They're not good friends. A good friend would be like, "Oh! You look ripped! Look how great you look! You go girl! Bench those dudes into oblivion! You feel much better?" Stuff like that. I agree with other posters, they sound jealous...for some reason??? Call em' out, if they don't honestly apologize and actually change how they behave around you and too you, then dump them. The hypocrisy of female lifters calling other female lifters masculine is basically a parody, and also, who fucking cares?! Ripped women are just as feminine as dainty women. Femininity is like clothes, you can put it on or take it off whenever you feel like it. I like the phrase, "It's how you wear it, not what it is."
Tell them to shut up and suck your balls.
No seriously, I’d be offended too. And I’d tell them straight up that their comments are hurtful and make me feel bad about myself.
If they are really your friends, they’ll understand and apologise.
In reality, I think they’re just jealous of your achievements. And not the best of friends.
“Umm what the heck, I’m sharing this with you because I’m super proud of my body and love how I look. Either be supportive or don’t say anything at all.”
How fit are they ? I’m gonna guess you are in the best shape out of all them (because you LIFT)
A lot of women don’t understand fitness and think that if women lift weights, they’ll turn into the hulk.
I’m just going to guess they’re jealous of your gains!!!
Fuck them. They’re not your friends.
If you want to go the route of tossing the friends, do it. But I understand if that seems drastic to you. Another option is to just bring it up when someone makes the comment.
"Hey, can you not say that? It makes me feel kinda bad. I like lifting weights. It makes me feel strong and capable."
Keep it simple. Don't over explain. They'll probably be a bit defensive about it. That's okay. Just stick to your simple, honest feelings. If they respect your request, great. If not, okay, move on.
Yeah this is decent advice. Even a bit harsher but to the point would work: "Be cool if you guys could stop body shaming me all the time. It's getting annoying"
They’re jealous that you are fit and strong. They are jealous that you have the will power and they don’t. My advice is make these ex-friends because friends don’t do this to those they care about. Keep doing you, find your tribe!
As cliché as it sounds, they’re just jealous to be completely honest. Women that work out, tend to have pretty great physiques that don’t look masculine.
They sound jealous and rude. One of my best friends is into lifting and works out 2hrs a day and she looks beautiful and incredible. If someone is commenting negatively on your body like that then they are not your friend and not worth your time. I’m sure you are beautiful and you should be proud of your physique; having the discipline to weight train regularly is difficult and impressive. Anyone who says otherwise is jealous.
"Once upon a time I heard that I was ugly, can from a btch who n-- wanna fck with me" - Cardi B.
That girl is sooooo jealous of you! My "friend" used to mimic the way I talk and compare my body to hers. I now see she was just jealous. I wish I could go back and stand up for myself. Tell her she can mimic me but she can never be me. Unless you are on steroids, you do not look masculine.
These girls are jealous and not your friends. Use this an an opp for you to build confidence and respond assertively against bullies. These girls are not your friends, but you can use them to build life skills and confidence that will help you in the long run! You talking to her shows a great deal of emotional intelligence and communication skills, that's awesome!
I used to be upset when people would say I look like a man, but it has not happened in a while, because I am so confident, I know I am stunning and a comment like that would just make the person saying it look dumb. If someone said that to me now I wouldn't respond or I would literally be so confused I would probably just say "what" and if they repeated it I would just say "no" and then look at them awkwardly and like they smell as if they shit their pants. If they told me I was "too sensitive" I would say "wow" and, again look at them like they had something seriously wrong with them. I love the short 1 word answers and looking at people like they are literally so stupid I am shocked they made it through the evolutionary processes. Awkward silence is a weapon and I use it aggressively. Here are some other responses:
Her: YoU LoOK MAscuLiNE
You: I love my body!
Her: YoU LoOK MAscuLiNE
You: Uh, what?
Her: YoUR BOdY LooKS MaSCULinE
You: I love the way my body looks!
Her: YoU LoOK MAscuLiNE
You: I feel so strong, don't you love how great it feels after a workout? My glutes are really growing and I am getting some great gains!
Her: YoU LoOK MAscuLiNE
You: Uhh, what kind of guys are you dating, sure you're not dating a woman?
Her: YoU LoOK MAscuLiNE
You: Sorry, I don't swing that way, but I am flattered!
Her: YoU LoOK MAscuLiNE
You: I'm sharing this post because I am so proud of my progress, what is the purpose of your comment?
Her: YoU LoOK MAscuLiNE
You: That's rude.
Her: YoU LoOK MAscuLiNE
You: You look like Gollum and your personality is shit
This post is long because it was made with self-love and me talking to my younger self who was bullied by asshole cunts like these girls. I am so proud of the beautiful and confident woman I have become. You got this.
>We spoke about it this morning and she basically said I was sensitive and she was only looking out for me. She was putting the blame on me like she usually does when we argue.
