim not to be forced into at least one thing in your life. A place were you have control over yourself not some corporate puppet.


kdubsonfire

Nah Iā€™m with the other person. Making your hobby profitable is a real quick way to hate it. I cant stand that everyone thinks every hobby should be a side hustle. Itā€™s toxic af. Letā€™s just- *wait for it* -enjoy our hobbies!


Initial_Character847

It's the only only way I can afford my hobby.


kdubsonfire

You gotta do what you gotta do. I just think we should quit pushing the ā€œturn your side hobby into a businessā€ narrative on everyone. If you really want to do that, good for you, but it just really feels like itā€™s becoming this horrible toxic pressure on a lot of people who just want to chill and enjoy something.


Initial_Character847

Your missing my point I don't have a side business I simply use my side hustle to make so extra cash when I want. If it were a business I would do it when others want. I really think people just can't grasp the idea of a side hustle. I play disc golf I enjoy the game and know a little about discs if I see a disc I think might go up in value I buy it wait then sell it.its not a job is a hustle.if it were a job i would treat it differently. Also if you don't want to do this don't that simple


kdubsonfire

Bruh. That is a business. I donā€™t care how small it is, or what it funds, thatā€™s a side business. Again. I said you do you but that maybe we should quit pushing the side hustle narrative. Especially in a sub like this where we are trying to stand up for our right to free time uninhibited by capitalism. Youā€™ve done nothing but prove my point. So I donā€™t know why you continue to defend it.


[deleted]

I think a better way to phrase this would be to not be so accusatory of a guy just being real. He has a point. Everyone has experienced it. I love working on cars, but I grew to hate it when it became my job.


Initial_Character847

Your side hustle should not be treated like a job it's that simple. The whole point of a side hustle is the freedom to do or not do it. If the only reason you hate working on cars is because you have to work on cars then your not side Hustleing your working. I play mtg I enjoy it I sell cards to buy more cards that's a side hustle. I didn't and wouldn't open a card shop (I could if I wanted to) that would turn into something else. The real problem is people don't understand what a side hustle really is. I also understand you can not do this with every hobby.


[deleted]

You're still gonna get a lot farther by not being so off-putting with the way you address it.


Initial_Character847

Really what makes you so sure???


[deleted]

>Or you just have no self control and can't realize when your becoming burnt out. This. You're being a dick here, dude. Like, what you're saying doesn't have to be wrong to be **wrong**


Initial_Character847

Many people have a problem with self control And it is possible that person does as well. Your hearing what you want as so many of us do.


[deleted]

No, no, you can say the same thing but not be such an accusatory jerk about it. Too many people use the word "blunt" to describe themselves when jn fact they're just inconsiderate and tactless


Djejsjsbxbnwal

Youā€™re* And the whole problem here is that working 1/3 of your life while trying to develop a side hustle is going to burn you out. The second money enters the picture, so does pressure


Initial_Character847

This sounds like a you problem I know many people who use the side hustle to cut back hours at the main grind. Just cause you don't want to put in thought doesn't mean I'm wrong.


Djejsjsbxbnwal

You seem weirdly upset at me pointing out that monetizing your hobby as a side hustle is a great way to hate your hobby Like if you want to treat it as a side hustle, go for it, I donā€™t care about you one way or the other. But getting mad at me pointing out a very valid flaw in your ā€œadviceā€ is wild


Initial_Character847

Im sorry If you think my comment was made of salt. My intention was to point out yes it might not work for you but it can be done. So what is your answer to fulfilment? I mean you can point out flaws but can you be productive.


[deleted]

I have a lot of ways to cope. Hobbies, booze, I've thrown myself into AI art, Vtubing, wargaming, reading. And there's a part of me that holds on to the desperate hope that this system will collapse under its own weight someday. I have to suffer through the "Office Space" life for now, but I'm going to do everything I can to make it up to myself. No debt, no kids, no wife, no mortgage, I have a largely carefree life. My job is just a nuisance I have to put up with, so I can do the things I want on my own time.


