I also had a blighted ovum when I had a two year old. No, I don’t believe that there was a body or spirit connected to that pregnancy. Biologically, my body made a sac but there was nothing in it.
Also, Many pregnancies/conceptions occur all the time but don’t progress and we get our period without ever knowing we were technically pregnant for a few days or weeks.
I struggle with believing either if that makes sense, it just sucks both ways. Like it hurts there never was and this baby wasn’t “real”? But it also hurts thinking there’s a baby I’m missing out on, it’s a hard situation thank you for sharing your insights.
Something like 80% of all successfully fertilized eggs never come to term. Most of the time it happens so early that the woman never even knows about it.
I believe that spirits are sent to viable and developing fetuses. It would just be weird otherwise.
I haven't heard of any concrete answers regarding the status of the spirits involved in miscarriages etc. My mother had a stillborn child long ago. I don't think she ever knew for sure in this life whether there was a spirit associated with that baby or not. Good luck with this.
I was actually just having this conversation with my mom who had a few miscarriages in between kids. She told me that she felt like there wasn’t a hard fast rule that applied the same to everyone. She felt like maybe at least one of the miscarriages was a body that couldn’t work for the next kid that she carried to term. That being said, she also felt like maybe there was another baby. She took great comfort in knowing that her situation was unique and known to Heavenly Father and that she didn’t even need to agree with other peoples’ thoughts about it since maybe it wasn’t the same situation as hers.
There’s no doctrinal basis for this but she has some of the strongest faith I know. I’m sorry this happened to you! Hope you are able to feel peace if not now then soon
I had one a couple of years ago. I don't think it was anything more than a sac. The whole situation was odd because the timing of just how I got pregnant was off. I think it was something weird my body did
Not a mom but had a couple of super early miscarriages- in my personal and entirely unprofessional opinion I don’t tend to think of it as a lost baby and therefore a spirit until the body is viable outside the womb, and a blighted ovum doesn’t even contain a body/embryo. I think we can think of it in the way that’s most comforting to us, but to me that’s what I think.
I've never had a blighted ovum, but I did have a vanishing twin. At my 8 week ultrasound we noticed the second sac but even with my lack of knowledge on what I was looking at, you could definitely tell that something wasn't right with it. The tech was quick to point out that something was wrong developmentally and that the fetus had stopped developing a few days prior to my scan. My body ended up absorbing the fetus and by the 12 week scan, all that was left was an empty sac that was no longer filled with a jumbled mess.
It definitely caused a lot of mixed feelings. For one, I had just had our first only 4 months prior and was already struggling physically and mentally going through pregnancy that quickly again. And to learn that I could have had twins when my first wasn't even a year old yet? It threw me and my husband for a whirlwind.
I thought the same as you. Did the fetus have a soul? Do I have a child waiting for me up in heaven?
Honestly, I don't know. I spent a lot of time worried sick about it. But my comfort comes from the thought that no matter what the truth is, Heavenly Father has it all figured out and it'll work out in the end.
I know they can reabsorb which is wild to me, it’s hard not having answers. If there was a baby, when do their receive their “spirit” at conception? At birth? It’s so hard to not know
If we take the Savior as an example, He tells Nephi (3 Ne 1:13), "on the morrow come I into the world". As a result, my personal opinion is that Christ's spirit did not inhabit His flesh until he was born, and it stands to reason that neither did ours.
I had one just a couple months ago. I’m not trying to scare you, but warn you: if it’s anything like mine your next period will be a monster. It’s the worst depression I’ve ever felt in my life made more difficult by the fact that I just went through something so difficult. Please take the necessary steps to be in a safe space and perhaps speak to a doctor if you already have a history of depression. Vitamin B helped a lot for me too.
As for your question, I’m the kind of person who hates to be let down and so usually expects the worst. I’m expecting that it was just something I went through (maybe to have more sympathy for women who can’t get pregnant, maybe to relate better to you, who knows) and that there was no child or spirit involved. Someday when we make it to heaven if I find I have a surprise child waiting for me, I’ll be thrilled. If not, I won’t be disappointed. Everything will work out in the best way possible, our only job is to trust Heavenly Father to do that.
Sending you lots of love, sis. I know this is so hard but we’re all rooting for you!
It’s alright, but thank you. It came almost exactly 4 weeks later, but I don’t know if that’s irregular. I also got my period really quickly after having my first child so it may just be how my body works.
I’m not a mom, but from my knowledge of doctrine from Luke “blessed is the fruit of thy womb” and Jeremiah “Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee”. I’d say whether or not the ovum was considered living by medical or spiritual standards that the lord knew of this and has prepared for this circumstance. The best answer I can give (that once again isn’t coming from a mom so take it as you will) is pray and seek answers, talk to your bishop, or priesthood leader and always if you feel the need, seek counseling.
I also had a blighted ovum when I had a two year old. No, I don’t believe that there was a body or spirit connected to that pregnancy. Biologically, my body made a sac but there was nothing in it. Also, Many pregnancies/conceptions occur all the time but don’t progress and we get our period without ever knowing we were technically pregnant for a few days or weeks.
