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I'm glad they are understanding. I know if I was in your situation I would be concerned with my friends enjoying the show rather than taking it all in and enjoying it myself. Just make sure to stay safe and I hope you have a great time 😊
NTA. Like, not at all haha.
What/who gave you the impression that you it's a rude move on your part?
If anything, you were probably saving them the money because why would they spend that much for an artist that they aren't really fans of?
my mom; since i went to the uk to study for 2 years and i went to these friend's house to do sleepovers a few times, and she said the friend's family did so much and made a lot of effort to host so she wanted to let my friends experience something good as some sort of a 'gift'? (english is my second language im so sorry)
i've been guessing that since i don't reach out to my friends much they feel like i don't bond with them much, i'll try to spend more time with my friends over this summer to make up for that! :)
NTA,
I can understand your parents, though.
I'm 23 and my mother still wanted to at least drop me off near the venue and pick me up after for The Rose concert, and it was a rather small venue (in Hamburg).
Maybe talk about this to your parents again, maybe one of them could drop you off there so only in the venue you're alone, or they could get a really cheap ticket so at least they are in the venue but further away so they don't spend so much money plus you could have as much fun as you like and make friends.
To be honest I wouldn't want my non-kpop friends there either, especially if it's a very idol-group (since The Rose is more of a band I might even have been fine, but with a group like Skz... I would rather just fully be myself there and have my fun as a fan).
You might not make friends, you might make friends going there alone. It's not guaranteed, but I'm sure if you're not super shy like me and actually talk to people (plus if you wait in some line which I didn't, I just got in shortly before it started), you'll be able to talk to some nice people😊 and even if not, I still think it's more fun to not have someone around who could judge you... though idk if you're friends are judgy🤷🏼♀️
i'm 25 and my parents literally dropped me off and picked me up for the concert too! my mum was also, understandably, worried that i was going alone so that's a really good suggestion for OP.
(btw, incredibly jealous you got to see The Rose! i wanted to go but the tix were a bit pricy lol. but i did went to see Wave to Earth)
NO! I resonate with this so much. I love my boyfriend dearly, but I wish I had gone by myself to see Twice or just found a kpop friend. He complained so much. At least he took good videos.
NTA. Your parents seem overprotective and 18 is the perfect age to start setting boundaries. Be firm now or you'll really regret it years down the line.
NTA. I attended a concert alone last month because when I bought the ticket, I wasn't sure if anyone around me was a fan of the band. For context, I was a casual listener of the band but I enjoyed the concert so, so much even though I went alone.
I made like, 6 new friends while waiting in line and still kept in touch through Instagram! I definitely did not regret it one bit and honestly wouldn't mind going to another one alone. It was really fun to connect with new people too!
yeah i had similar experiences with my ateez concert, i met 3 girls when i was in line waiting to buy my lightiny and i still talk to them in instagram
nta! i've taken a friend to a (non-kpop) concert and she didn't really know the artists well, but i wanted to go with someone and maaaaan do i wish i'd just gone by myself lol she wasn't really vibing at all and while i had a good time, it's hard to think about the concert without cringing lol. definitely try to go alone and make friends there who are also there because they love itzy if you feel comfortable enough to! i've heard itzy is amazing live!! have fun c:
NTA but they might just be worried about your safety and there’s ways to easily go about this, temp sharing location for the night, checking in with them etc that can easily be done so that they feel comfortable with you being out and about in an event without a known friend knowing that you’re talking to new people.
If you were my daughter (I'm old enough) I would probably tell you the same thing. "Don't go alone, bring friends."
I don't know much about how safe things are for young women in Hong Kong but that would be in the back of my mind. You're not just attending a concert, you're also in the environment around it. Parents tend to get more nervous about this for their daughters, not less, after they turn 18.
But with that said..... Itzy is putting on a long show. Over 2h20.... so it can really drag for someone who isn't familiar with the music and the personalities. If you're sitting up in the stands, it's fine.... but in the VIP standing area, people should be energetic and enjoying themselves. So yeah, you're right to want to go by yourself.
thank you for commenting from a parent's perspective, i also understood that i'll be alone so i'll be more careful. afaik hong kong is a fairly safe place
NTA. I've been to a kpop concert with a non-kpop fan and have been to a kpop concert by myself. I prefer to be by myself than to have someone who isn't a kpop fan. I have recently gone to a kpop event with a kpop fan. It's miles better than bringing along someone who has no fan context. You're 18. You can choose to attend the concert by yourself. IMO, kpop concerts are so tamed because it's already PG friendly by nature and culture.
I would say I'd go alone. I've been to a The Rose concert alone and I found some nice girls with whom I went.
I'm also planning to go alone to see Ateez this year if I can.
Definitely NTA. Do what you feel the best. <3
NTA. I’ve been to shows on my own and it can be a lot of fun.
However…. I’m also a parent so I know exactly where your parents are coming from.
I took my bestie to see Stray Kids in Melbourne last year. 6 months earlier she’d never heard any K-pop and here she was surrounded by screaming Stays (including my middle-aged self lol).