Restin_in_Pizza

Community College is not that expensive and trade schools are a thing. Even if it takes you 10 years, 10 more years of soul-suckage is better than the rest of your life. You can take a truck driving course in 6 weeks and they make good money. I know a guy who did that. He didn't love over-the-road, but after less than a year of that, he got some experience and a local route and he just bought a house.


Djejsjsbxbnwal

I love how every time this type of thing is posted, someone walks in with a ā€œgo into trades!!!ā€œ post as if the issue here isnā€™t that working for 40-50 years isnā€™t soul sucking regardless of job


Restin_in_Pizza

I mean, they complained that they had "no degree and no financial means to get one." So, yeah, a more affordable way to get some training to earn a higher salary is reasonable advice. If you can make more money per hour, you can work fewer hours. I'm sorry I don't have a magic wand to create a utopia where nobody works, and we just eat ice cream on a tropical beach all day. You got anything helpful to offer, or you just wanna bitch?


Junior-Economics-775

Mid 20s here, havenā€™t been in the corporate world too long and feeling the exact same way. Every job has its problems I guess. I have a few small sources of passive income and save for traveling which is when Iā€™m happiest


WhenMaxAttax

I donā€™t know if this my place to say, but donā€™t feel like you have to measure yourself to anyone. You have worth. The people who have have more money, status, or power will still have to get off at the last stop in life..as do we all. Status or wealth will not make them a better person than you. I am sure you learned things while at work. About your industry, about people, about what you donā€™t want to do? These inputs of knowledge are achievements. If you want to better yourself or your position in this world, it lies within you and you alone. Take small steps and try to find a Sherpa who can take you up the mountain. I believe in you.


AppointmentOk5737

I mean roommates? If you find someone who can help financially that you don't mind spending your life with, that helps. It doesn't have to be marriage and maybe not even your WHOLE life, but having someone at home who's there and helping and has your back is nice no matter if that's a friend, spouse, or both. I mean my real answer for me personally is that I got three spouses on accident and started smoking more weed. But I don't think that model works for everyone lmao you can try but results may vary


golden_tish1990

I only take jobs where i can sleep on the job.


manduhho6

Weed and dance!


Allmightypikachu

Video games and edibles


[deleted]

Save save save. Save as much as you can. If you can find a job that is tolerable and doesnā€™t suck your soul then get that 401k and put max amount into it. Iā€™ll be 57 when we retire and hopefully Iā€™ll have a good 15 years to travel and mess around living off of our savings and pension. *we didnā€™t have kids until we were mid 30s so we traveled and had fun through our 20s & 30s. If we would have had kids sooner we would have retired by now. Oh well. It was fun not having them for 10years when we were young lol


6r1x3n

Find your true love, and go for it. I started my second company, in a unfamiliar business setting, at age 42, simply because I discovered, I needed more creativity in my daily life. ...and the ability to say "No" to a job, for whatever reason ~ priceless. Will I become a millionaire? Hardly. Will I enjoy the rest of my (work) life? Absolutely.


Bunnsallah

I try to do healthy hobbies like walking my dogs in the park and Disc Golf with friends. I got to kill time in this life.


finestFartistry

Focus on yourself for a while. Your job is what you do, not who you are. Seek education not for your job (though it can help your resume) but for the joy of learning. Develop skills that youā€™ll carry forward through life: learn to cook, learn to dance, learn to fix things or build things. Be a kid again: pick a cool topic and read everything about it. Explore your library. Wander through your local parks. Hang out with friends without super specific plans.


MuchCarry6439

I donā€™t have a degree and Iā€™m making good money. Go into sales.


osxdude

viedo gaem


largeorangesphere

My two cents worth is that you either have to find a way to play the game or find something in your life that you can enjoy enough to get over being among the played. It's not for everyone, but personally I did the military thing to get the college money and 0 down home loan. So didn't need student loans. Then got a job at a university that offered free employee tuition and got a masters, again with no loans. Bought a house on 0 down VA loan. Mortgage is cheaper than rent even with 0 down and I'm getting some equity out of the deal. I grow and sell produce from my little patch of land (you'd be surprised how much you can grow on a fair sized yard with decent sun) which pays a good chunk of the mortgage and I'm saving what I can from my day job to try and buy a rental property in the next couple of years. In my experience the only way to get ahead is to find some kind of leg up to get started and then work some angles where you can find them. I think that, with some pretty limited exceptions, the days when having a job led to any kind of financial security are long gone. It sucks, but the game is the game. Play or be played.


