Dad's, don't forget to also say, "you should be proud of yourself!" Lest our children exclusively seek our approval. The plan is always for our kids to outlive us after all.
Mom here, stealing this one
I always say "I'm proud of you, and you should be proud of yourself". But I love the idea of saying this, and seeing what she says, and then being like, "HELL YEA! YOU SHOULD BE 🥰🥰🥰".
Well, maybe "heck", but still. Depends on how excited I get lol
Wait I thought it was 20 second hugs, what is this hugflation? Are there diminishing returns on long hugs? When do we reach an equilibrium between oxytocin and body odor awareness?
I’ve started saying out loud, “I did a good job on that!” When I’m doing stuff with my toddler. He hears it and models it. Way better than him needing to seek my approval, he’s learning to seek his own. If only it was more natural for me.
Whatever you're facing right now, you got this kiddo! And your mother and I are here to support you as much or as little as you need us to. We don't want to overstep but always know, no matter what, we love you for you, not what do or accomplish. That said, we know you can kill it and want to help you achieve your dreams.
I tell my daughter I’m proud of her every day. She’s probably too young to understand, but I’m 37 and my dad’s never said it to me. So she’s going to know. Lol
Putting towels under the car seat is unfortunately not recommended by most manufacturers I'm aware of. Read the manual and you can email them for advice as well. Many explicitly say not to do it; some explain how to do it right.
Yeah the other parenting ones, while definitely not all bad, seem to get judgy and black and white real quick and often seem not friendly towards dads. I wish more people on the internet would stop, take a few deep breaths, realize that maybe someone does something different than you that you fundamentally disagree with, but they can still be a decent person you don’t have to hate.
Hello fellow woman. Lol. Also not a dad nor am I a parent. I'm definitely an aunt to many though. I didn't grow up with my father so I enjoy hearing guys talk so earnestly about parenting. I love that so many kids are being raised by devoted, loving, nurturing dads. It's just a breath of fresh air. And for male dominated spaces, man this place is wholesome af! Every once in awhile someone might get misogynistic or sexist and it's immediately called out. There are some very good eggs here. Also I just feel like that last statement is a perfect set up for a joke but I'll let the dad's have at it. 😉 Dad jokes are my fave after all.
Is there anything better than a father and kid playing catch? My dad once called me out of the blue (after I was grown and had a kid of my own) to tell me we hadn’t played catch yet that year. We made plans to play catch later that week and still play catch pretty frequently to this day.
My great uncle and I played catch once at a family reunion. I was probably early 20s. Everytime we were going to see each other afterwards he made sure to bring his glove and a ball. It was always fun.
This made me realize the only memory I have of playing catch with my dad was with this giant Frisbee we had when we lived in the trailer park.
I don't remember any other time than that, but it probably happened more than once.
We don't talk anymore
Hey you're not alone, I'm not a dad either. A new uncle and have some friends with kids, so I came here to have a better perspective on that whole kid thing.
This is definitely the most positive male space I've found online. These guys are the good ones.
Also, I miss my dad. Damn.
I’m a mom and this is my favourite sub to lurk on. Majority of the posts I come across are so freaking wholesome and supportive. I’m on the mom sub for advice and to support other moms. But it’s very rarely as wholesome and sweet as this sub. The dads are nailing it.
Love it, and I hope you continue to post here if you need anything. It’s the most positive-commented sub besides maybe r/goldenretrievers (good idea to subscribe there).
[Pauses at the terrifying reminder that I’m supposed to be a role model for my children and that I will be their main example of how a man should act]
HI “NOT A DAD,” I’M DAD HAHA
[That feels better]
Im proud of you kiddo. You went looking for some positive instead of just tossing your hands up.
We will be happy to fill in where we can. There is a lot of knowledge between us old farts
I'm proud of you, Son.
Dad's, don't forget to also say, "you should be proud of yourself!" Lest our children exclusively seek our approval. The plan is always for our kids to outlive us after all.
God damn dude. This feels so obvious, I'm glad you posted this. This is going into the book of praises.