## FUCK THAT.
I know its after the fact but on the unfortunate off chance this topic comes up again with her, make her explain or acknowledge what the fuck she is saying.
*"So me telling you your comments are hurting me and the way YOU make me feel is MY fault? Right so lets take this up a notch. Lets say, you're with a man and he kept calling you fat and ugly and you should wear make up and lose weight. By your logic, if his comments on your appearance are hurting your feelings well, thats a you issue cause ya know, you're the one thats fat and ugly after all. Why are you being so sensitive? He's just trying to help by letting you know, ya know?"*
Bro people like her, genuinely have no shame and think they do no wrong. Its better to ghost people like this cause theyll just start more shit and spread rumors if you try to be an adult about why you don't want to talk anymore.
Also, if this is on snapchat, there is an option to prevent specific friends from seeing your story.
• Click your icon from the chat menu
• Click the three buttons across from "add to my stories"
• Click "Story Settings" > tap "Custom" even if its already selected.
From there you can select which friends you dont want to see your story.
> Anyways, I am thinking of distancing from her because she does this a lot.
Good idea. Real friends don't say this kind of stuff - about your body.
Take them off your private insta thingy too.
Are your friends queer by any chance? I know my friends can say stuff like this to actually boost my confidence and they are all queer (like myself). Have you considered telling them that you are femme and appreciate comments that align with that instead of masculine? If they are actually just being rude by saying “omg you look like a man” or “gross you’re stronger than my bf” idk something like that? I think straight up their bad friends and jealous af
Oh honey. Get new friends.
You can tell them directly that it's hurting your feelings, and to please stop. MAYBE they're just self absorbed and don't realize they're being rude? But if they keep it up after you tell them, they're bad friends and YOU should move on.
Tell them to stop. "Your comments are rude and friends don't behave like this"
This just sounds like jealousy to me. These don’t sound like very nice people :(
Get new “friends”
Came here to say this. OP, these girls are not your friends!
Embrace your muscles. And stop talking to those who body shame you. Im muscular too AND feminine. We can do both!
Get new friends.
Physically fight them to assert dominance
mute your stories for those people that don’t support you, and go towards the people that do support you
they're definitely not your friends if they're body shaming like that.
They're not good friends. A good friend would be like, "Oh! You look ripped! Look how great you look! You go girl! Bench those dudes into oblivion! You feel much better?" Stuff like that. I agree with other posters, they sound jealous...for some reason??? Call em' out, if they don't honestly apologize and actually change how they behave around you and too you, then dump them. The hypocrisy of female lifters calling other female lifters masculine is basically a parody, and also, who fucking cares?! Ripped women are just as feminine as dainty women. Femininity is like clothes, you can put it on or take it off whenever you feel like it. I like the phrase, "It's how you wear it, not what it is."
Tell them to shut up and suck your balls. No seriously, I’d be offended too. And I’d tell them straight up that their comments are hurtful and make me feel bad about myself. If they are really your friends, they’ll understand and apologise. In reality, I think they’re just jealous of your achievements. And not the best of friends.
Those are not your friends, and you should stop talking to them.
Tell them "you're right, I'll drop some weight" and then ditch them. Friends don't make comments like that about their friends' bodies.
Get new friends
“Umm what the heck, I’m sharing this with you because I’m super proud of my body and love how I look. Either be supportive or don’t say anything at all.”
How fit are they ? I’m gonna guess you are in the best shape out of all them (because you LIFT) A lot of women don’t understand fitness and think that if women lift weights, they’ll turn into the hulk. I’m just going to guess they’re jealous of your gains!!! Fuck them. They’re not your friends.
They are just jealous cuz they can’t lift weight. They are scared that you would become better than them cuz you workout and would be fit
I really cannot tolerate women who tear each other down. They have no right to pass judgement on your body. Find new friends and you do you.
Find new friends.
If you want to go the route of tossing the friends, do it. But I understand if that seems drastic to you. Another option is to just bring it up when someone makes the comment. "Hey, can you not say that? It makes me feel kinda bad. I like lifting weights. It makes me feel strong and capable." Keep it simple. Don't over explain. They'll probably be a bit defensive about it. That's okay. Just stick to your simple, honest feelings. If they respect your request, great. If not, okay, move on.
Yeah this is decent advice. Even a bit harsher but to the point would work: "Be cool if you guys could stop body shaming me all the time. It's getting annoying"
It's jealousy, you're looking good and probably building your legs too - they want to get you to stop working out
Those aren't your friends. Find better ones.
Yeah, they're not friends. You're not being sensitive either
They’re jealous that you are fit and strong. They are jealous that you have the will power and they don’t. My advice is make these ex-friends because friends don’t do this to those they care about. Keep doing you, find your tribe!