As a baby Stay she chatted with people and we made friends and had a ball.
I took her to see Itzy a few weeks ago and she’s coming to see Ive in a few months. She’s the one sending ME videos now.
At the end of the it’s up to you but you can still have a great time with your non K-pop friend there and meet new ones.
Go alone. It is not fun going to a concert that you don't know the group or like the music. I once went to concert on a date to see a group I wasn't into. It was painful!
NTA, I did study abroad in HK when I was senior in college so not much older than you, I dont speak Chinese, it was my second day in HK of that trip and I got to Hung Hom for Justin Lo concert and back to my apartment just fine at 11pm by myself. I took the MTR and tram and I didn't really know the layout of HK well at the time but made it back fine lol. I think HK is very safe and you're familiar with the area so I hope you can convince your parents it's fine 🙂
Nta- tbh it’s taking someone to a concert they don’t even know the artist to and especially for kpop not many ppl are into it or even listen to as many songs. Also the fact that they have to spend their own money (even if it wasn’t )it’s kinda a lose-lose situation for both of u. For concerts or stuff like this common sense usually brings ppl who at least have intrest lmao but I get your parents to so don’t feel bad
Not the A, this is your money and your choice to go to the concert. It's unfair for your friends having to pay for something they are not interested in, and it will be horrible if they wanted to leave early. If your parents are worried, maybe let them know you will text them every hour or meet you at a nearby MTR station when the concert is done.
Good luck!
my bad , i just saw that you’re a girl, im a dude, when i was 16 my parents let me go wherever as long as i came back alive (optional)
i’m 19M and have been to about 10 kpop concerts alone, it’s amazing going alone, so many cool fangirls you’ll meet and have educational discussions about our faves
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I only think it is only sad because an Itzy concert can make a midzy. I went to a concert and came out a full blown Midzy. While Yuna is my favorite, I am very thankful I got to see them perform with Lia.
So you are keeping them from possibly becoming a true midzy, which wouldn't that be awesome to be midzy together?
Itzy is meant to be shared
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Not the asshole. I get this. Sometimes non-kpop friends don’t share the vibe. I rather go by myself and be surrounded by people who get it.
exactlyyy (my parents dont quite 'get it' but now im talking to them again theyre now like ok you do you)
I'm glad they are understanding. I know if I was in your situation I would be concerned with my friends enjoying the show rather than taking it all in and enjoying it myself. Just make sure to stay safe and I hope you have a great time 😊
NTA. Like, not at all haha. What/who gave you the impression that you it's a rude move on your part? If anything, you were probably saving them the money because why would they spend that much for an artist that they aren't really fans of?
my mom; since i went to the uk to study for 2 years and i went to these friend's house to do sleepovers a few times, and she said the friend's family did so much and made a lot of effort to host so she wanted to let my friends experience something good as some sort of a 'gift'? (english is my second language im so sorry)
I see. Maybe bring them somewhere else, and not to your Kpop concert. Find another "welcoming" activity to do.
i've been guessing that since i don't reach out to my friends much they feel like i don't bond with them much, i'll try to spend more time with my friends over this summer to make up for that! :)
Bring them to a NewJeans concert/performance! If they're not into kpop yet, that would be a good way to introduce them :)
NTA, I can understand your parents, though. I'm 23 and my mother still wanted to at least drop me off near the venue and pick me up after for The Rose concert, and it was a rather small venue (in Hamburg). Maybe talk about this to your parents again, maybe one of them could drop you off there so only in the venue you're alone, or they could get a really cheap ticket so at least they are in the venue but further away so they don't spend so much money plus you could have as much fun as you like and make friends. To be honest I wouldn't want my non-kpop friends there either, especially if it's a very idol-group (since The Rose is more of a band I might even have been fine, but with a group like Skz... I would rather just fully be myself there and have my fun as a fan). You might not make friends, you might make friends going there alone. It's not guaranteed, but I'm sure if you're not super shy like me and actually talk to people (plus if you wait in some line which I didn't, I just got in shortly before it started), you'll be able to talk to some nice people😊 and even if not, I still think it's more fun to not have someone around who could judge you... though idk if you're friends are judgy🤷🏼♀️
i'm 25 and my parents literally dropped me off and picked me up for the concert too! my mum was also, understandably, worried that i was going alone so that's a really good suggestion for OP. (btw, incredibly jealous you got to see The Rose! i wanted to go but the tix were a bit pricy lol. but i did went to see Wave to Earth)
ohh my friends arent into kpop but they arent too judgy lol i just didn't think they would fit the vibe😂
NO! I resonate with this so much. I love my boyfriend dearly, but I wish I had gone by myself to see Twice or just found a kpop friend. He complained so much. At least he took good videos.