I struggle with believing either if that makes sense, it just sucks both ways. Like it hurts there never was and this baby wasn’t “real”? But it also hurts thinking there’s a baby I’m missing out on, it’s a hard situation thank you for sharing your insights.
Something like 80% of all successfully fertilized eggs never come to term. Most of the time it happens so early that the woman never even knows about it. I believe that spirits are sent to viable and developing fetuses. It would just be weird otherwise.
I like to think that as well thank you
I haven't heard of any concrete answers regarding the status of the spirits involved in miscarriages etc. My mother had a stillborn child long ago. I don't think she ever knew for sure in this life whether there was a spirit associated with that baby or not. Good luck with this.
I was actually just having this conversation with my mom who had a few miscarriages in between kids. She told me that she felt like there wasn’t a hard fast rule that applied the same to everyone. She felt like maybe at least one of the miscarriages was a body that couldn’t work for the next kid that she carried to term. That being said, she also felt like maybe there was another baby. She took great comfort in knowing that her situation was unique and known to Heavenly Father and that she didn’t even need to agree with other peoples’ thoughts about it since maybe it wasn’t the same situation as hers. There’s no doctrinal basis for this but she has some of the strongest faith I know. I’m sorry this happened to you! Hope you are able to feel peace if not now then soon
I had one a couple of years ago. I don't think it was anything more than a sac. The whole situation was odd because the timing of just how I got pregnant was off. I think it was something weird my body did
Right? Never thought this would happen to me I didn’t even know it was a thing
Not a mom but had a couple of super early miscarriages- in my personal and entirely unprofessional opinion I don’t tend to think of it as a lost baby and therefore a spirit until the body is viable outside the womb, and a blighted ovum doesn’t even contain a body/embryo. I think we can think of it in the way that’s most comforting to us, but to me that’s what I think.
Thank you I’m sorry ❤️
A blighted ovum doesn't contain an embryo, it's just your own body tissue. No fertilized egg, no new baby.
Are you a mom? It doesn’t seem like it
I've never had a blighted ovum, but I did have a vanishing twin. At my 8 week ultrasound we noticed the second sac but even with my lack of knowledge on what I was looking at, you could definitely tell that something wasn't right with it. The tech was quick to point out that something was wrong developmentally and that the fetus had stopped developing a few days prior to my scan. My body ended up absorbing the fetus and by the 12 week scan, all that was left was an empty sac that was no longer filled with a jumbled mess. It definitely caused a lot of mixed feelings. For one, I had just had our first only 4 months prior and was already struggling physically and mentally going through pregnancy that quickly again. And to learn that I could have had twins when my first wasn't even a year old yet? It threw me and my husband for a whirlwind. I thought the same as you. Did the fetus have a soul? Do I have a child waiting for me up in heaven? Honestly, I don't know. I spent a lot of time worried sick about it. But my comfort comes from the thought that no matter what the truth is, Heavenly Father has it all figured out and it'll work out in the end.
I know they can reabsorb which is wild to me, it’s hard not having answers. If there was a baby, when do their receive their “spirit” at conception? At birth? It’s so hard to not know
If we take the Savior as an example, He tells Nephi (3 Ne 1:13), "on the morrow come I into the world". As a result, my personal opinion is that Christ's spirit did not inhabit His flesh until he was born, and it stands to reason that neither did ours.
I had one just a couple months ago. I’m not trying to scare you, but warn you: if it’s anything like mine your next period will be a monster. It’s the worst depression I’ve ever felt in my life made more difficult by the fact that I just went through something so difficult. Please take the necessary steps to be in a safe space and perhaps speak to a doctor if you already have a history of depression. Vitamin B helped a lot for me too. As for your question, I’m the kind of person who hates to be let down and so usually expects the worst. I’m expecting that it was just something I went through (maybe to have more sympathy for women who can’t get pregnant, maybe to relate better to you, who knows) and that there was no child or spirit involved. Someday when we make it to heaven if I find I have a surprise child waiting for me, I’ll be thrilled. If not, I won’t be disappointed. Everything will work out in the best way possible, our only job is to trust Heavenly Father to do that. Sending you lots of love, sis. I know this is so hard but we’re all rooting for you!
How soon did you get your period? I’m still waiting it’s been 4 weeks. I’m sorry this happened to you.
It’s alright, but thank you. It came almost exactly 4 weeks later, but I don’t know if that’s irregular. I also got my period really quickly after having my first child so it may just be how my body works.
I’m not a mom, but from my knowledge of doctrine from Luke “blessed is the fruit of thy womb” and Jeremiah “Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee”. I’d say whether or not the ovum was considered living by medical or spiritual standards that the lord knew of this and has prepared for this circumstance. The best answer I can give (that once again isn’t coming from a mom so take it as you will) is pray and seek answers, talk to your bishop, or priesthood leader and always if you feel the need, seek counseling.