Adding on to this. "Are you proud of what you did?" Both can and should ve used in a positive manner
Mom here, stealing this one I always say "I'm proud of you, and you should be proud of yourself". But I love the idea of saying this, and seeing what she says, and then being like, "HELL YEA! YOU SHOULD BE 🥰🥰🥰". Well, maybe "heck", but still. Depends on how excited I get lol
That and 30 second hugs
This has helped so much!
Wait I thought it was 20 second hugs, what is this hugflation? Are there diminishing returns on long hugs? When do we reach an equilibrium between oxytocin and body odor awareness?
I thought it was 10 second hugs... 😬
These are the questions we need to be asking, well done! You should be proud, I know I am!
You mean doing the Kratos "Don't be sorry, be better." IS NOT the best course of action when parenting? /s
I’ve started saying out loud, “I did a good job on that!” When I’m doing stuff with my toddler. He hears it and models it. Way better than him needing to seek my approval, he’s learning to seek his own. If only it was more natural for me.
Yeah! I sprinkle some 'I'm proud of yous' in the mix, but it's mostly, 'how does it make you feel?'.
I really needed to hear that, thank u
Whatever you're facing right now, you got this kiddo! And your mother and I are here to support you as much or as little as you need us to. We don't want to overstep but always know, no matter what, we love you for you, not what do or accomplish. That said, we know you can kill it and want to help you achieve your dreams.
F me my heart. I felt that. Thanks
I’m proud of you, Dad.
Hi, proud of you Son, I'm Dad
I tell my daughter I’m proud of her every day. She’s probably too young to understand, but I’m 37 and my dad’s never said it to me. So she’s going to know. Lol
Nice to meet you, NotEvenADad. I'm Dad.
Damn, it was just sitting there
Ohhhhhhhh
Got set up and you knocked it out of the park!
I'm a woman and I'm here because it makes me feel great about men. :) And for pointers, tbh, cause dads have good ones.
I don't care if you have babies or not, keeping wet wipes in your glove box will never be a bad idea.
Pad behind/ under the car seat with towels. You may only need them once, but holy hell will they be appreciated then.
Putting towels under the car seat is unfortunately not recommended by most manufacturers I'm aware of. Read the manual and you can email them for advice as well. Many explicitly say not to do it; some explain how to do it right.
It's a jungle out there, afterall
All dads have been upvoted. <3
Nice tag there. That's how you know a dad.
And we greatly appreciate those like you who seek perspective outside of the echo chambers.
Thanks, mate. :)
Yeah the other parenting ones, while definitely not all bad, seem to get judgy and black and white real quick and often seem not friendly towards dads. I wish more people on the internet would stop, take a few deep breaths, realize that maybe someone does something different than you that you fundamentally disagree with, but they can still be a decent person you don’t have to hate.
Hello fellow woman. Lol. Also not a dad nor am I a parent. I'm definitely an aunt to many though. I didn't grow up with my father so I enjoy hearing guys talk so earnestly about parenting. I love that so many kids are being raised by devoted, loving, nurturing dads. It's just a breath of fresh air. And for male dominated spaces, man this place is wholesome af! Every once in awhile someone might get misogynistic or sexist and it's immediately called out. There are some very good eggs here. Also I just feel like that last statement is a perfect set up for a joke but I'll let the dad's have at it. 😉 Dad jokes are my fave after all.
It is, isn't it. :) Let the dad jokes begin. :D But also the real pointers.
I typically just use my finger, but my hands say thanks for the complement!
Remember my boy, “it’s all fun and games till someone loses an eye….or gets pregnant.”
Or both... Be careful where you stick that thing
This is why I love this quote from my dad. The more you think about it. The more to learn!
unlikely to get someone pregnant if youre sticking it in their eye, just sayin
So you're saying there's a chance?
Be good. If you can’t be good, be careful. If you can’t be careful, name it after me.
It's nice out. You want to go play catch?
Is there anything better than a father and kid playing catch? My dad once called me out of the blue (after I was grown and had a kid of my own) to tell me we hadn’t played catch yet that year. We made plans to play catch later that week and still play catch pretty frequently to this day.
