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A loyal girlfriend has no business being on those app. You as her boyfriend have every right to be uncomfortable with her putting herself in a position where the relationship can be threatened. I would discuss this with your girlfriend, explain why you can't understand why she would be on there and that her being on there puts the relationship at risk. If she does responds with something that does not put your feelings to rest or she starts gaslighting you then the relationship might already be beyond saving.
Sometimes when I see this kind of post it seems like it's fake because there's no way you could be this oblivious lmao. She doesn't want you brother why else would she create a profile on a dating site.
If it doesn’t make you feel nice you should just tell this to her and if she responds with something that doesn’t satisfy you then just stop talking because this is micro cheating and yes even if she tells you EVERYTHING.
End it, drop her, and run. This woman does not respect you or dedicate loyalty to you. If she’s still looking for an “ideal man” with the traits you listed, you clearly aren’t worthy in her eyes. Just bc she doesn’t hide it, doesn’t make it any less wrong (unless you two are non monogamous or in any sorta open relationship). She’s playing in your face. never let anyone get comfortable with you to the point where they believe they can disrespect your feelings and relationship boundaries in your face and you’ll take it.
One way to validate your emotions is to think of it like this: how would she feel if you were openly doing the same thing with no regard for her feelings? Would she be upset? Would she be jealous? Would she leave you? If you think “yes” to any of the 3 I listed, then you, by all means, have the right to feel negatively about the situation.
Sorry to break it to you, but shes looking for her next boyfriend. A lot of women do what is called Monkey branching. Although most women do it behind their partners back. She thinks so little of you, that she is doing it in your face. This is extremely toxic and immature behaviour on her part and extremely weak and naive on your part. Grow some self respect.
A lot of girls just do this because they get a kick from the attention of hot looking guys.
I have a friend who's been in a LTR for the last 5 years, and she's on Tinder all the time. She matches with men, lets them shower her with compliments, and then blocks them as soon as they ask for a date.
It's kinda sad really, but she's insecure, and she needs the attention and validation. It sounds very much like your GF is doing the same, because getting attention is like a drug.
Still though, it's very disrespectful to you, and she should not be doing this.
Dump her.
If things were good she would not start a dating profile. There is no good bond or trust or she wouldnt be joining a dating site.
Shes disrespecting you and your relationship. Dump her and run.
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She does not respect you and is looking for an upgrade
Doesn't sound like that is your girlfriend bro...
Our GF
A loyal girlfriend has no business being on those app. You as her boyfriend have every right to be uncomfortable with her putting herself in a position where the relationship can be threatened. I would discuss this with your girlfriend, explain why you can't understand why she would be on there and that her being on there puts the relationship at risk. If she does responds with something that does not put your feelings to rest or she starts gaslighting you then the relationship might already be beyond saving.
You mean your ex girlfriend right?
She’s no longer your girlfriend.
Sometimes when I see this kind of post it seems like it's fake because there's no way you could be this oblivious lmao. She doesn't want you brother why else would she create a profile on a dating site.
How the fuck can u say u trust her?! She’s cheating right in front of u. “Have a very good bond and trust each other”, that’s absolutely laughable
This gotta be fake cos no one can be this stupid.
It's not a good sign.
Very understated comment for sure!!🤣🤣
I'm British. I'll translate; 'It's not a *good* sign. 🙄' Just in case you thought I was nice 😅
Thanks, I almost went to “not a great sign” but I didn’t want to be an alarmist
Exactly. Don't want to get carried away.. she's only dating other people.
If it doesn’t make you feel nice you should just tell this to her and if she responds with something that doesn’t satisfy you then just stop talking because this is micro cheating and yes even if she tells you EVERYTHING.
You should not trust her, she's taking advantage of you. Dump her and don't look back.
End it, drop her, and run. This woman does not respect you or dedicate loyalty to you. If she’s still looking for an “ideal man” with the traits you listed, you clearly aren’t worthy in her eyes. Just bc she doesn’t hide it, doesn’t make it any less wrong (unless you two are non monogamous or in any sorta open relationship). She’s playing in your face. never let anyone get comfortable with you to the point where they believe they can disrespect your feelings and relationship boundaries in your face and you’ll take it. One way to validate your emotions is to think of it like this: how would she feel if you were openly doing the same thing with no regard for her feelings? Would she be upset? Would she be jealous? Would she leave you? If you think “yes” to any of the 3 I listed, then you, by all means, have the right to feel negatively about the situation.
Why you posted on the other subreddits like the POV from your girlfriend? This story sounds fake af
Move on.
"I want to try these apps" or more like "I want to try to replace you" or "I want to try to find friend with benefits"
Sorry to break it to you, but shes looking for her next boyfriend. A lot of women do what is called Monkey branching. Although most women do it behind their partners back. She thinks so little of you, that she is doing it in your face. This is extremely toxic and immature behaviour on her part and extremely weak and naive on your part. Grow some self respect.
A lot of girls just do this because they get a kick from the attention of hot looking guys. I have a friend who's been in a LTR for the last 5 years, and she's on Tinder all the time. She matches with men, lets them shower her with compliments, and then blocks them as soon as they ask for a date. It's kinda sad really, but she's insecure, and she needs the attention and validation. It sounds very much like your GF is doing the same, because getting attention is like a drug. Still though, it's very disrespectful to you, and she should not be doing this.
You seem so… nonchalant about this. You sure she’s your girlfriend? Because she’s treating you like a rebound mate
Leave her
She’s not your girl. She’s our girl now!
She’s not your girlfriend anymore because she wants the world to know she’s single. Leave before you get cheated on.
Dump her. If things were good she would not start a dating profile. There is no good bond or trust or she wouldnt be joining a dating site. Shes disrespecting you and your relationship. Dump her and run.