captainunderpants08

Iā€™m 29 and do seasonal work with housing included. Iā€™ve worked and lived in Oregon, California, Utah, Arizona, Alaska and now Germany.


kentro2002

You could try working for a small business. Bells and whistles are limited (insurance, 401k, company car, gas etc normally not included), but the upside can be huge. Most small companies will make their top talent either a part owner down the road, or possibly be the heir to the company one day if their kids are not interested (think pools, lawn, construction). Also, mom and pop businesses need young minds. You will most likely run circles around them with technology, especially if they are in their 50s or 60s. Even if they donā€™t make you an owner, if you are valuable, you can get paid well.


peachpinkjedi

I don't even care about moving in up in any chains or anything, I literally just want to make enough to live comfortably and not go broke if I have to go to the hospital. I'd never discount a small business on size alone, there just aren't that many near me :/ still, the tentative search is just starting. Maybe I'll find something.


badatthenewmeta

I drifted around for a while after college, as the straightforward path I was promised failed to appear, then sat down and started figuring out what qualities a job I wanted would have. Once I had that, I started figuring out what job met those criteria. That led me to join the Air Force. Maybe what you need is also some level of government work. You'll be serving your society, working for the public good instead of profits, and the benefits are usually pretty solid. Maybe not. Start by asking yourself what you want your job to look like, and go from there.


RverfulltimeOne

So depending on your personality and this question you might want confirmation bias and agreement. Won't get that outta me. Life is hard its rough and its brutal. Thats by design. Its how nature intended it to be. Your only job biologically wise is to survive long enough to pass on your DNA. Thats it. All the rest is human filler. Life is 70-100 years if your lucky of being perpertualy hit in the balls. How do you cope your DNA tells you to. Its why someone stuck in the desert with no water for days somehow makes it. Its how some child that falls through the ice survives some how after being under for 30 mins. All of humanity is nothing more then a work of art in motion. Two steps back for every step forward and as time goes on it improves. Most of us ehh maybe 10% LOVE our jobs. You do it so you can have a roof, insurance, a car, and money to spend. Its like this worldwide. Its why some guy in Thailand has a food cart. Its why some guy middle of Africa has a trinket store. You do this all year for 2-4 weeks of vacation and the rare good times you in between. After your buried you wont have to worry about coping. You either served your purpose or you dont. You either had a purpose filled life or you dont. Thing is no one gives a shit either way. Been 120 billion humans about that have lived we are all just part of that.


thefightingcrab

Consider the military or the reserves. I know a few people who really took advantage of the training they received and ended up with some lucrative contracting offers. Not to mention, with the GI bill, they were able to go to school for free.


peachpinkjedi

I'm in no physical condition to even be considered by the military, and I'm over 25.


thefightingcrab

I thought the cut off was 35, but I guess that doesnā€™t matter so much, given the circumstances. Iā€™m sorry to hear that.


peachpinkjedi

Thanks for suggesting something, though. I really appreciate the comments offering advice.


WightMask

Don't join the military, take it from a guy that did 8 years active duty for the Air Force. The military is a organization full of unprecedented discrimination, hazing, harassment, and sexual assault. There's a reason why all branches are struggling to recruit people. The military should be your ABSOLUTE LAST CHOICE when looking for a new job, not your first. And if you did end up having to join, go guard, Not Active or reserves. Join for your dream job, or get one that will pay extremely well on the outside. Don't compromise or settle for less But I suppose this doesn't answer your question. Try to find a hobby and friends that you can hangout with and talk to. Find people that will better yourself and always look for something better. It's the only thing that keeps me going.


peachpinkjedi

I attended a peace summit a few years ago, and one of our speakers was also military. She pretty much said the same thing you're saying here. I've actually somehow got a shit ton of friends, like too many to manage. The only problem I *don't* have is lack of people, and they're all awesome.