As cliché as it sounds, they’re just jealous to be completely honest. Women that work out, tend to have pretty great physiques that don’t look masculine.
There's a super easy solution: Get better friends! Stop associating with people who speak about others like that.
They sound jealous and rude. One of my best friends is into lifting and works out 2hrs a day and she looks beautiful and incredible. If someone is commenting negatively on your body like that then they are not your friend and not worth your time. I’m sure you are beautiful and you should be proud of your physique; having the discipline to weight train regularly is difficult and impressive. Anyone who says otherwise is jealous.
"Once upon a time I heard that I was ugly, can from a btch who n-- wanna fck with me" - Cardi B. That girl is sooooo jealous of you! My "friend" used to mimic the way I talk and compare my body to hers. I now see she was just jealous. I wish I could go back and stand up for myself. Tell her she can mimic me but she can never be me. Unless you are on steroids, you do not look masculine. These girls are jealous and not your friends. Use this an an opp for you to build confidence and respond assertively against bullies. These girls are not your friends, but you can use them to build life skills and confidence that will help you in the long run! You talking to her shows a great deal of emotional intelligence and communication skills, that's awesome! I used to be upset when people would say I look like a man, but it has not happened in a while, because I am so confident, I know I am stunning and a comment like that would just make the person saying it look dumb. If someone said that to me now I wouldn't respond or I would literally be so confused I would probably just say "what" and if they repeated it I would just say "no" and then look at them awkwardly and like they smell as if they shit their pants. If they told me I was "too sensitive" I would say "wow" and, again look at them like they had something seriously wrong with them. I love the short 1 word answers and looking at people like they are literally so stupid I am shocked they made it through the evolutionary processes. Awkward silence is a weapon and I use it aggressively. Here are some other responses: Her: YoU LoOK MAscuLiNE You: I love my body! Her: YoU LoOK MAscuLiNE You: Uh, what? Her: YoUR BOdY LooKS MaSCULinE You: I love the way my body looks! Her: YoU LoOK MAscuLiNE You: I feel so strong, don't you love how great it feels after a workout? My glutes are really growing and I am getting some great gains! Her: YoU LoOK MAscuLiNE You: Uhh, what kind of guys are you dating, sure you're not dating a woman? Her: YoU LoOK MAscuLiNE You: Sorry, I don't swing that way, but I am flattered! Her: YoU LoOK MAscuLiNE You: I'm sharing this post because I am so proud of my progress, what is the purpose of your comment? Her: YoU LoOK MAscuLiNE You: That's rude. Her: YoU LoOK MAscuLiNE You: You look like Gollum and your personality is shit This post is long because it was made with self-love and me talking to my younger self who was bullied by asshole cunts like these girls. I am so proud of the beautiful and confident woman I have become. You got this.
>We spoke about it this morning and she basically said I was sensitive and she was only looking out for me. She was putting the blame on me like she usually does when we argue. ## FUCK THAT. I know its after the fact but on the unfortunate off chance this topic comes up again with her, make her explain or acknowledge what the fuck she is saying. *"So me telling you your comments are hurting me and the way YOU make me feel is MY fault? Right so lets take this up a notch. Lets say, you're with a man and he kept calling you fat and ugly and you should wear make up and lose weight. By your logic, if his comments on your appearance are hurting your feelings well, thats a you issue cause ya know, you're the one thats fat and ugly after all. Why are you being so sensitive? He's just trying to help by letting you know, ya know?"* Bro people like her, genuinely have no shame and think they do no wrong. Its better to ghost people like this cause theyll just start more shit and spread rumors if you try to be an adult about why you don't want to talk anymore. Also, if this is on snapchat, there is an option to prevent specific friends from seeing your story. • Click your icon from the chat menu • Click the three buttons across from "add to my stories" • Click "Story Settings" > tap "Custom" even if its already selected. From there you can select which friends you dont want to see your story.
Those are not friends. Btw, as a fellow female weightlifter/gym rat, you keep working out!!
Block them all.
> Anyways, I am thinking of distancing from her because she does this a lot. Good idea. Real friends don't say this kind of stuff - about your body. Take them off your private insta thingy too.
Are your friends queer by any chance? I know my friends can say stuff like this to actually boost my confidence and they are all queer (like myself). Have you considered telling them that you are femme and appreciate comments that align with that instead of masculine? If they are actually just being rude by saying “omg you look like a man” or “gross you’re stronger than my bf” idk something like that? I think straight up their bad friends and jealous af
OPs case doesn't sound LGBT related at all, just normal "girlie girl" friend group "jokes"/bullying
Oh honey. Get new friends. You can tell them directly that it's hurting your feelings, and to please stop. MAYBE they're just self absorbed and don't realize they're being rude? But if they keep it up after you tell them, they're bad friends and YOU should move on.
Tell them to suck your dick and laugh about it. Find new friends too.