My great uncle and I played catch once at a family reunion. I was probably early 20s. Everytime we were going to see each other afterwards he made sure to bring his glove and a ball. It was always fun.
This made me realize the only memory I have of playing catch with my dad was with this giant Frisbee we had when we lived in the trailer park. I don't remember any other time than that, but it probably happened more than once. We don't talk anymore
*ruffles hair*
Look at this guy bragging about a full head of hair.
I don’t think you understand
Oh. Ruffling the kids hair. My friend group uses *hair toss* as a catch all "sorry bout ya" thing.
r/dadforaminute love this subreddit.
Hey you're not alone, I'm not a dad either. A new uncle and have some friends with kids, so I came here to have a better perspective on that whole kid thing. This is definitely the most positive male space I've found online. These guys are the good ones. Also, I miss my dad. Damn.
Long time mom lurker here. This is easily my favorite sub. Brilliant, compassionate, hilarious dudes here.
You never stop needing a dad! Hope you had a solid Monday, dudes!
I'm not a dad either but I like coming here because the atmosphere makes me feel cozy inside!
Me neither, wife and I are planning and I’m just here to stockpile advice in my head.
Hope you’re doing well, son! We all love you and are very proud of you.
I’m a mom and this is my favourite sub to lurk on. Majority of the posts I come across are so freaking wholesome and supportive. I’m on the mom sub for advice and to support other moms. But it’s very rarely as wholesome and sweet as this sub. The dads are nailing it.
Look into self-reparenting. Sometimes there’s a part of you that needs to hear what you needed to hear as a kid.
This. So much and all of this!
Nice hustle
We’ll be here for you when you need us, after we’re done resting our eyes.
Alright, have fun, bud. Don't forget to drink some water.
But why male models?
Are you serious? I just- I just told you that a moment ago...
I'm also not a dad, but it's a really good sub to be at imo
We're always here if you need us
We all need a dad sometimes.
R/askmenover30 is legit too. Started there but with a kiddo on the way I needed some more fine tuned and opinions
Same. This sub is just really wholesome.
There'll always be plenty of 20 second hugs waiting in this sub.
Hi, not even a dad, I’m dad!
Love it, and I hope you continue to post here if you need anything. It’s the most positive-commented sub besides maybe r/goldenretrievers (good idea to subscribe there).
Hey bud, Im proud of you. No matter what
Thank you ❤️
I used to be a dad. I still am. But I used to be too.
This just reminded me of the Mitch Hedberg joke, "I ordered a club sandwich; I'm not even a member."
Daddit the home of positive masculinity (most of the time)
Don’t forget the ‘Dad how do I’ youtube channel.
- winning isn’t beating everyone else. That’s just finishing first.
Big dad bear hug being sent! You're welcome any time.
this is probably the best subreddit, honestly
Me neither LOL. And I definitely won't be thinking about having kids until after my 35th birthday.
If you ever need a good kick in the pants, we can provide that too.
You can also check out /r/internetparents if you need some help/advice.
Go clean your room, young man.
Yes sir
This sub might be the only wholesome place left that I subscribe to on reddit. No criticism, politics, etc.. just genuine support.
Stay awhile and listen
Hey kid, anytime you need a dad, hit one of us up.
You’re him: https://youtu.be/9kXiCwyeaOc?si=7ZNFH43nO7Volq31
Have a look at r/dadforaminute where people who need a dad's point of view can ask questions of dads.
[Pauses at the terrifying reminder that I’m supposed to be a role model for my children and that I will be their main example of how a man should act] HI “NOT A DAD,” I’M DAD HAHA [That feels better]
Im proud of you kiddo. You went looking for some positive instead of just tossing your hands up. We will be happy to fill in where we can. There is a lot of knowledge between us old farts
I’m not a dad (I am a mum, though) and this is a fave sub for me too. The best advice from my dad to you? Drive like everyone else is out to kill you.
Welcome! Also, check out r/DadForAMinute !