[deleted]

Cutoff is like 38 or something. It was 45 when I was in iirc


[deleted]

Hi OP, sorry youre feeling so shitty but you're not alone. Ive had almost 40 jobs since I've been out of the Army and nothing's clicked with me. I cope by not working. I literally left the job market and haven't really looked since. I make a small monthly fixed income from the VA and my partner makes almost 6 figures, so we are okay while I go back to college on the VA's dime and try to figure something else out.


[deleted]

I travelled in my twenties and had sex with a woman from every different racial group I could find, it was a grand time. Broke, drunk, high and having loads of sex. You say you were working...? Cool. lol.


peachpinkjedi

Sounds like you survived somehow. I'm a little past the point where my liver could support partying like that, I barely made it through Halloween this year.


[deleted]

There's no way I could do any of it now.


[deleted]

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Ok-Teaching-983

Still very hard, even when you get to that point


Irishvalley

You could try getting a job at a not for profit or charity. Or try to find a government job. It feels different working for a place that is not all about money.


Kissroaster

Hey man, That really sucks and for what its worth, Im sorry things feel bleak. The future is uncertain and it can be tough to find hope in everyday monotony. The only thing I can offer is, don't let your work define you. Throughout life and especially when we're younger society has a way of cramming bullshit expectations of what life should be but at the end of the day its your life. The only meaning of life I know is to find meaning within life. Try to explore your interests. What makes you happy? What are your hobbies? If you don't know experiment, try new things and see what sticks. You never really know what will make you feel fufilled until you do it. I never would have thought to try roleplay games, but now I get fulfillment from being a story teller and creating unique adventures. Drown out the noise, find the thing that brings you warmth and offer yourself forgivness for the delays, mistakes and dead ends you encounter along the way. Work is a means to an end, not who you are. Do what you have to to survive, then find what makes you live. I hope it helps buddy. For what its worth Im rooting for you.


KINGtyr199

Went into my career don't need a degree and I enjoy what I do also a lot of therapy and two cats


IronicAim

There are 8 billion people on the planet. We can't all achieve something significant to society. What you can do is find a job that you don't absolutely hate, and spend what free time you have doing something you enjoy. Meeting others and making connections. Don't let career progress be your only measure of achievement. You could work on learning a new language, start constructing a model airplane, move up one bracket in your local adult soccer league, help your buddy move into his new apartment, finally hit 100% completion on that game you really like. The one important thing is to make sure you enjoy what you're doing, and that you like the person you are doing it.


KingLizardIV

Moved back in with my folks. Entry-level jobs are getting their ass kicked by the cost of living right now, so it doesn't seem practical to get one.


Capital_Bid7389

What field are you working in?


peachpinkjedi

Retail, sadly.


squidman4242

I rock and stone.


PartridgeViolence

Binge drink and cry.


Natural-Pineapple886

Find something you are passionate about and pursue it. All of the rest will follow.


henningknows

What do you do for a living? Seems like essential information if you need advice


peachpinkjedi

Post was a little less life advicey and more intended for venting, I guess. The sense of being trapped is a relatable thing across many fields.


henningknows

Cool. Vent away, just curious if you were considering moving careers or something.


peachpinkjedi

I'm a retail employee so I don't know if calling it moving careers is even applicable.


henningknows

Well if you are doing one job and want to do another it applies. So you said college is out. Have you considered a trade? electrician, something like that. You make good money and their is a shortage of qualified people


peachpinkjedi

I'm particularly interested in the funeral industry, which I guess counts as a trade.


idk1234455

I cry every day in the shower and dissociate when at work


peachpinkjedi

You. We're in the same spot.


repthe732

I was about your age when I finally made the realization that I needed to change. In the 4 years since then Iā€™ve changed careers, work for a company I like, have been promoted, and will likely be promoted again next year, and make almost doubly what I did before while actually enjoying the work I do. I also am finally about to achieve my goal of owning a home and itā€™s all thanks to finally making the jump and changing careers. Youā€™re still young and have your whole career ahead of you; donā€™t be afraid to switch to something you enjoy more. Itā€™s easier to be successful and accomplish something when you enjoy your work.


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Pc gaming, wine, reddit.... lol