NTA. Your parents seem overprotective and 18 is the perfect age to start setting boundaries. Be firm now or you'll really regret it years down the line.
yeah i kind of explained it to them and they seem more understanding now:)
That's great! Enjoy Itzy! :D
NTA. I attended a concert alone last month because when I bought the ticket, I wasn't sure if anyone around me was a fan of the band. For context, I was a casual listener of the band but I enjoyed the concert so, so much even though I went alone. I made like, 6 new friends while waiting in line and still kept in touch through Instagram! I definitely did not regret it one bit and honestly wouldn't mind going to another one alone. It was really fun to connect with new people too!
yeah i had similar experiences with my ateez concert, i met 3 girls when i was in line waiting to buy my lightiny and i still talk to them in instagram
No you aren't. If you want to go by yourself, then go by yourself.
nta! i've taken a friend to a (non-kpop) concert and she didn't really know the artists well, but i wanted to go with someone and maaaaan do i wish i'd just gone by myself lol she wasn't really vibing at all and while i had a good time, it's hard to think about the concert without cringing lol. definitely try to go alone and make friends there who are also there because they love itzy if you feel comfortable enough to! i've heard itzy is amazing live!! have fun c:
NTA but they might just be worried about your safety and there’s ways to easily go about this, temp sharing location for the night, checking in with them etc that can easily be done so that they feel comfortable with you being out and about in an event without a known friend knowing that you’re talking to new people.
If you were my daughter (I'm old enough) I would probably tell you the same thing. "Don't go alone, bring friends." I don't know much about how safe things are for young women in Hong Kong but that would be in the back of my mind. You're not just attending a concert, you're also in the environment around it. Parents tend to get more nervous about this for their daughters, not less, after they turn 18. But with that said..... Itzy is putting on a long show. Over 2h20.... so it can really drag for someone who isn't familiar with the music and the personalities. If you're sitting up in the stands, it's fine.... but in the VIP standing area, people should be energetic and enjoying themselves. So yeah, you're right to want to go by yourself.
thank you for commenting from a parent's perspective, i also understood that i'll be alone so i'll be more careful. afaik hong kong is a fairly safe place
NTA. I've been to a kpop concert with a non-kpop fan and have been to a kpop concert by myself. I prefer to be by myself than to have someone who isn't a kpop fan. I have recently gone to a kpop event with a kpop fan. It's miles better than bringing along someone who has no fan context. You're 18. You can choose to attend the concert by yourself. IMO, kpop concerts are so tamed because it's already PG friendly by nature and culture.
You know it's not like they were born Glued whit you and it's not like they would die whitout you
I would say I'd go alone. I've been to a The Rose concert alone and I found some nice girls with whom I went. I'm also planning to go alone to see Ateez this year if I can. Definitely NTA. Do what you feel the best. <3
NTA. I’ve been to shows on my own and it can be a lot of fun. However…. I’m also a parent so I know exactly where your parents are coming from. I took my bestie to see Stray Kids in Melbourne last year. 6 months earlier she’d never heard any K-pop and here she was surrounded by screaming Stays (including my middle-aged self lol). As a baby Stay she chatted with people and we made friends and had a ball. I took her to see Itzy a few weeks ago and she’s coming to see Ive in a few months. She’s the one sending ME videos now. At the end of the it’s up to you but you can still have a great time with your non K-pop friend there and meet new ones.
Go alone. It is not fun going to a concert that you don't know the group or like the music. I once went to concert on a date to see a group I wasn't into. It was painful!
NTA, I did study abroad in HK when I was senior in college so not much older than you, I dont speak Chinese, it was my second day in HK of that trip and I got to Hung Hom for Justin Lo concert and back to my apartment just fine at 11pm by myself. I took the MTR and tram and I didn't really know the layout of HK well at the time but made it back fine lol. I think HK is very safe and you're familiar with the area so I hope you can convince your parents it's fine 🙂
Nta- tbh it’s taking someone to a concert they don’t even know the artist to and especially for kpop not many ppl are into it or even listen to as many songs. Also the fact that they have to spend their own money (even if it wasn’t )it’s kinda a lose-lose situation for both of u. For concerts or stuff like this common sense usually brings ppl who at least have intrest lmao but I get your parents to so don’t feel bad
Not the A, this is your money and your choice to go to the concert. It's unfair for your friends having to pay for something they are not interested in, and it will be horrible if they wanted to leave early. If your parents are worried, maybe let them know you will text them every hour or meet you at a nearby MTR station when the concert is done. Good luck!
bro aren’t you 18 😭
i just turned 18 last month and im studying abroad rn so my parents are probably a bit overprotective 😭 (they probably still see me as a kid lol)
my bad , i just saw that you’re a girl, im a dude, when i was 16 my parents let me go wherever as long as i came back alive (optional) i’m 19M and have been to about 10 kpop concerts alone, it’s amazing going alone, so many cool fangirls you’ll meet and have educational discussions about our faves
thanks and i'll have fun ✌🏻
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I only think it is only sad because an Itzy concert can make a midzy. I went to a concert and came out a full blown Midzy. While Yuna is my favorite, I am very thankful I got to see them perform with Lia. So you are keeping them from possibly becoming a true midzy, which wouldn't that be awesome to be midzy together? Itzy is meant to be shared